Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

I have ' achieved' raising a child, having a solid and blessed marriage.my Dp is my best friend. Having a beautiful clean home with daily cooked meals. is that wrong of me?

Jenna dear, come off it.

Do you really need people to explain why they work?

I have a theory that an awful lot of sahms were never that bothered about their career in the first place, and just marking time until they had children.

Which is absolutely fine as long as all directly concerned are happy. I just find it hard to believe it was much of a sacrifice.

Alright then grim. I'll withdraw that particular pointy stick. But only that one, ok?

"so DH will be SAHD while I bring home the salary" - unnatural perverts There are things yoru DH can;t do you know... like... well I'm single so I don;t know but he definitely can;t do something

there are no ppl here.

there are only people.

Hmm, stepford wife springs to mind.

Well, if you're well educated and you understand that your views are not the norm, then you have a pretty good idea of what others' views are, don't you?

So why the faux-innocent provocative questions? You know what we think, yes? You're just saying, "Hey, guess what, I'm right and you're wrong".

I'm really pleased for you that you have found a lifestyle that works for you. I'm delighted that you enjoy raising your child. But I'm bored beyond belief by SAHM/WOHM debates. I JUST DON'T CARE whether other women choose to work outside the home or not.

Kewcumber, we married very young and god willing for life. Yes we have had difficulties but we didn't pack it in after the first few hurdles. I may never return to my previous career. Is it wrong not to be career minded and ambitious?

DH is far better with the kids than me, I'm a bad tempered sleep deprived hormonal child hater. He does crafts and baking and all that caring stuff. I pay the bills. Seems a fair split.

So what if I decide to short txt?? What's mn law am I breaking.

Having a beautiful clean home with daily cooked meals now you're just taking the piss, naughty!

is that wrong of me? err - nope but I didn't start a thread telling you it was wrong of you. Apparently I must do as you want to do though

Who do you think is going to actually teach your child when you have finished educating them yourself? Obviously not a woman with children?

No it's not wrong.

But it's very naive to need explanation on why other women work.

i'm sure your home will thank you for making it so clean

I know Kew. Shocker!

Stepford wife,, is there anything wrong in being a good housewife?

Sorry, cooking meals isn't much of an achievement. My dd isn't 10 yet and can do that. I'm hoping it'll be a bit longer before she achieves getting banged up. Not really a whole load to be proud of. I have all that, and a whole load more. I am dd's best friend, and she tells me she loves me every day. She is confident, articulate and highly successful
(for a 9 year old) with pretty good social skills.

Considering she's a child with sn I think that's a shitload of achievement. Not to mention my career, my writing, my MA.

I don't think how I live my life is anything to do with other people but being proud of a tidy house is crap imo. I actually see it as a bit of a failing of mine that I do have that whole stepford wife look down, but it just comes naturally.

What was your previous career?

there's HEAPS wrong with JUST being a housewife sweetheart

Hides thread.

Tweasels - all the best people are

I am a SAHM (ish) dh wanted a shot at the big time so we cut our cloth and I had to give up due to his hours and travel.

It was a decision we made as a family, including Ds. Dd was a baby at the time.

Personally - I enjoy it. Because they are my dcs. But I'm not doing something noble and wonderful. I'd be an uberdickwad to think that. And it does piss me off that my pension is effectively buggered and I will be hideously out of date when I return.

Kewcumber, we married very young and god willing for life. Yes we have had difficulties but we didn't pack it in after the first few hurdles

Yup my parents too - married young, best friends, didn't pack it in after the first few hurdles.... but apparently god can be a bit of a kidder and my dear father left one day without warning after 35 years of marriage.

Don't get too smug...

I think Jenna is really hoping we launch into fury about SAHMs.