Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

No wonder the country is in the state it's in if intolerant twats can't accept that other people will make different life choices.

We're well and truly fucked. I work, DH is a SAHD and we're in a muslim country. I'm fairly sure it's illegal to be paid in bacon. Shit.

Ohh I think I've found a photo of the OP's Husband

oh dear lord Worra!

lunatic... I know nepotism. Sinecure though I had to look in the dictionary.

If the op is genuine, I think she needs to have a long hard look in the mirror and have some deep thought into her life and circumstances. Only then will she hopefully stop judging other people.

Worra !

I nearly swallowed my tongue .

Can I just check it was a bottle of expressed milk your DH was giving your baby?

worra

Good god Worra I just opened that on my work computer

He's one sexy bacon bringing mother fucker isn't he?

how is your Dp reading this thread with interest and discussing it with you?

isnt he at work?

and please answer Maryz question.

and mine

Roar at Kungfupanda's Anti-Xenia post - classic!

OP - its not just working mums who complain: SAHM mums, Studying mums, working dads, SAHDs, and every combination in between complain at times that life is hard. Because guess what? Sometimes it is bloody hard, whatever your circumstances, to juggle everything on your plate.

I'm a working mum. My mum was a working mum. My childhood was absolutely fine thanks. Her mum, back in India, was a SAHM, but died when she was 8 leaving 8 children (6 of whom were girls) without a mum. Her dad was a working dad who somehow raised all his children alone whilst working long hours and did an amazing job - all 8 went to university and became independent and self sufficient. Why did my mum work? To ensure financial stability, both in the present and the future, for herself, my father and her children and grandchildren. Why do I work? For exactly the same reason. I dont HAVE to work but by working, I relieve my husband of the burden of being sole wage earner for a family in tricky economic climate where a number of people in the city are laid off on a monthly basis. By working, I ensure I have a rainy day pot in case the worst should ever happen, so that my children will be provided for and continue to be happy and safe. That's why I work.

lol OP, just lol

Oh well that's OK then - it seems I've got the OPs approval now.

Fwiw, I am amazing with dd. I spent as much time as I could with her, as a baby I did breastfeeding bottles /nappies/bath time etc.

I think some mums the OP is saying if I work I can't possibly be good mother figure. DH fully agrees with me and says no wonder the country is in the state it is if parents don't go out to work and support a failing economy instead choosing to live off the earnings of her father and then her husband

Has anyone mentioned precious moments yet?

OP is far too busy to answer maryz what with all that facilitating of her DD's education.

What is it today me wonders? Economics or literature?

No, I have not name changed as I have just joined mn.

My childhood being crap was nothing to go with finances or lifestyle, just an overbearing, highly critical mother.

For people who use childcare to raise their kids, if they have a choice not to. Only you can live your child. For the childcare / nanny. It's just their job. You moan about your job, do you think they won't moan about looking after your dc.

Putting career over ridding your children is selfish if you have a choice,,, remember CHOICE

Living of my dh earnings ??? We are a unit, a couple. We share everything without resentment

I was waiting for "Day Orphanages"

gosh I miss Beesimo

Okkkaaaayyy ...so it's damaging to work if you don't need to, but fine if you do need to?

How does that work then? Is the nursery magically nicer for single Mums? Do DC hate it if their Dad is bringing home lots of bacon but love it if there is no Dad?