Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

I haven't read the whole thread but just wondering when Xenia might pop by? [Smile]

Ha ha ha PessaryPam - I just nearly spat out my fennel tea. (I had to make one as it calms and soothes!)

Jenna Will you want your DCs to be unhappy in order to fulfil social obligations when they grow up - just as you are?

I assume you are unhappy - as you have repeatedly referred to staying at home an a sacrifice, an obligation, rather than a choice.

I want my DD to be happy - just as I am. I wouldn't have been happy as a SAHM, but I didn't know that until I became a mum. Perhaps DD would have been better adopted than being raised by a WOHM?

Pants, that didn't work!

Oohh thanks lunatic, I've learnt a new word today 'sinecure'.

Fwiw, Dp is amazing with dd. spends as much time as he can, as a baby he did bottles/ nappies/ bath time etc. I think some mums are saying if Dp works he can't possibly be good father figure. Do fully agrees with me and says no wonder the country is in the state it is if parents don't take responsibility of raising their children but dump them in ft childcare when they have the option to raise and nurture them at home

Oh o loved shagging around and partying ...I love working as well and being single - guess we all like different things ...who knew!

jenna what's your DPs opinion about unhappy SAHM?
Would he expect you to be unhappy in order to avoid dumping DCs in childcare?

Oh please let Xenia turn up.

T'would be like Clash of the Titans . Sippy cups and enormous wage slips at 50 paces .

I thought the country was in the state it was in because people weren't dumping their children in childcare and going out to work.....my mistake.

or c) Maryz. See my post above.

I've wanted to do this for AGES and I'm so pleased I saved it for such a pile of smug judgeyness for such a worthwhile debate!

OP, have my very first .

Xenia usually makes me want to eat my own face with rage, but I am praying she turns up here.

OP you are VERY, VERY luck to have a wealthy father and partner to keep you. Please try to be a little more humble ffs.

As much as I love bacon (and believe me I do), If that was what my DH brought home from work instead of money, our Mortgage company would have something to say....the miserable bastards.

Mmmm bacon.....

Jenna, I think you should take the famous advice:

Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.

my.chicagotribune.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-46894045/

Time to bow out of this conversation, jenna I can only agree with pessarypam... You are just being argumentative for the sake of it. I do not believe that even you believe what you're spouting here.

You're missing the point Jenna you're calling mums crap for working so why isn't your husband crap for working?

Of, so if DP is amazing , did all the bottles, nappy changing etc as he could , whilst working and you think he's a good dad, then why can't mums who work and do as much as they can, possibly be a good mother figure ?

See what I did there ?

You do realise don't you that one day Karma is going to bite you on your judgemental arse..........

I have always worked since my DS was a baby.....financially maybe I didn't need to but much as I love him, I do need another purpose in my life and so going to work I get the best of both worlds.

Do you have many friends or is it just you and your DP living in your perfect little bubble? That bubble will burst one day, be sure of that, but I am sure that for now you can't see past the end of your nose.