Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

"Han solo.. Come on , r u saying makes and a female have Similair roles?? that's feminism gone too far."

Damn, can still read this drivel

Ah, that's better, shiny shiny things...

Honey Shame. I was going to send them chimney sweeping to pay the rent, seeing as I'd have to give up work and all. I'd never want to put my hedonistic lifestyle above my not even adopted children. They always come first.

Yep please don't fall into the trap of slagging off SAHMs people.

I'm one by choice, I love it, well I do work very part-time, but wouldn't say everyone should do if!

Do one OP, it's tedious.

DS1 recently asked me if I could start working Fridays please because he wants to go to before/after school care on that day as well. He has band practice on Friday afternoons and is annoyed that he doesn't get to go with the other kids before it and instead has to come home. They all practice in the morning as well and he misses that.

raising their own flesh and blood Oh lordy I missed that at the time.

So sorry - as you were- this doesn't apply to me, DS is neither my flesh nor blood so I am free to treat him just as badly as I wish.

Poor DS - how on earth did he end up with a disaster like me? Prioritising myself over him. Feel free to feel sorry for him all you like.

Murder

Jenna - it sounds like you have isooos with your parents.

Winding up a load of strangers on the Internet won't help you with that.

Some people have shit childhoods/crap parents, it's not related to whether their mothers worked or not.

Mary, I do accept that people do things differently, but it doesn't mean to say I agree. I have believe it or not very career minded friends who see their child for one hour a day before bed and whose children were raised in nursery from 6 weeks old.They put their careers first and have told me this.They are financially secure and choose this lifestyle for their children. This thread reflects this, which is why I started it.

This doesnt apply to single parents.

Why? Are children of single parents somehow different from your blessed children? They have different needs?

Yeah, have you ever NOT been financially secure OP?

My parents were not, it was a bloody stressful existence for them and for us.

OH NO! Surely, not...FINANCIALLY SECURE!
The poor poor children :(

horten do you this this is La Liz?

morloth a bloke I knew before I had DD asked me what I 'did' with her whilst I worked. I joked that she went in the cupboard under the stairs, then quickly followed up with 'she goes to the local nursery'. He replied, 'you might as well stick her in the cupboard!' Arsehole.

That's fine Jenna, if you had a crap childhood of course you want to make sure your DD has a better one, and for you that means being a SAHM.

But please don't think that your life experiences are the same as everyone's - it's ignorant at best! Do you really think you know how every mother feels, and what their finances are?!

I am so... No it wasn't a waste if tax payers money because my father paid for my Education.

Did anyone see that [ahem] entertaining feature in the DM the other day? I don't know if there was a thread on it - I didn't bother starting one because I knew I'd get two dozen posters all refusing to open the link.

Anyway, it was a nasty piece even by DM standards, on 'These women think they're too clever to have children'. Interviews with two women who aren't maternal and think they have more to offer their careers. With some REALLY unpleasant comments underneath (the first said: "Two words for you: ovarian cancer").

Do you read the Daily Mail, Jenna? Is that how you feel about women who choose careers over children?

FWIW, I love being a mother and I will never regret the career price I paid to become a mother, but I am deeply thankful that at least some women choose not to go that route. We NEED women who choose careers over children. We also need women who choose to work while having children. Nothing wrong AT ALL with being a SAHM, but god help us all if ALL of us opted to do that.

they are not raised in nursery you donut

you indicate that being financially secure is a BAD thing, you don't mean that, shurely?

And that is their choice and you made yours, so what exactly is the problem here? Are people not allowed to be different?

Wealthy parents are irrelevant - shit parents is probably more likely, leaving you with the impression that many people don't put their children first. But most people do. Just not it seems your parents. I'm sorry that your parents left you with such a warped opinion of so many parents in the world. I feel sorry for the child that you were.

Jenna if you have these so called career minded friends whom you know chose their lifestyle over their children. Why don't you just ask them these questions?

what about the rest of my questions?

my father paid for my Education.

Didn't your mother also pay for it if she was working?

raised in a nursey

Have you you told your friends what you think?

Night everyone - DD up at 6 so got to get some sleep.
OP - are you locking yours under the stairs in the morning for a lie in or are you on hard drugs to keep the kitchen sparkly while DH earns the bacon?