Moaning mn career mums.Yes you...

[Jenna2012]

Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?

Stepford wife,, is there anything wrong in being a good housewife?

Erm yes. Yes There is. Nothing wrong with staying at home and looking after your children until they start school. But you're starting to sound a little like Dobby the house elf. Not something I want for myself, but of course we are all different.

Get in, I was wondering when the violence would start.

Honeydragon take a punch in the tits from me you workshy fop.

Kickassangel, I will literally kick your bum hole as requested how fucking dare you go about being all enterprising and running businesses and shit.

I work part time so I get a slap across the face from a cock.

Oooh and who gets a kick in the clunge..............I wonder.

I grew up with very wealthy parents, but it did not bring me happiness. My childhood was crap. I guess I want to focus my energy on my dd and making it as pleasurable as possible. Plz leave out the abusive remarks.

EduCated - Do you want some?

I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself.

with the greatest of respect Jenna my lovely that's not really asking for opinions is it? More like a little shit stir to try to get any working mothers to get all aerated - but mostly we don't really much care what anyone else or at least I don;t.

For the record - I am a single parent by choice, who earned enough before and in the early days of being a mother to take some off with DS when he needed me to. Now I work 2 days a week and manage to support us both on that.

The house however is a tip and I don't bother with cooking unless pushed.

Does that make a successful mother or a failure in your eyes? Its a bit difficult to tell when cooking and cleaning seem to be your critical success factors.

OP- are you not going to answer our questions too?
Like what your career was or how old your DC is or what you are cooking them in your spanking clean kitchen for breakfast/lunch/dinner ?
No one on here loves their job more than DC's. You must have over egged the bible studies tonight if you think you read that somewhere between the lines.

But you can abuse others an that's ok?

What abusive remarks? You mean like calling people pathetic?

I'm a shit housewife whether I work or not. Not sure my parenting improves either way tbh.

Dobby the house elf?? Lol.

Honeydragon

Jenna, nothing you have posted suggests that you accept that other people do things differently and that that is often ok.

Jenna2012 Mon 26-Nov-12 23:47:11
I have ' achieved' raising a child, having a solid and blessed marriage.my Dp is my best friend. Having a beautiful clean home with daily cooked meals. is that wrong of me?

Hahahaaha

I work because I have to, because I WANT to and because I love my job. My DD is almost 7 and recognises me almost every time we see each other...
Due to the horrific situation the credit crunch afforded many families ( including mine) I have no choice in the matter. However, I have raised my DD, I have a solid and blessed marriage. My home is clean and all our meals are home cooked...what exactly makes your smug position the better position? My DD will grow up to value her place in society and contribute as they are the values I have ensured I instill in her daily...I wonder if you are able to say that about your "achievements"...

Honey I'll take them, but I have to go to work in the morning, so ill have to lock them in the cupboard under the stairs. If you think they can cope with the trauma send 'em over.

I'm not being smug which is why I said ' I'm blessed' - umm did you read the bit where I said he left after 35 years - still time yet

Worra I have a red duffle coat and I'm so doing that tomorrow. I'm going to look just like one of those Ikea hotdogs.

HoneyDragon -

Well maybe I feel a little bit challenged. All that text speak you know, it's hard on the eyes you see...

Please stop the text speak. You are hurting my eyes and my intellect.

So you had a dreadful childhood? I'm very sorry to hear that. Was your mother a SAHM or did she work? Is there an issue that you need to explore there.

Do you mix with other parents with children?

Loving the humour. But to respond: i work for the following reasons:

1. if i didn't we would be destitute -dh is getting a business going and whilst income is growing can't support us
2. i enjoy my job
3. it was a bloody hard slog making it to where i am and a career break to bring up children would render that effort pointless
4. Because being a SAHM would drive me more bonkers than i already am (it's just not me)
5. others are better equipped to stimulate my child -that admission was difficult to make to myself and was wracked with guilt over it
6. my daughter has a better mother because i work. She gets the best of me.

We are not all the same and each family - however constituted -needs to make the decisions right for their family. What many mners moan about is that frequently that making it work rests on their shoulders alone ( or at least feels like it)

Now can someone pass the popcorn round?

Naaaah Educated. That means I have to get out of bed and let them out the coalshed.

I'll keep them, and that bastard dog that ate my wellies this morning.

Several posters have explained exactly why they work, and what effect they feel it has on their children, OP - are you going to address that at all? You don't seem to be engaging much which may lead people to suspect you're just jotting it down for a column.

Would I need to clean out the cupboard under the stairs do you think before using it as childcare?

I could probably squish DS2 in, but I don't think I could get both in there without taking out some junk.

Would save me a fortune in childcare.

You see, having very wealthy parents may also have given you a different outlook on this. It might mean you have a strong sense of basic security - that there will always be enough money, that someone will always be around to bail you out if crisis hits.

Those of us raised by poor-as-shit parents probably are a little more nervous about sacrificing financial independence. We may think our children actually gain something, as well as lose something - if they have a working mother.

And that very serious reply is probably more than you deserve, given your highly insulting thread title and opening post.

jenna why was your career worth less/more disposable than your DH's? dont you think it a waste of your education/tax payers' money for you to abandon it? will you encourage your DD to have an education? if so why?