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Locked out of DH's garage

614 replies

auroramusisamica · 18/11/2012 22:16

Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.

I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.

If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)

So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?

OP posts:
BelaLugosisShed · 21/12/2012 17:45

Do you actually think this was a real OP?

toofattorun · 21/12/2012 18:14

Was this not a true thread then?

MrsJREwing · 21/12/2012 19:23

yes Blush

Original poster
auroramusisamica · 03/01/2013 17:52

I don't really want to start this thread up again at all, I thought it had been deleted as it was no longer showing in my 'threads you are on' but I noticed that people had posted recently. I just wanted to let you all know I am fine, we had several conversations which didn't go we'll, he was extremely defensive and eventually said that he didn't trust me in there! We agreed to get Christmas over and he has agreed to have a proper sit down discussion about it. I have been happy to leave it thus far as I know it will be a serious game changing one so I need to do the right thing. I don't want to add any more to this thread and might see if I can get it deleted. Thanks again to everyone.

OP posts:
cuttingpicassostoenails · 03/01/2013 18:13

Thankyou for the update Aurora. I hope it goes well for you.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 03/01/2013 18:18

Why do you want to get the thread deleted?

lunar1 · 03/01/2013 18:22

Glad you at ok op, think carefully about having it deleted. Reading back might help you remember how you have felt about what has happned.

yfuwchhapus · 03/01/2013 18:25

Why get it deleted???

StuntGirl · 03/01/2013 18:28

How ridiculous. I assume he says that because of expensive music/recording equipment? What exactly does he think you're going to do?

I would suggest to him he hires a studio somewhere to keep his equipment and works from there, and reclaim the garage for communal use.

manticlimactic · 03/01/2013 18:34

I'd put some bedding outside the door, he can use that in the locked room until he 'discusses' it Grin

jessjessjess · 03/01/2013 18:48

So you still aren't going to find out what's in there? I am dying of curiosity, dunno about anyone else.

My grandpa used to lock his study, but that was because my gran is a neat freak and it was the only place in the house he could be messy - he locked it to stop her tidying it up.

The camera is super weird.

DoJo · 03/01/2013 22:57

Just to say - I live with a musician who not only 'allows' me into his studio but also our son and nothing has happened to any of his equipment, but even if it did, our relationship is more important to him than any potential damage to his gear. I hope you get this sorted, but the fact that you have had to schedule an appointment to even talk about it is utterly baffling to me.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 03/01/2013 23:23

The whole thing is incredulous, tbh

StuntGirl · 03/01/2013 23:31

Agreed AF. One of the rooms of our house is my 'studio' with all my art equipment in and assorted fabrics etc. I wouldn't dream of locking my boyfriend out of it. Granted none of it is worth thousands, but even if it were I would trust my partner implicitly if he wanted to use the room.

Bobyan · 03/01/2013 23:49

Your going to have a serious discussion about you being allowed into part of your own house.
Err, okay then.

HeyHoHereWeGo · 04/01/2013 08:26

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Mia4 · 04/01/2013 12:42

Hmmm is his name 'Dexter?'

YANBU btw, he can hide his porn in a locked cabinet if needed.

HildaOgden · 04/01/2013 13:04

What an unbelieveable update.

Sorry,I just don't buy it....

yfuwchhapus · 04/01/2013 13:06

I don't buy it either!

Sugarice · 04/01/2013 13:20

I didn't follow this thread when it was created but :

Husband won't let her have a key to the garage; plain weird.

A serious discussion will ensue in the coming weeks to discuss her entering the garage alone; even more weird

OP now wants the thread deleted.

How incredibly odd Hmm.

HeyHoHereWeGo · 04/01/2013 13:58

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Fairylea · 04/01/2013 14:01

If I had to wait to find out why I wasn't allowed in a part of my OWN HOME I'm not sure I'd be so calm about it... !

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/01/2013 15:38

Good luck OP. I hope you manage to bottom this out and I hope the secret is not too awful.

Twattybollocks · 04/01/2013 16:04

He's hiding something! And playing for time to make the garage "safe" before he lets op in. I have a work room on the top floor of our house. It has several expensive sewing machines, one of which is very temperamental and jams/breaks if not used exactly as per instructions. There is thousands of pounds of fabrics and other sewing supplies, and various bits and bats which are hard to find and I would not be able to work without. He knows this, and because we are both adults and not stupid, he asks before touching stuff, especially scissors, after the memorable occasion when he used my fabric scissors to cut some wire, completely ruined them and cost me 2 days of work as I couldn't cut out and had to wait until new scissors arrived. I was fuming at the time, but now he knows that using scissors to cut wire ruins them and causes me big problems, it's not an issue. Even so, I wouldn't dream of locking the door, unless I was hiding something illegal, or something that would end our relationship!

beeny · 19/02/2013 01:22

Will we ever find out ?

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