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Aibu to think men never truly Grow Up?!!!

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pumpkinsweetie · 15/11/2012 21:38

Having a dh that must have what HE wants, when HE wants and if HE doesn't get it he stomps his feets & sulks for days!!!
HE has to have the latest game/console/chair etc, etc even before i have finished my christmas shopping and then today he's told me HE expects a £300 gaming chair if he gets a job!!-WTAF is wrong with his self entitled arse?
Apparently i have welshed on 'OUR' deal as i said he could have it 'ages' ago apparently-(not realising he meant a £300 one, i thought he meant a cheapo one)!
So he is basing his enthusiasium on maybe getting a job for a fucking gaming chair.
Aibu to think he should grow the fuck up?, especially as it will be a mw job and we won't be able to afford it?

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peppercold · 15/11/2012 21:40

yanbu!! tell him to use a normal chair!

FermezLaBouche · 15/11/2012 21:42

Some men, like this one, never grow up. Or to put it more accurately are selfish knobs.

Many men are normal human beings who see their partners as equals and wouldn't fuck them off by acting so selfishly and petulantly .

All depends on what you are willing to put up with for the rest of your life.

pumpkinsweetie · 15/11/2012 21:43

What makes me laugh about this entire senario is that he already has a gaming chair, but according to him it isn't good enoughShock

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littlewhitebag · 15/11/2012 21:45

What in the world is a gaming chair?

Tactifer · 15/11/2012 21:46

This doesn't sound like a proper man - has he no self-respect? This is a bigger problem you've got here than just a chair. Sorry.

FreudiansSlipper · 15/11/2012 21:46

do all women nag?

not all men are selfish and immature

I cringe women talk about their partners like they are silly little boys and think do stfu

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 15/11/2012 21:47

Well, your husband appears to be a self centred arse. But not all men are, so YABU.

OpheliaPayneAgain · 15/11/2012 21:47

if he gets a job

And you are with him because?

picnicbasketcase · 15/11/2012 21:47

'SOME' men, maybe. Not men in general though.

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AnyFucker · 15/11/2012 21:49

Your husband sounds like a tool

Have a moan, and continue parenting your husband.

Until the day you get real and decide you have had enough of it. Mumsnet will be here for you then.

ihavenofuckingclue · 15/11/2012 21:50

What the fuck?

I assume he hasn't got a job because he can't get one despite trying really hard, so why the fuck will one suddenly turn up because he wants a gaming chair.

If he hasn't got a job he should be doing everything he can to get one and help support his family. not to buy himself a pile of shit.

My dh is far from perfect, but really I can't believe there are some adults with this attitude.

Wonder how long it would take him to get a job if you agreed. If its really quickly (which I suspect he would) at least you know he is a cock lodger.

littlewhitebag · 15/11/2012 21:50

So what is a gaming chair?????? I really need to know.

ihavenofuckingclue · 15/11/2012 21:51

men never get past 12 years old, though they do wear long trousers

That attitude is as bad as the OPs dh.

DontmindifIdo · 15/11/2012 21:51

Sorry, but a lot of men are grown ups, sensible people who support their families, not just take - DH has an expensive hobby (mountain biking) but, household costs come first.

To summerise, your DH doesn't work, he expects you to spent £300 on his hobby just before christmas as a "well done" for getting a job, not getting you a gift as a "thanks for holding the fort" with his first wage? Really? And he sulks and behaves like a child? What does he think your his mum who just buys him treats for being a good boy?

OpheliaPayneAgain · 15/11/2012 21:53

Do either of you work?

LouisWalshsChristmasCloset · 15/11/2012 21:53

From the title of your thread alone, YANBU

coribells · 15/11/2012 21:58

Maybe he doesn't really expect a gaming chair , just wishes he could have one at some point. The same way I wish I could have an iPad for Christmas because I work hard and struggle. In reality it probably won't be this year, next year perhaps.

MORCAPS · 15/11/2012 22:00

Don't assume that because your DH is an overgrown brat, all men are.

Mine isn't and my 8 year old behaves better than that.

pumpkinsweetie · 15/11/2012 22:01

I'm a sahm and he has been recently made redundant.
I'm the one who has trawled the net applying for hundreds off jobs and obtaining application forms for him and the thanks i get is this moronic behaviour.

This isn't just about the gaming chair really, it does go deeper.
His selfishness is starting to completely take over everything, and at the moment i'm at a loss of what to doSad

He seems to think because im a sahm he deserves this chair as he is the one going to the interview even though i'm the one that applied for it as he couldn't be botheredSad

I'm also scared about being sanctioned our jsa because i have a feeling he will now flunk it, if he flunks it we don't get our jsa and our bills won't get paidSad

On top of all this the 6th anniversary of my 16yo brothers death is close and i'm feeling very sad about the impending date so i could do with his support right now rather than thisSad

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ihavenofuckingclue · 15/11/2012 22:02

coribells so do you strop because you won't get one?

You stomp you feet and sulk for days? Really?

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/11/2012 22:04

Gaming chairs Who knew?

YABU. You married an idiot. Doesn't mean they are all like that. My DH manages to like gaming, not have a gaming chair, not be a childish idiot, work and not treat Christmas like a selfish-fest. Not all men are twunts.

ihavenofuckingclue · 15/11/2012 22:05

OP he is a twunt of the highest order.

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/11/2012 22:05

I x-posted pumkkinsweetie. Sorry for your loss.

AnyFucker · 15/11/2012 22:06

I am very sorry about your brother Sad

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