To be hurt that DP would rather spend Christmas with his family than me?

[Lucyrobinson99]

DP and I recently moved house. Moved in round the corner from his parents, mainly because nice area and good location for work but I know DP also likes being close to his family. I get on fine with his family and also DP said it would be good for help with child care when we have kids so I was happy to go along with it.

I suggested this Xmas it would be nice to invite my parents to stay (they live a few hundred miles away and we hardly ever see them). DP said that was a great idea. However, he also said he would be spending Christmas day round the corner with his parents and grown up siblings (all of whom he sees all the time). He did not extend the invitation to me.

So as things currently stand we have me having Christmas day at mine and Dp's house with my folks and DP round the corner at his parents. This is the first time we I have hosted Christmas Day and first Christmas in our new home so gutted DP has chosen his family (who he sees on a weekly basis) over me.

AIBU to be a bit gutted?

Should also mention that my parents have not met DP's parents yet (wasn't planning to introduce them until we get engaged)

Also if it's relevant last Christmas I spent on my own at my parents house and DP spent with his parents. This was before we moved close to his parents though.

My son just moved in to a place with his gf of several years.
This year, since they are living together, they invited us all to their new home for Christmas. She is dying to host a big family dinner. :) Both sets of parents are bringing some prepared dishes. They are not officially engaged although do plan to be married one day. Grandad and brother will be there as well.
I think it is fine for the parents to meet, you are living together, he isn't just a booty call :) Why not invite them around for a Christmas drink while your parents are there.

It's the 2 sets of parents who haven't met yet, not the boyfriend and parents. I can understand that point of view as the parents live apart so I wouldn't bring them together specially, however to me getting a mortage together is a huge commitment so as both sets of parents will be near each other them meeting seems sensible.

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He prefers to spend christmas with his parents. Think long and hard about this relationship before you end up like the woman in the other thread.

Been with my DP (actually D fiancée as of last month) for 10 years. Our Christmas days are quite complicated. He comes to my parents in the morning then goes home, we then have dinner with our own parents then I go to his for the evening. It has worked Ok although I'm desperate for us to try and work it out so we can spend the whole day together this year. Need to raise that one soon really.

You've just bought a house together. Yet you're not committed til you've got a ring on your finger?

YANBU, that's awful. But I don't see why the parents can't meet either.

have 364 other days of the year to stare at my own walls and talk to my dh and kids.. xmas is about family and spending it with them

Aren't your DH and kids your family too? Perhaps your kids would like to spend it with both their parents together?

Just don't want our parents to meet until we are engaged as I don't want to go to the effort until he has shown me the commitment of an engagement (I know some people on here will think that's silly)

The effort of what?? If you want to marry him then ask him?

My BIL & his partner did this weird thing at Xmas. They woke up in their own house on Xmas Day, went to her mother's for breakfast then he would go to his mother's for the day & then he'd go back to his partner's mother's to collect his partner and then go back to his mother's house for Xmas Night!!! Fifteen years they did this for (no kids). They've now split up but he did exactly the same with his next girlfriend - they've split up now too... Sense a theme here OP?

It's really weird to be so traditional about parents not meeting until you're engaged and yet have bought a house together.

Are you afraid that your parents will like him more than you?