I think to say to op-I know what its like when school clubs change at last min friday was meant to be after school art club was canelled at short notice cue sprint to school 1.2miles with 2younger siblings in tow as I dont know anyone at school we ne, have no family nearby, freinds were in workm and tbh I have would never ask my freinds without kids to pick dd up and dh was in work.
I am dare I say it a non driver.
so sterotypically according to this thread and other parents I know im selfsh and always after lifts.
However in last 2years since dd been at school I have never asked for lifts and also have turned down many offers if
felt the preson was going out their way
would resent it, bitch aboit it or expect a favour back.
Only recenlty have i agreed to one mum giving dd the occasional lift as rainbows changed to 6-7 its dark i have 3year old and 18month old and its dark, it used to be mon 4.45-5.45 and uusally i do drop off and dh picks up but sometimes hes away or has to work lomg day.
There 3diffrent offers i reguarly turned down as
dident know them that well
dident really like the way mum spoke to her dd and knew she expect somesort of thjing in return.
One dident like very much -cant say why just made me feel uncomfortble
so yes i do walk a lot.
last year its seemed competition whon could chose most obscure rural locations for parties mostly on weekend when dh works
some i took 3buses each way to if dd really wanted to go
when expecting 3rd baby accepted couple of offers in late stage pf pregancy but because they offered not because i asked.
My freind whos no driver thinks I have a complex about what people think of non drivers and parents dont begrudge helping a child now and then but shes seems to ask for lifts all time and takes taxi i wont let mine in car without a carseat.
If its arranged in advance like one rainbow mum i know since dd was baby her best freinds mum gives her lifts to trips i always say thanks, text in advance time and place, sometimes make batch of cakes and biscuits to say really appreciate it.
Lasts week close freind at gym offered dd lift home which was fab but often my dh who does drive picks hers up too so swings in roundabouts.
In old school I have
waited with kids who were late in playground whos parents were late.
looked after kids of parents dont like or even children dont like that much
these things have mosty been one offs and not taken advantage of week in week out.
At last min got dh to pick up dd freind or have one over for tea walking another persons child home can be more challenging especially if whiney and not used to wallking the shoirt 15min trip we had back then.
Of course mines primary so its different but dont like being indebted to people but always do a good deed and don t expect things in return.
Yes the childs 15-I would hate my dd to be made to feel uncomfortable on lift home so in future would say no or take bus.
Its not worth the hassle.
I sometimes think phonecalls can be scary when dont know parents taht well could you text to clarify?
Its winter now dark early , weather bad I wouldent begrudge taking a child home if they lived close to me-cant see why this huge issue for people.
If its not convieniant and they going somewhere else then just say thats different.
Lastly from a non driver rant I dont expect lifts but sometimes when its tipping down and im crossinga very busy road by school with 3little ones I do think is it too much to expect some of the selfish parents in dds old school to let us cross but no they so busy with their own lives to let me cross the blooming road.
There are many reasons why people dont drive medical reasons, lots families cant run 2cars. Some parents have other kids to consider, some dont have any family or freinds locally to fall back on.I think in rural areas its even worse as buses less frequent .
I do 2 diffrent school runs, have no family nearby and hubby who works lots of hours I get by and resent the implication that im selfish and out for lift.
Ask yourselves if you were late stuck in trafffic, you were ill, family emergancy and your dd needed pocking up from school or a club who would you call? how would you resolve it? You be blooming lucky if you have support or be at the mercey of another parents generosity.
Im believer in karma what goes around comes around.
I cant imagine being so selfish and heartless about another childs safety or well being or always expecting something in return for every good deed I did its quite sad.