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To not want to buy back things I gave away for free?

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DinosaursOnASpaceship · 09/11/2012 18:28

A few months ago I gave all of ds3s baby stuff away to a relative of exps (we were still together at the time). There was £100s worth of clothes and equipment (pram, swinging chair, moses basket, baby moniters, steriliser, all clothes up to 6 months) and it was all barely used. I gave it away because I didn't think I would be needing it again and I knew the person I gave it to would be grateful and get good use out of it.

About 4 weeks after giving it all away I found out I was unexpectantly pregnant.

I gave the stuff away not wanting it back, I wouldn't expect or ask for it back either. Once it's gone, it's gone. I've been on eBay and been saving up to replace everything.

It's up to her what she does with the stuff now she has finished with it but I really resent getting an email asking me if I want to buy some of it back from her.

I don't mind her selling it, it's coming up to Christmas and we all want to make some money but surely trying to sell things back to the person that gave thence to you is a bit off?

I wouldn't say anything to her - she's a lovely person, but won't be buying them back. I'd rather buy them from eBay etc than pay for the same thing twice.

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ENormaSnob · 09/11/2012 18:30

She is a cheeky fucker.

Coconutty · 09/11/2012 18:30

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AThingInYourLife · 09/11/2012 18:31

She's not a lovely person.

A lovely person would have given it all back to you the minute they found out you were pregnant.

Mintyy · 09/11/2012 18:32

You absolutely definitely must say something to her:

"You want me to buy back the things I gave to you? Are you sure??"

Don't let her take the p, no matter how lovely she is.

GhostShip · 09/11/2012 18:33

OP PLEASE say what Mintyy said

tutu100 · 09/11/2012 18:35

Does she remember that you gave them to her? If she does then I have never heard of such cheek! Ask for your stuff back if she's finished with it.

FayeKinitt · 09/11/2012 18:35

She's not really lovely though, is she?

Snog · 09/11/2012 18:35

Minty is right
Maybe she forgot you gave her all this stuff?

EuroShagmore · 09/11/2012 18:35

The cheeky mare!

Jsa1980 · 09/11/2012 18:37

I don't even know how she summons the bottle to even ask. She must be mad as bagers, she should be giving it straight back along with any other baby stuff she no longer needs

Passmethecrisps · 09/11/2012 18:37

Cheeky moose and grasping wench.

You gave, she wants to profit. Profit from you thanks to your generosity.

Say something. Say what mintyy said.

TwitchyTail · 09/11/2012 18:38

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DinosaursOnASpaceship · 09/11/2012 18:38

It's difficult as one part of me is reacting like everyone who has posted but the other part of me knows she could really use the money and probably didn't think about what she was saying before sending it. Without generalising, or stereotyping, she is very young and finding everything a challenge at the moment I think. I don't want to offend her.

I am very soft though.

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DewDr0p · 09/11/2012 18:38

Wow that's cheeky! love Minty's response Grin

Bobyan · 09/11/2012 18:39

Send her a list of what you gave her and tell her you want it returned ASAP.
What a bitch.

DinosaursOnASpaceship · 09/11/2012 18:40

She definately hasn't forgotten I gave it all to her. It was only 4/5 months ago and we had to do three journeys to get it there.

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LFCisTarkaDahl · 09/11/2012 18:40

Agree with Twitchy - you must send a totally straight email saying:

"no thanks to buying anything extra as I can't really afford it but yes to having some of the stuff back I gave you as that would be helpful"

ImperialBlether · 09/11/2012 18:40

You don't want to offend her but she's really happy to offend you, isn't she?

BerthaTheBogBurglar · 09/11/2012 18:41

She has to have forgotten, surely? Really dreadful major baby brain?

How about You're going to be really embarassed when I tell you this - actually I gave you all that stuff for free! It's amazing what we forget in the baby fog isn't it? But yes, I'd love to have all my stuff back, thanks.

Or if you're sure she is a cheeky mare - Oh ok. I'll buy it all back at the same price I charged you for it, shall I?

verytellytubby · 09/11/2012 18:41

Cheeky fucker!!!

Mollydoggerson · 09/11/2012 18:41

I think you should go with Twitchy Tail's suggestion.

She needs a nudge in the right direction.

BerthaTheBogBurglar · 09/11/2012 18:42

Ah, x-posted. What Twitchy said.

bigTillyMint · 09/11/2012 18:42

WTFShock I seriously hope it is a case of baby brain. You HAVE to do what Mintyy says!

lunar1 · 09/11/2012 18:42

Cheeky cow!