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To not want to buy back things I gave away for free?

127 replies

DinosaursOnASpaceship · 09/11/2012 18:28

A few months ago I gave all of ds3s baby stuff away to a relative of exps (we were still together at the time). There was £100s worth of clothes and equipment (pram, swinging chair, moses basket, baby moniters, steriliser, all clothes up to 6 months) and it was all barely used. I gave it away because I didn't think I would be needing it again and I knew the person I gave it to would be grateful and get good use out of it.

About 4 weeks after giving it all away I found out I was unexpectantly pregnant.

I gave the stuff away not wanting it back, I wouldn't expect or ask for it back either. Once it's gone, it's gone. I've been on eBay and been saving up to replace everything.

It's up to her what she does with the stuff now she has finished with it but I really resent getting an email asking me if I want to buy some of it back from her.

I don't mind her selling it, it's coming up to Christmas and we all want to make some money but surely trying to sell things back to the person that gave thence to you is a bit off?

I wouldn't say anything to her - she's a lovely person, but won't be buying them back. I'd rather buy them from eBay etc than pay for the same thing twice.

OP posts:
coppertop · 09/11/2012 21:03

I had the same thought as NatashaBee. Are you sure the woman didn't give money to your ex and he didn't say anything?

Years ago a neighbour offered us her old pushchair. Her dh brought it round later and said we could have it for £10. We were a bit surprised but paid up. It turned out that his wife had no idea about the money. The dh had wanted extra beer money but didn't want his wife to know.

coppertop · 09/11/2012 21:04

x-posted with Ioness.

goralka · 09/11/2012 21:08

I bet the last two posters are right

LadyFlumpalot · 09/11/2012 21:09

Angry What a cheeky mare! Good message to her, please update us if you get a response?

diddl · 09/11/2012 21:14

I wonder if she reply that she either hasn´t finished with stuff or has passed it on?

TenMinutesLate · 09/11/2012 21:14

Good response Dinosaurs x
I do love awkward situations too! (other people's though obvs!)

DinosaursOnASpaceship · 09/11/2012 21:18

I will update when I get a reply Smile

She definately didn't give exp any money, I was there the whole time and she text me a few days afterwards when she had sorted through the stuff saying she was really grateful for everything and it had really helped her out and she felt bad she hadn't been able to offer us anything towards it. So I'm sure he didn't take anything for it. P

OP posts:
RubyrooUK · 09/11/2012 21:27

Good reply OP. Very diplomatic!

WelshMaenad · 09/11/2012 21:27

Op, you are an absolute sweetheart. That is all.

letseatgrandma · 09/11/2012 22:24

I can't believe her cheek!

Please update this, OP!

HumphreyCobbler · 09/11/2012 22:28

well done for texting. I can't believe this. So rude.

Kafri · 09/11/2012 22:38

Can't quite believe the cheek of some people!!! I have been given various bits and bobs by friends for my little one due at xmas and as bubs outgrows things I will happily pass these on to someone else along with the stuff I've bought myself. I wouldn't dream of charging for stuff-I just see it as a little help a mum can give to a new mum (to be).

Can't wait for te reply from OP!!x

pigletmania · 09/11/2012 22:42

I totally agree with minty. Manners cost nothing no matter how nice you are

pigletmania · 09/11/2012 22:44

Good on you cheeky mare

pigletmania · 09/11/2012 22:45

She's a cheeky mare not ou btw Grin

StateofConfusion · 09/11/2012 23:44

That is exceptionally cheeky!

rumbelina · 10/11/2012 00:29

That is shit and completely immoral and such BAD KARMA on her part. You were so kind to give all that stuff to her. My friend gave me back for free something she bought from me. That's how lovely people behave.

AntoinetteCosway · 10/11/2012 00:35

God, I hope she's made a mistake and didn't intend to be so cheeky! Your message was very diplomatic OP.

IneedAsockamnesty · 10/11/2012 00:44

That takes grabby ness to a compleatly new level

SaraBellumHertz · 10/11/2012 06:36

Speechless.

I can't imagine what would posess someone to think that was ok

fallingsun · 10/11/2012 07:19

I am hoping she gives it back to you!

RudolphUcker · 10/11/2012 08:50
OhTheConfusion · 10/11/2012 08:58

Has she replied yet? Im still gawping at the page!

Inertia · 10/11/2012 09:03

Am stunned at her cheek.

Did you specify at the time whether the items were hers to keep, or being lent out ? If it was left vague, I'd be tempted to write a specific list of items you lent to her that you now need back.

WildWorld2004 · 10/11/2012 09:07

I am shocked at how rude someone can be. Baby brain or pnd depression does not give someone the right to be rude.