To not want to buy back things I gave away for free?

[DinosaursOnASpaceship]

A few months ago I gave all of ds3s baby stuff away to a relative of exps (we were still together at the time). There was £100s worth of clothes and equipment (pram, swinging chair, moses basket, baby moniters, steriliser, all clothes up to 6 months) and it was all barely used. I gave it away because I didn't think I would be needing it again and I knew the person I gave it to would be grateful and get good use out of it.

About 4 weeks after giving it all away I found out I was unexpectantly pregnant.

I gave the stuff away not wanting it back, I wouldn't expect or ask for it back either. Once it's gone, it's gone. I've been on eBay and been saving up to replace everything.

It's up to her what she does with the stuff now she has finished with it but I really resent getting an email asking me if I want to buy some of it back from her.

I don't mind her selling it, it's coming up to Christmas and we all want to make some money but surely trying to sell things back to the person that gave thence to you is a bit off?

I wouldn't say anything to her - she's a lovely person, but won't be buying them back. I'd rather buy them from eBay etc than pay for the same thing twice.

Ooh good reply - can't wait to hear her response!

That was a really good reply.

What a cheeky bitch tell her u want it back ......I would have been round there taking it back when she offered to sell it back

I am just incredulous

Good reply, wonder what she'll come back with.

Good luck

Cheeky fcker!
I wonder what she'll reply to your very lovely message!

Good reply op, I can't wait to see what she replies!

Ooh just found this thread, what a cheek, selling you your own things you were kind enough to give her your message was far more polite than I would have managed, (along the lines of now they are used and second hand why don't you accept half what I charged you? Now what is 50% of free). Waiting with interest for her reply.

ooohh, im getting impatient for a response from OP.x

I haven't had a response to my message yet, I hope she isn't sat at home worrying herself about it (under normal circumstances I wouldn't worry about that too much but she's a young girl with a young baby and I think she is suffering with pnd. I know when I had it, I probably would've made it up to be a much bigger problem in my head and worried myself silly over it) I'm going to pop round tomorrow I think, seems easier that messaging, no worries about being misunderstood or misinterpreted that way. Will make it a "hi just passing and thought we'd stop by visit".

When you visit, I'd be very matter of fact and ask which things she's finished with and you can take away now and which she's still using that you'd like back when her dc outgrows. Doesn't mean you can't be kind and sympathetic re the pnd, just that you want your things back...

Marking my place as even placid, do anything for anyone DP can't believe this thread and gave me a massive face.

Do you think she's sold/promised it to someone else, hence the silence since the OP sent the message?!

I can see in this situation that she is being a cheeky fuck,but if you hadn't have fallen pregnant and she had finished with the stuff she could have put them on Ebay or sold them elsewhere and you wouldn't have known would you? So she probably felt that she was missing out on some money. If you had given the stuff to a charity shop,found out you were pregnant and the stuff was still on sale in the shop would you ask for it back gratis?

What Twitchy said !

I'm speechless. Cheeky fucker sums it up for me.

Just read your other replies and i can see you don't want to upset her if she may have pnd, but i think your reply was pitched just right. Very non confrontational, but you did need to get the message across as no excuse for such utter piss taking!

Hey Dinosaurs, I'd have to be a bit more direct than you!

'Hi there, I am pregannt again, how amazing. I'm sure you don't need the pram and baby carrier and newborn clothes I gave you any more, and I'd really appreciate them back! Let's arrange a date we can have coffee and I can collect them from you. Love Dinosaurs.'

What do you think?? She sounds insane by the way. And congrats! :)

This reminds me of a similar-ish story. A friend said how she gave her niece lots of second hand but good quality baby clothing ( john lewis). Once the niece was finished with them she sold them and boasted to her aunt about how much money she got for them, without ever offering any money to the aunt who gave them to her. I thought that was rude and cheeky- to actually boast about the profit.

I'm amazed anyone would have the cheek to ask you to buy back what you'd given then for free :/ she's got some front!

You do sound lovely OP, I think I would have told her to fuck off. Congratulations and I hope you get at least some of it back.

marking place to see what she says. Cheek!! I like Piedwagtails approach.. Think thats really off to say you can buy them back. YOU could have sold them but chose to give them to her out of kindness. She should afford you the same courtesy.

You are far too nice OP. I would ask her nicely for the stuff back as she's finished with it.

What will you do if she doesn't reply and doesn't send back the stuff OP?

What a cheeky cheeky bitch. I'd go round to her house and take back what you gave her, and give her a slap in the process.

There is nowt so queer as folk.