Age Gap Relationships

[littlemissbehave]

I'm in an age gap relationship and things like this really annoy me

www.baby.co.uk/mum_stories/celebrity-age-gap-parents/

Am i over reacting? Any other age gappers out there?

[kakapo]

People do get sick etc all the time SirBoob, no one is contesting that it could happen to any couple. I was just saying that it is much more likely to happen with age gaps of 20 years. This isn't something that should stop people being together if they want to be, but equally, statements such as "age is just a number" are simply not true.

[JustFabulous]

William Roache married his wife Sarah who was much younger than him. Everyone would expect him to pass away first. Actually she did. Nothing goes to plan.

[MickeyTheShortOne]

Alisvolatpropiis I love you!

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Aw thanks! Haha!

[WakeyCakey]

This thread has really brightened up my evening.
i am sat on the sofa next to my ageing, greying, tubby (with a few too many chins) DP and feel like I do every day, that I have fallen in love with him a little bit more!

B1ueberry, you are a tosser, you are a tit, and by the sounds of things your poor DD will spend most of her life hiding her true feelings towards her relationships from you because you are so judgemental.

I haven't settled, I am with the only man I have ever loved and I am the happiest I have ever been.
I own a house with him, I have gained a beautiful Step Daughter who is my world and I am living a life I never could of dreamed of.

So B1ueberry, stop judging us for being happy just because you are jealous because you clearly aren't!!!

Respect for all the age-gaps who are happy

[HecatePropylaea]

My husband's 10 years older than me. It couldn't matter less.

tbh, that's a celebrity shit article. It means nothing at all other than there are people out there who will buy or read anything as long as it's got photos of famous people.

[SirBoobAlot]

[BonkeyMollocks]

[Alisvolatpropiis]

[BadLad]

I am married to someone eight years older than me.

It doesn't feel like it, to be honest, except when we are talking about the past. Recently we were discussing Maradona's disgusting world cup cheating, and she watched it with her university friends, which sort of took me back a bit, as I was 10 at the time.

Parents reaction - mine have been supportive for the most part, although my mother is a bit disappointed but not entirely surprised that she won't be getting any grandchildren. Mother-in-law is absolutely delighted, having assumed that her 42 (at the time of engagement)-year old daughter was at last getting married.

[wakeupwakeup]

Great thread, I have recently met someone who is 19 years younger, but we are so alike. We have had similar stuff to deal with and I totally get her. She said to me she feels calm and relaxed in my company and has not felt like this before. We have the same interests and share the same philosophy on life. I don't judge or expect her to be anything she's not, and she's the same with me. I was having doubts about the age gap and questioning whether it could work, but having come on here ans read another story here; uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/our-age-gap-relationship-was-only-an-issue-to-other-people.html I'm convinced we are going to be just fine.

[prozacbear]

DP is 20 years my senior.

Wakey is right - being with an older person is in no way settling. Aside from being older, DP is also incredibly intelligent, funny, interesting, charismatic, kind and supportive. He's also bloody fit.

I would, however, be settling if I set all that aside to be with somebody who I didn't love, but who was in the right age bracket. And I defy anyone to tell us how we should live, or that our relationship is unequal. Actually, it is: I'm the loud, overbearing one.

At some point, yes, I may have to care for him. Such is life - my grandfather is 15 years older than my grandmother and has to care for her - it can't be predicted.

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

I'm 34 and I'm currently dating a guy of 22.

All I hear from the majority of people is that I'm a 'cougar'. As if he was some poor, innocent virgin before I got my wicked claws into him.

My mother NEVER asks about him. Not even when I bring him up first. She couldn't make it more obvious that she disapproves. Yes he is young, he is also incredibly kind and sweet and nicer to me than any man has been in a LONG time.

Funnily enough the only person who doesn't give a toss about our age gap is the guy I'm dating.

I find it an incredibly sexist attitude. When I was 21 I went out with a guy of 38. We were together 4 years and the age gap was hardly ever mentioned!

[cuillereasoupe]

Interesting that no-one has picked up on Blueberry's assumption that it's always the man that is older. Her daughter could come home with a sixteen-year-old one day

I was with a man nine years older when I was twenty and looking back it was a bit creepy and exploitative. He eventually left me for a younger woman when I was all of 31... I swore I'd never get into an age gap relationship again but my current DP is 10 years older. Being with him is very different because I was 35 when we got together and I swear he has a portrait in the attic Dorian Grey style while my ex is all bald so it feels a lot more like a relationship of equals.

[cory]

B1ueberryFields Fri 09-Nov-12 21:58:30

"Those of you wilth much older partners seem obsessed wtih my daughter. Just cos I don't want this for her doesn't make me a tit or a bastard or immature. It just makes me a mother. "

Please don't be like my MILs mother, if it ever happens. She refused to attend her dd's wedding because she married a man 17 years older than herself. MIL had a very happy married life which lasted for over 50 years. There were practical benefits too: because FIL retired earlier he was able to be a SAHD to his sons while his wife was still earning.

[Inthepotty]

My DH is 23 years older.

I definitely didn't 'settle'!! What a bloody ridiculous comment!

[Lesj8995]

Blueberry - My parents were more than happy when I brought home by boyfriend who is 5 years older than me at 16. Infact his family even said I had encouraged him to grow up. does my relationship disgust you because believe me if my parents had spoken as narrow minded as you I would probably have moved out with him there and then. You are only pushing your kids away. Would I want my 21 year old (if I had a 21 year old that is!)to be with a 60 year old ideally no of course not but even if she came home with some one 10+ years her age and was treating her right I'd be more than happy.
Your only pushing your kids away live and let live.

[HouseBaelish]

Well I split up with my three year younger husband in may and am currently ambroiled in an amazing fling with a guy 10 years older.

I don't care if he's getting his kicks from me being younger. I'm getting my kicks from him.

He's incredibly hot, sex life is amazing and we have fun. I'm so bloody happy.

So yeah, settling......