...not to want dh to wander around half-naked?

[cavell]

Particularly when, by "half naked" I am referring to the bottom half?
Dh likes to wander around wearing just a t-shirt/shirt and no pants such that his "bits" are left dangling. Sometimes he even has socks on, too.
AIBU to find this borderline revolting? It reminds me of a potty-training toddler, tbh.
Background: together 20 years, married 15, two dds aged 11 and 7. DH's body is okay, albeit a bit skinny. He knows I don't like to see him walking around in his state of undress, but he thinks I am becoming prudish and that he should be able to relax in his own home and not worry about what he is wearing... Should add also that my libido is very low at the moment and seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt isn't helping at all.
AIBU?

Agree, if you are wearing underwear it is no different to wearing a bikini on the beach. I often do ironing in the mornings, in my undies too. What you don't usually see on the beach is a bloke with his dangly bits on full view - unless you frequent a certain kind of beach of course. It is completely different.

He wouldn't do this in front of dd's friends - of that I am certain.

It's not appropriate around your DDs, who wants to see their dads dick?

I agree he sounds like an exhibitionist. My dh doesn't like to wear boxers in the house but at least he wears tracky bottoms (yuk).

I think that your dh should not be forcing people to look at him naked. That's what he is doing, he is imposing himself on you and your dd's. It is totally inappropriate for your dd's to see him like that. Would he do it with their mates round? No, so why should the be forced to see it. I think it's terrible actually and I do not agree that you should all have "lump" it because that's how he feels comfortable.

The nakedness thing wouldn't bother me so much but from a hygiene point of view this is vile.

Bare arse and knob end rubbing on things every time he sits down or brushes against something Pants get washed at the end of every day because they come into contact with our less-clean bits, sofa cushions etc do not.

OP get him some really really baggy shorts so he can still feel the breeze LOL

I think you know that really YABU, it is his house too, he should be able to dress how he feels comfortable. I can understand you don't find it the most attractive thing in the world, but im sure there are things you do that he doesn't find attractive.

My Ex used to complain at me for wearing tracky bottoms round the house. I did it because i felt comfortable but he would tell me how unattractive i looked. It really pissed me off as i should be allowed to be comfortable in my own home.

It sounds like he is doing this to deliberately annoy you.

I think I would be explaining in no uncertain terms how infantile and unattractive you find it - what normal adult could find the image of a toilet training toddler attractive?

FGS! Those of you who say "he has a right to be comfortable" can someone please explain to me why young girls should be forced into seeing a naked male adult just because he happens to be their father? Because I am just not getting it.

its creepy that he wants his daughters to see his genitals.
its unpleasant that you all have to see them, whether you want to or not.

The only people I want to see naked are those I choose to, not those who just fancy wandering about like that in front of me! It's beyond grim.

Erghh!
That ranks as one of my least attractive things ever - a man wearing only socks and a t-shirt. It's not a nice sight. I'd rather DH wander totally naked than with a t shirt but no pants. It makes me shudder

'it is his house too, he should be able to dress how he feels comfortable'

This just isn't true unless you live alone. When you live with other people you take their feelings and opinions into consideration. It's just good manners.

DH asked if he is Aspie as this is a regular occurance with a couple of his students

I on the other hand think nobody not even Jensen Button would look good sporting Toddler Potty Time Look.

Top naked, all naked, clothed, fine, as long as no other people in the house are left feeling uncomfortable, but dangly bits on show during Corrie? No.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest but we have a very relaxed household regarding nudity and I only have sons.

I do agree that if you're in your own home you should be free to wear as much or as little clothing as you and the others in the house are comfortable with - it's their home too. So while I'm happy for my sons to come & chat while I'm in the bath/on the loo/in the shower, I wouldn't be happy if they had their friends with them.

Has he always done this or is it something he has recently started? If the latter then TBH I would be thinking that he needs to see the GP. Losing inhibitions like this would be worrying.

He shows repsect to friends as he knows it isn't right to expose himself to them, but his wife and kids who he is meant to love can go swivvel apparently. I wouldn't have that in my house. My kids are 7-11 and they never see dh without pants on.

"The rationale is that sometimes he needs a t-shirt (or whatever) for warmth."
Don't his bits get cold then?

"But that nakedness in general is more comfortable..."
Except for those around him.

"So this isn't something that most men do (as he likes to claim?)"
Well I can't speak for most men, but my dad didn't do it and neither does my husband. I find it very weird.

"He wouldn't do this in front of dd's friends - of that I am certain."
Then his DDs are entitled to the same courtesy as their friends.

Seriously, if he just likes to dangle free, can't he wear a dressing gown, or a kilt?

i totally agree with emmafrost. completely inappropriate. the fact that he knows you and your DD are uncomfortable about it yet he still does it is quite worrying actually.

And yes, the hygiene aspect ... I wouldn't want to sit on soft furnishings previously graced by a bare arse ...

I know that it is becoming a bit of a typical MN response to say "is he Aspie?"... but I have wondered about that. Yet he is very active and sporty ... and I couldn't describe him as clumsy and I can't think of any obsessions (other than cycling). He thinks he is tidy and methodical - but he isn't. But then, he is lacking in empathy in many ways, and I never sense it is from malice but rather that he, quite literally, can't see things from anyone else's point of view.

"Some men just seem to want to display their willies. "

yes and some of them get arrested for doing exactly that. wanting to do it doesn't mean everybody should have to see it.

Well it wouldn't bother me generally but its definitly a turn off - a tshirt and socks but nothing in between? how odd is that?

I am all for nakedness but when your children show signs of feeling uncomfortable then its time to cover up as far as I am concerned.

(and can someone please tell me what yy stands for?)