...not to want dh to wander around half-naked?

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Particularly when, by "half naked" I am referring to the bottom half?
Dh likes to wander around wearing just a t-shirt/shirt and no pants such that his "bits" are left dangling. Sometimes he even has socks on, too.
AIBU to find this borderline revolting? It reminds me of a potty-training toddler, tbh.
Background: together 20 years, married 15, two dds aged 11 and 7. DH's body is okay, albeit a bit skinny. He knows I don't like to see him walking around in his state of undress, but he thinks I am becoming prudish and that he should be able to relax in his own home and not worry about what he is wearing... Should add also that my libido is very low at the moment and seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt isn't helping at all.
AIBU?

it is the strange combo of halfnakedness the OP doesnt like dont blame her really DH sometimes wanders about the bedroom getting dressed like that it isn't very attractive

Yuck,i wouldnt like this one bit.
Tell him to wear some loose fitting shorts if he wants his bits to dangle free.
I feel sorry for your dds tbh,plus i wouldnt fancy sitting on the settee after his hairy arse had been on there.

I wouldn't want to stand around talking to my DH with his trunk hanging out.

Does he stand around scratching his balls or doing DIY?

just wait til he is sitting down and say..." ooh whatever is that VERY SMALL miniature sausage doing on your lap?"

or the old classic "yes dear, it looks just like a penis, only smaller."

Shame him back into his grundies!

I wouldn't like it. I don't madly appreciate it when DH wanders arounds in pants and a t-shirt on the weekend, it just makes me feel as if he's hasn't got out of bed properly all day.

I've never said so to him because it's his business but I think I would with the naked bits, it would just annoy me irrationally for him to be half-dressed while everyone else is up and doing.

So only his chest gets cold but not his bottom? I don't think most men do it. Did he do it when he lived at home with his parents?

if he wants the freedom he can wear a bathrobe. i really dont think it's appropriate for pre-pubescent girls to be made to see their father's penis and feel embarassed about it but yet be told they have to tolerate it. i think that's a really bad message to be giving them WRT future relationships.

It's very much the half-nakedness I don't like. The bare butt and dangling nob poking out from under a t-shirt. In fairness, it isn't all the time, but quite often. Say we are watching TV in the evening. He needs the loo, so he takes his pants off to go (yes, really) and doesn't bother to put them back on afterwards...
I don't think he always did this - although he has always been very comfortable to be naked.

He just need to get a dressing gown surely.
If you didn't have older kids, it wouldn't bother me so much, but it's emmbarrassing for them

No it's not that normal, I mean, it's not particularly damaging or anything, but I don't think I'd like it.

If he wants to be comfortable why doesn't he wear a pair of loose tracksuit bottoms or pyjama trousers?

Around an 11 yr old DD that's just wrong. How is he going to explain himself if she tells someone at school, who then tells someone else etc etc?

YANBU at all.

How about tackling it from the parental approach, as in his parents? Would he listen to them?

Can't tell you what to think or feel comfortable with, but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I think your girls are of an age now where they really would prefer dad to keep his parts to himself. Tell him seriously.

MY dds scream when their dad wears just his trousers never mind anything else they would be mortified

He sounds like an exhibitionist and it cant be fun for you or your dd.

In a few years she will be wandering in and out of the house with her friends and if your oh is sitting there with his bits out i cant see any of her friends being in a hurry to return. Break him of this habit now before your dd's get to that stage.

I would want him to have boxers on, I agree it is grim to see a knob peeking out from under a t-shirt.

I do also think its inappropriate in front of the dcs.

I quite like walking around in my frenchies and bandue bras, in fact most mornings I iron whatever me and dc are wearing in my thongs. I do understand when my dc are older that this will be inappropriate but have to agree with your dh it is more comfy without clothes.

YABU to be revolted by your husbands body.

YANBU to point out it is a little inappropriate considering your DD's age.

COmpletely inappropriate in front of an eleven year old daughter. HOpefully if any of her friends come to the house he covers up or hides away.

I point blank would not tolerate this. Hygiene issues too if he is sitting on the furniture. Yeuch!

Most men DO NOT do it - most wives/partners would not tolerate it.

I don't think that's acceptable around girls approaching puberty to be honest... even though I'm sure he means it completely innocently, it must make them feel awkward and embarrassed.

He must put some pants on. Really must.

but you are wearing underwear inneed the OP's DH isn't.

i have walked through from the bathroom to my bedroom in just underwear. i think that's ok.

If any of the dds friends see this and mention it to their parents, he may find himself in hot water....

Yes i agree,if i had gone home and told my dad that my friends dad was walking round with his bits hanging out he would have gone balistic

Hygiene issues wtf don't none of you ever shag on the sofa/floor/table

Yes boo that is a difference, although not much with my undies!