...not to want dh to wander around half-naked?

[cavell]

Particularly when, by "half naked" I am referring to the bottom half?
Dh likes to wander around wearing just a t-shirt/shirt and no pants such that his "bits" are left dangling. Sometimes he even has socks on, too.
AIBU to find this borderline revolting? It reminds me of a potty-training toddler, tbh.
Background: together 20 years, married 15, two dds aged 11 and 7. DH's body is okay, albeit a bit skinny. He knows I don't like to see him walking around in his state of undress, but he thinks I am becoming prudish and that he should be able to relax in his own home and not worry about what he is wearing... Should add also that my libido is very low at the moment and seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt isn't helping at all.
AIBU?

Scrambled, I think it's milk not vodka (??)

Op I am glad you feel more confident in your reasonableness now. Please do talk to him about it again, highlighting your DDs' feelings as well as yours.

Sorry typos

Reminds me when l worked in a hospital and a new policy came out that doctors nurses etc had to be naked from the elbows down because of risk of infection from watch straps,cuffs etc etc.
There were some very funny caraciture pictures doing the rounds of one consultant in particular and how they would conduct their rounds if they took it literally i.e. the bottom half of the whole body below the elbow rather than just the arms/hands.
Thankfully there were no such misunderstandings or they'd have been walking onto wards dressed like your DH , OP.

From your most recent posts it seems very clear to me that your H is a complete jerk.

Moody? Grumpy? An unapproachable sulker?

The bare bum is the tip of the iceberg here.

What he is telling you through his various justifications is that he insists on his right to do whatever he wants because basically he is entitled to.
What he is saying is that he has the right to disrespect you and your opinions do not matter at all to him.

That phrase 'in his own home' it is your home too and your daughters' home. He does not own it in the sense that he can do anything he damn well wants once inside the four walls that is neanderthal thinking. That phrase tells you all you need to know about where you stand and where he thinks he stands in all of this.

Buy and read 'Why Does he do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men' by Lundy Bancroft.

This is just plain wrong.

It's totally unfair on your children, particularly your 11 year old.

You need to tell him straight.

It's not even a good look for goodness sake!

yuk.

I wouldn't want my DH walking around with his penis hanging out infront of the children.
I took dd to a museum the other day and she pointed at laughed at the greek naked men statues loudly . She would not be impressed with seeing a life version everyday.

You really need to speak up for your children. If you don't who will?

Scrambled what a waste of Vodka!

He sounds like he thinks he is the boss of the house.

Dickhead.

Just asked DH his opinion on your DH's behaviour.

"It's all a bit odd." Raised eyebrows at the removing pants completely when going to the loo.

My adult SS used to come out of his bedroom after a shower wearing just a precariously low slung towel round his loins, couldnt have been any lower and looked as if could drop off any second. He would then proceed to prove time and time again that this was for no apparent reason by just looking at the tv, or loitering in the kitchen making small talk with his dad, never ever anything that couldnt wait till he had dressed and never more than for a few minutes before going back to his room and emerging dressed minutes later.
Very interesting to hear that some think it may be PA behaviour or a control , power thing or similar. DH whenever l mentioned to him and how l found it inappropriate and disrespectful tbh he would always say the 'It's his home too, you know, why shouldnt he ? .
He's moved out now finally, thank fuck.

It's definitely going to make it more difficult to help your children understand that private bits are for the owner and not for anyone else.

I've got one! When I was a teenager, my sister's boyfriend stayed with us for a few days, and walked around the house with just a T-shirt on in the mornings when I was the only other person in the house - my parents and sisters had to leave earlier than me for work/school. I told my sister and she told him to stop it. He apparently told her that he assumed I couldn't see anything because I am very shortsighted! The fact that I would always have been wearing either my specs or my contacts seemed to have passed him by.

Just to clarify, l only met him as an adult. Had l known him from a young child or even changed his nappies etc etc I am sure it wouldnt have made me feel quite so uncomfortable.

OP, you don't need to spare his feelings on this one, just tell him, 'put some jeffin pants on!'... if he goes into a sulk, doesn't matter, that's his problem. Get him told woman, no jokes, no beating around the bush, think of your poor daughters, they probably want to bleach their eyes everytime they see it.

MrsDV, you have nailed it

and OP, speak up for your children please

I cannot believe you haven't already, tbh

Well, he's back and wathcinmh TY (fully dressed, as it happens) at the moment. I will see if I can find an opening to have this matter out with him later this evening.

YANBU. It's beyond borderline revolting. Totally naked popping into the hall cupboard to get a towel before the shower is fine but that t shirt and sock look with no pants, for any length of time, is just mingin!! Tell him to get his bloody pants on. Now!!

OP he is exposing his penis to his girl children tell him to put his pants on and stop being such an inconsiderate idiot he sounds a strange exhibitionist he needs to cover up you and your daughters feelings matter,

You could buy him one of THESE

There will probably be one when he next bends over.

Look at the pants on my profile.

Buy a pair of those and walk round with just a t-shirt on. He will feel inadequate and will most likely cover up

Did his parents do this? If they didn't, what would his reaction be if they did (now, when he's visiting them?)