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AIBU?

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Original poster

...not to want dh to wander around half-naked?

471 replies

cavell · 04/11/2012 17:07

Particularly when, by "half naked" I am referring to the bottom half?
Dh likes to wander around wearing just a t-shirt/shirt and no pants such that his "bits" are left dangling. Sometimes he even has socks on, too.
AIBU to find this borderline revolting? It reminds me of a potty-training toddler, tbh.
Background: together 20 years, married 15, two dds aged 11 and 7. DH's body is okay, albeit a bit skinny. He knows I don't like to see him walking around in his state of undress, but he thinks I am becoming prudish and that he should be able to relax in his own home and not worry about what he is wearing... Should add also that my libido is very low at the moment and seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt isn't helping at all.
AIBU?

OP posts:
hzgreen · 04/11/2012 20:22

i wouldn't want my DH to walk around winnie the pooh style either. YANBU

headinhands · 04/11/2012 20:22

Op didn't mention the kids in her op so it appeared her bedroom stuff was the crux. If I'm wrong fair do's. Am the first to acknowledge each family has their own level of comfort when it comes to nakedness.

pigletmania · 04/11/2012 20:24

Sorry op he is totally des respectful, borderline flashing and showing off. The fact he goes into a sulk when you mention it to him is not good

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 04/11/2012 20:24

Cavell, have you told him that they have brought it up with you and they are too nervous of his reaction to bring it up with him?

Fakebook · 04/11/2012 20:25

Eww. The way you describe it: seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt. Yuck. Just yuck.
Sounds like a one eyed monster peeking out waiting to pounce.

BooyhooRemembering · 04/11/2012 20:25

"Op didn't mention the kids in her op so it appeared her bedroom stuff was the crux."

yes but she has since. you seem to be concentrating on just the posts that suit your argument.

AnyFucker · 04/11/2012 20:26

OP, you are doing your dc's a dis-service

your husband is the one originally at fault

but you are not protecting them with these "hints" you are dropping

of course, they are not going to bawl their own father out (it sounds like they would be too frightened to, with talk of "sulks" etc" Hmm )

but you absolutely should

or are you frightened of the "sulks" too ?

BooyhooRemembering · 04/11/2012 20:26

OP have you suggested he wear something very loose/light on his bottom half? what was his response?

McHappyPants2012 · 04/11/2012 20:27

TBH it wouln't be tolorated in most work places, in public places and any other place.

to me this sounds like a control issue, i mean asking your husband to wear boxers is not unreasonable. He has to wear them most of the time.

why cant he wait till his young daughters are in bed before removing his pants.

AnyFucker · 04/11/2012 20:28

head I can understand your reaction if you are the type of poster that only ever reads the opening post

otherwise, you sound like a wind up merchant on a par with OP's husband

headinhands · 04/11/2012 20:28

Wrongly or rightly I thought she'd got to the heart of it in her first posts. Obvs not.

Original poster
cavell · 04/11/2012 20:28

"Cavell, have you told him that they have brought it up with you and they are too nervous of his reaction to bring it up with him?"

No I haven't. I think I will try this approach next.

TBh, I really did wonder if I was being unreasonable and wondered if loads of people would flame me for being uptight or a prude and say that it was perfectly normal for a grown man to wander around Winnie-the-Pooh style. The consensus sees to be that I'm not.

OP posts:
BooyhooRemembering · 04/11/2012 20:28

i agree AF. if it was me and a partner did this i would probably say "what the hell are you doing? the dcs are here. go and put some pants on" and they would know i wasn't bloody joking about it.

TheCunnyFuntWearingAPoppy · 04/11/2012 20:29

I don't mind DP wandering around with just a pair of PJ trousers on and bare chested (yum!).

But wearing a t shirt, socks and nothing else? No. Just, no.

BooyhooRemembering · 04/11/2012 20:30

OP does he regularly tell you your feelings are wrong? make you doubt what you know is right?

AnyFucker · 04/11/2012 20:30

DH is snoring in the armchair

he has a dressing gown on in danger of falling open (as his legs are up on a foot stool)

Dc's are around

even though he is semi-conscious, I can see him adjusting the dressing gown every so often so he is covered

that is how it should be

ScrambledSmegs · 04/11/2012 20:31

Just told DH about your problem, OP. He thinks your DH is weird.

ScrambledSmegs · 04/11/2012 20:34

Although tbf, DH currently has his hand in a glass of vodka. Apparently it stops chilli burn Hmm

JustFabulous · 04/11/2012 20:35

This is just wrong on so many levels.

pigletmania · 04/11/2012 20:36

Yes it is the dh house, but it's also the op and dd house and they have a right to feel comfortable in their own home

Brycie · 04/11/2012 20:37

Does he sit down on chairs with a naked bottom?

whois · 04/11/2012 20:38

My Dad used to home in from a run into the utility room, strip naked and put his kit in the waging mahine then wander naked through the kitchen and go upstairs to shower.

Quite often mum and I would be having dinner.

Disgusting but it's not scarred me for life.

This sounds like a whole other level of nakedness!

MissZombRee · 04/11/2012 20:38

My Dad always has and still does walk around his house in his pants or naked. I'm not scarred by my childhood of naked parents and the only reason I don't walk around naked is for DSS's sake. DD, however, will be subjected to it Grin

MrsDeVere · 04/11/2012 20:38

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cocolepew · 04/11/2012 20:39

My DH sleeps in the nude, if tbe DDs are in tve room when he us gettibg out of bed he telks them to leave the room. They will talk to him when he's having a bath, he is covered by bubbles. They leave when he is getting out if the bath. He doesn't want them to look at his penis and I'm sure they don't want to see it.

I'm happy to be naked around them because they are girls (11 and 14) my friend has a 13 yo son, she now covers up around him. It's what most people do. Not sit eating their cornflakes with their willie on display