...not to want dh to wander around half-naked?

[cavell]

Particularly when, by "half naked" I am referring to the bottom half?
Dh likes to wander around wearing just a t-shirt/shirt and no pants such that his "bits" are left dangling. Sometimes he even has socks on, too.
AIBU to find this borderline revolting? It reminds me of a potty-training toddler, tbh.
Background: together 20 years, married 15, two dds aged 11 and 7. DH's body is okay, albeit a bit skinny. He knows I don't like to see him walking around in his state of undress, but he thinks I am becoming prudish and that he should be able to relax in his own home and not worry about what he is wearing... Should add also that my libido is very low at the moment and seeing his undercarriage peeking out from the bottom of a t-shirt isn't helping at all.
AIBU?

'It's a horrible lesson to be teaching his daughters: that their boundaries are not important, their discomfort is to be ignored, that he man of the house is to be pandered to at all costs because he's king of the castle. Really damaging messages to send to girls.'

yes yes yes

exactly BOF

So his daughters have expressed discomfort yet he persists in exposing himself.

I would say that's abusive and a child protection issue tbh.

I don't know anyone that would find this acceptable, most would find it worrying and perverse.

I agree with you. I would find it odd and a bit unsavoury to be honest. And we often have people popping in and out so that would be a bit stressful. Is he a naturist?

I've yet to hear a coherent argument from those in agreement with this as to why it is acceptable for a grown man to show his cock to children just because he's their father. I am assuming that from a stranger this would not be acceptable.

If your H is as pissed off with you as it appears, and that is why he carries on, what have your DD's done to annoy him?

Ooh, I missed the bit about your daughters asking him to cover up. Agree, he's being selfish and disrespectful to dismiss everyone else's opinions.

And the fact that he doesn't put his pants back on after going to the toilet? That's just disgusting.

Not a good look at all. The fact that his dd is embarrassed should be enough fr him to put it away. The family are not naturists, seems like he's a bit of a show off

akaem it's the difference between showing it to them and it just being there.

it's his house though !

and he isn't getting enough sex, and this is his way of telling OP, so it's simply a communication issue !

and that cock he is displaying is responsible for those daughters he is forcing to look at it !

yeah ?

no

What are your rules on children seeing breasts?

Find something that really annoys him and do it constantly. Chew with your mouth open, pick your nose at the table, put your feet on the table when the two of you are having a meal and clip your toenails. Sneeze into his dinner. Follow him into the bathroom and insist on watching him pee and poo. Get him to squeeze your pimples...

There must be something equally obnoxious that you could do to elicit a 'EEwwwww' from him, and then you could enjoy the little power trip of saying that he is in the wrong for having something against snot in his dinner, the toenails of his beloved on the table, or the sight and sounds of you enjoying a meal out there leaving nothing to the imagination. Ask him what kind of cold and uptight individual wouldn't want to see or hear about every little detail of a partner's body functions..

Insist he covers himself. It is not funny. It is harmful for your daughters.
You may need to have a plan in mind to remove yourselves from home until he gives in and stops. Do you have anywhere you could go temporarily but potentially for quite a while?
You should definitely stop doing laundry and cooking for this twat if you are the cook and bottle washer.
You should also kick him out of your bed.

If your DDs mention this in school your family will be flagged and rightly so.
He is abusing them.

Please take this serious matter seriously and take whatever action is necessary in order to stop him.

head his daughters don't want him to do it, and have communicated that

so it isn't "just there", it is being shown to them

yes, there is a difference, but you have it arse-roads about

Now this is why I'm behind the idea of a 'hide poster' button.

It would save me having to hid whole fucking threads.

End result is the same though isn't it headinhands they are still being forced to look at a grown man's dick with absolutely no choice in the matter.

I would leave this man.

If I am having a shwer dd waits outside and sees me dressing. I dnt go round tese house with my norms out, if my dh children were embarrassed I would cover up out f respect to them

"akaem it's the difference between showing it to them and it just being there. "

i dont understand this comment. if it's inappropriate for him to 'show' it to them then it shouldn't be visible for them to see.

Meant I don't go round te he's with my norms out

Norks grrrrr autocorrect

will he stop doing it when dd reaches 13? 15? 17? does he just not see it as inappropriate??

There is a big difference in a child seeing their parent getting changed or having a shower rather than having their fathers knob on display at the breakfast table.

I would not be able to have any sexual relationship with a man who did this nor would i be able to stay married to him. He is completely disrespectful of his wife and dd's.

Headinhands - are you really this stupid or are you just enjoying being a wind up merchant?

head when my DS turns 11, I'm pretty sure I won't be walking around with my breasts exposed.

And if for some reason I thought this was a good idea, but he told me it made him uncomfortable, I would cover up.

It's not freaking rocket science.

Head, breasts are covered in my house too, except during breast feeding, when they are mostly covered.

It's like he's showing off totally inappropriate.

Ok, my dds have never asked him directly not to... just the kind of comments I've referred to earlier. They wouldn't ask him directly because he would sulk, basically. He doesn't shout or get angry, but he can be very grumpy/moody.
I have asked him not to indulge in the Toilet Training Toddler look.. I've made a joke of it, I've tried to say (nicely) that I don't find it attractive, I have said "Could you stop doing that, please, I don't like it". His response is to say that he has a stressful job (generally true) and he wants to be able to relax and be comfortable in his own home and he shouldn't have to worry about what he's wearing. And that I have become very prudish.
He sleeps naked. He has a dressing gown which he might wear if, say, he has a shower early evening after a cycle ride. Sometimes he wears it when he has breakfast at the weekend. Somitimes he wears a t-shirt and pants. Sometimes just the t-shirt. In the week, it is usually the shirt/tie/socks combo at breakfast time. Pants are sometimes worn, sometimes not (approximately 50:50). The children don't tend to be around when he has breakfast, but they are there sometimes.