To think you should stay out of other people's bedrooms

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pil's were just visiting ( for 10 days) and I lost track of the times FIL came into my bedroom. He normally has a problem with boundaries, and after being with dh for 15 years, i am used to it.

Either I was in there, or the dc's were, so to my knowledge he doesn't go in there alone, he doesn't snoop around, he just talks to whoever is in there.

But I would never go into another adults bedroom - we stayed at pil's house for six weeks and I don't think I ever went in their bedroom.

AIBU to think you should respect some spaces in other people's houses? Or is this normal behavior? and no , I didn't confront him.

Fanjo don't resort to silly comments in the middle of what is quite an interesting discussion.

It was a fictional strap on, mentioned first by a lady poster as a joke.

It's not a sexual violence joke its about The Incredible Hulk.

Fucking hell.

Going out of your way to be offended I think. Just because he's a man? Load of sexist bollocks!

If a woman said it you would be fine with it I bet.

I'll ignore that Pickled, rather than point out that you seem to be following me round the boards today in an effort to explain why I shouldn't be offended.

Or was it someone else earlier...

I HATE this!

Some years back, I caught my MIL in our bedroom when I came home unexpectedly early from work. We were renting the house from her at the time, but I was not happy to find her in the bedroom cleaning the windows-WTF?! and the deathstare she received, meant she soon left and it was not repeated!

'If a woman said it you would be fine with it I bet. '

Yes! Yes I would. That's the point.

Well that's a load of bollocks. A man makes a joke and suddenly its about sexual violence. A woman says it and its a joke about the hulk?

So it deady said I'm a woman you would have apologised for complaining?

FFS lighten up! Your taking this way too seriously and taking his words out of context. If your not happy with the comment ignore it and jog on!

May I point out at this juncture that;

1. Never intended offense
2. Sorry to the op for the hijack
3. I couldn't angry fuck anyone with a strap on as I'm a man and my bits would prevent me from wearing one

Your incredibly sexist ed

Haven't heard 'jog on' for a while.

i would generally assume that a person going into a bedroom (unless putting washing away) was either going to change clothes, or sleep, or use toiletries/makeup and so i wouldn't follow them in.

SOOOO He-man then...

I always had more if a thing for Man At Arms

You seem to get offended by things that I really don't understand ed.

It's not enough that beardy apologised and explained his joke about the fictional hulk strap on that does not even exist.

I don't think it's fair to try and push all men off the boards. I talk to beardy regularly and he is very nice. It's unfair.

It's a revival ed

I haven't tried to 'push all men off the boards'. I'd just rather that the ones that are here, and yes many of them are very polite and funny and nice, behaved with a bit of sensitivity.

He didn't do anything very wrong. I know that. It just made me feel uncomfortable in the context, that's all, and I was trying to explore why but I think it was probably unwise of me to return to the thread as it's a difficult issue.

So I might go away now and leave it. Fwiw sorry if I get offended by stuff you don't feel is offensive. I guess we're different.

Beards raspberry emoticon would come I handy right ! :p

I want to know what is inRedGreenRouge's bedroom cupboard that her MIL doesn't like. Come back and tell us RGR.
Please though, for the love of all things holy, don't tell us it's an incredible Hulk strap on

and I think Beardy is safe. Loads of people found it funny, or said they did (I didn't understand it but then I don't know much about the incredible hulk - though my children seem to) so I'm sure two of us saying we didn't isn't going to prove any sort of threat.

Ok ed. but if you find it offensive you should find it offensive no matter who said it.

Im not here to tell anyone not to get offended, but sometimes you have to accept people mean things differently to how you've taken them, especially when they have taken the time to explain.

We all have our touch points.

You shouldn't have brought his sex into it in my opinion.

I think his sex is very relevant, and what I 'should' be offended by isn't the point. Is it? It's just a feeling. Not a new law or a campaign. Not even a coherent thought tbh.

Oh well it seems pointless to try and have a reasonable discussion with you today ed.

So I'll stop.

Okay.

Thanks for trying though.