To think you should stay out of other people's bedrooms

[Alligatorpie]

pil's were just visiting ( for 10 days) and I lost track of the times FIL came into my bedroom. He normally has a problem with boundaries, and after being with dh for 15 years, i am used to it.

Either I was in there, or the dc's were, so to my knowledge he doesn't go in there alone, he doesn't snoop around, he just talks to whoever is in there.

But I would never go into another adults bedroom - we stayed at pil's house for six weeks and I don't think I ever went in their bedroom.

AIBU to think you should respect some spaces in other people's houses? Or is this normal behavior? and no , I didn't confront him.

Doesn't mean it wasn't funny though.

I think assuming that you just didn't understand the joke was reasonable seeing as how you thanked him for the explanation.

Oh good the thread's back on track again!

Oh no way daddyman, you don't get out of it that easily... I am one angry fucker now

MissLemon I thanked him for his explanation because it wasn't an apology. I don't expect an apology but I do always pick out sexual references which make me uncomfortable.

Just a hangback from being a survivor of "angry fucking" I suppose.

So no one is ever allowed to make a joke which you feel offended by then, due to your past?

It clearly was a joke about the indredible hulk, but then you know that now don't you?

I knew it anyway. I just didn't like it as I pointed out. If I want to point out that a joke with sexual reference in it makes me uncomfortable I will. I never said I was the joke police.

But I will always, always point out what I see as inappropriate.

I would like to apologise to the incredible hulk. I did not intend to insinuate in any way that he is unkind to his sexual partners. In all probability he is a kind and gentle lover who enjoys giving his partner a sensual massage to the music of Barry white.

I am just a puny human, please don't be angry with me. I get the impression I wouldn't like you when you're angry...

She/he can make the joke, and she can be offended, move on...

can you go in other peoples bedrooms??

I don't go into other people's bedrooms and hardly anyone goes into ours because it's in the loft, and I like it that way!

It's a bit tricky in the IL's house because it's a bungalow but I tell the dc's to keep out MIL's bedroom - if nothing else to stop them fiddling with all the stuff on the dressing table.

With my mum and step dad, if the door is open I can go in, if the door is closed then I don't.
Very rarely been into my stbxpils and they would as a matter of course not have gone into mine and stbxh's room.
We have/had a rule that dd was only allowed into ds's bedroom by invitation and vice versa.
They wandered into ours without so much as a by your leave unless the door was closed, in which case they would knock first.
Bedrooms should be somewhere you can go in order to get away from the rest of the world.

I would like to apologise to the incredible hulk. I did not intend to insinuate in any way that he is unkind to his sexual partners. In all probability he is a kind and gentle lover who enjoys giving his partner a sensual massage to the music of Barry white.

We only have two bedrooms so whenever we have guests, they sleep in our bedroom. Therefore they are welcome to wander in. Just don't go through the wardrobes or cupboard like my MIL does and then doesn't like what she finds.

however the hulk much like my fil bursts in unannounced

If the door to a bedroom is shut then you shouldn't go in without knocking. On the other hand if the door is open and he could see or hear you moving around and was maybe passing the room anyway I don't see the problem, then it's just a room with a bed in it.
If you don't want him coming in close the door behind you.

Personally I dont think that you should peep about in bedrooms.

And on another note, I think I would do Bruce Bannerman, but the Hulk looks like he would have limited pillow talk afterwards.

I think I would go for spiderman, or at a push bananaman.

pickle that's not cool! Bananaman's a schoolboy!

No not when he turns hes not!

Come on its not like I said bananas in pajamas or anything.

I'd be really worried if you wanted to be double teamed by them

beardy

Spidey would be my top pick. Webby styleee.

You are ALL WRONG

Batman would defo be best in the bedroom

Its his bat tits which put me off!

How about BatFink? Hes cute.

I'd go for wonder woman. She can tie me up in her lasso of truth anytime...