To think you should stay out of other people's bedrooms

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pil's were just visiting ( for 10 days) and I lost track of the times FIL came into my bedroom. He normally has a problem with boundaries, and after being with dh for 15 years, i am used to it.

Either I was in there, or the dc's were, so to my knowledge he doesn't go in there alone, he doesn't snoop around, he just talks to whoever is in there.

But I would never go into another adults bedroom - we stayed at pil's house for six weeks and I don't think I ever went in their bedroom.

AIBU to think you should respect some spaces in other people's houses? Or is this normal behavior? and no , I didn't confront him.

YANBU!! My mil does this all the time to "let DD see herself in the mirror" . I hate it!

I've been thinking about this. I think perhaps it's the difference made by a man posting a joke about sexual violence in the middle of a room/forum full of women, and if the same thing was posted by a woman.

I don't know though. I'm probably just being unreasonable today. It just made me uncomfortable.

But like if I went onto a mainly male forum and made a joke about cutting off testicles. They'd probably find it funny if I was another bloke but coming from a woman, who could never begin to understand how a man perceives his own body, it would feel a bit off.

But it probably isn't worth a big discussion. I don't know why I felt odd about it, I don't expect everyone else to.

I would like to point out that importantly in beardys defence it was NOT a joke about sexual violence.

Oh. I thought the juxtaposition of the words angry and fucking were kind of concisely that, actually.

A joke involving a reference to sexual violence perhaps?

It wasn't a post about sexual violence.

It was a post pointing out that the Hulk's strap-on would be green, not black, and that the Hulk was usually angry

Yes but importantly it used the word fucking, which is an obscenity, and combined with the word angry can make some people feel uncomfortable. Which it did.

No there are not ed.

And even if you constructed it incorrectly he did explain exactly the point of the joke two posts later. After apologising to mrs.

It really annoys me when people put words in others mouths I have to say, it's really not fair.

In fact if a man had posted about 'fucking' someone/anyone/anything, I'd probably still have felt uncomfortable.

How am I putting words in his mouth? I don't understand.

So can piss, shit, arse sex, bugger, stick and yoghurt if you've had the right experience.

I think your being totally unfair, to both daddy and all the other male posters on here with your comments.

Because he has told you it's not about sexual bloody violence!

He's told you and you don't seem to be accepting this.

Argh.

YANBU. Recently the PILs got new fitted wardrobes put in their bedroom and invited DH and I to have a look. They had also decorated 'our' and 'BILs' bedrooms.

I was very uncomfortable being in there even with an explicit invitation.

I'm sorry if you have an issue with that ed I don't see how you can expect 50 percent of the population to not say fucking around you.

Pickled actually he was careful NOT to apologise to me...which I pointed out.

Thank you for grasping what I was getting at Ed.

Most people haven't had bad experiences with yogurt.

I'm not trying to be unfair. I'm just saying it made me feel uncomfortable coming from a man on a mainly female forum. Me and MrsC both did, apparently. I'm not entirely sure why, but I don't think it is 'unfair' to say how I/we feel about it.

I know he apologised, he then mucked about taking the piss as though he didn't really mean it.

Some of us are sensitive to things like that, some are clearly not. I'm sorry if I am wrong to say I feel upset by it, but I do, and I can't help it.

And now I've said it and I'll bugger off.

Jesus fucking Christ! He was talking about a Hulk Strap On!

Ffs people are going out of their way to be offended today!

I fuck, you fuck, we all fucking fuck.

Would you rather he said Angry Fornication

Or maybe he didn't apologise. I can't figure it out.

FanjoCat I use the word fucking....its not the word that bothered me but in the context that Beardy* used it, I felt uncomfortable. I have the right to point out if something makes me uncomfortable and just because it doesn't make YOU uncomfortable doesn't mean that I should shut up about it imo.

Yes, I would rather he had said that. Absolutely a world of difference. I could have lived with that.

'Because he has told you it's not about sexual bloody violence!' sorry, I still don't understand how angry fucking is not describing sexual violence.

Yes and you made your feelings known and he apologised.

I wouldn't have apologised either!

I have been attacked sexually and been in bad relationships where it also happened but I saw it as a joke.

Not like he's going round saying Here's some angry fucking from my green strap on

Inspector I would rather he didn't come on a fairly innocuous thread and slip angry fucking jokes in there.

It's about the hulk. I wouldn't say he'd be a gentle lover!

He was speaking about a strap on in someones room...not about the Hulk's sex life.

He explained it earlier on ed.

Sorry you seem to be wandering around the boards today looking to get offended i have to say.