To think it's perfectly acceptable to have long hair when your 35?

[Cathycomehome]

Because my mum thinks it isn't, and I should cut mine. It's very cheap to have long hair and also you can tie it up when you can't be asked to wash it

I've grew my hair over the past year. I had it short for years and it did suit me but I've been of work for a year due to ill health and couldn't be bothered to cut it (I cut my own hair). It's just under my chin and I dye it dark brown and my mum hates it .

I visited work last week and everyone raved about it, the same day my mum told me my ends were awful . Then she phoned me later and told me I'd recover quicker if I cut my hair because all my strength was going into it

She did admit it was an old wives tale, but there might be some truth in it .

Oh and I'm nearly 44.

YANBU....now, I'm 32 and I want to get Miley Cyrus's new short hair cut. AIBU?

Any tips for the dreadful growing back stage? I look like I have a particularly untidy haystack on my head most days! [hshock][hgrin]

I am 37 and am growing mine. I hope I will get to tailbone. Life is too short to worry about how other people think you should look. Do what makes you happy and sod them!

Happy birthday sashh!
Cracker my hair was similar to Mileys when I was over 40.

Also, it is sexy!

YANBU.

I am 35, long hair with bangs :)

When I'm old I'll be like the lady on Titanic with long, grey flowing locks :o

I am 34 - just aged myself there

uP TO THE INDIVIDUAL i would find long hair a bind. especially playing footie

My piano teacher as a child was in her late 80s. She had waist length hair that was always worn in a high bun on top of her head (she was very Edwardian). It rivetted me.

I think short hair nearly always ages people. I love long hair.
You don't have to look like Hilary Clinton etc just because you're getting on a bit.

My mum is 53 and has beautiful hair past her shoulders.

I say fuck all the 'rules'

Oh god, mums and their daughters' hair! I have curly, thick hair that totally suits me long and looks ridiculous and is impossible to take care of short. EVERYONE agrees on this except my mum. Who told me I was "too old" for long hair at 11, and has been trying to make me have it short ever since.

They are just not to be listened to. Otherwise normal, nice, functional women are really weird about this IME.

No YANBU. I am 45 and have bra-strap-length hair with a full fringe. I am another one whose hair is so thick it would mean I spent half my life styling it if it were short (even just the fringe is a nightmare!).

I used to have blond highlights but felt that I was getting to the stage where my hair looked much younger than my face and it was ageing me. Hair is now mousey streaked with grey but I do think I look better.

This thread has made me remember that when I was 29 I thought I should cut my hair off at 30 and then I went on holiday and met a fabulous woman in her fifties with long brown grey-streaked hair. So I kept my hair!

I am 37. I have spent the last couple of years growing my hair (had a lovely short crop almost exactly 2 years ago). I love long hair. I love short hair. Do whatever you want! The only things you should really take into consideration are your hair-type and possibly face-shape, although the latter is more to do with style than length.

When my mum was my age, she had her thick dark curly hair very short. She is now in her mid-sixties and has her hair past her shoulders and dyed blonde! The whole age thing is basically bollocks.

zukiecat No, she sounds horrible and a loon! What nasty things to say - are you ever tempted to cut her out?

I've heard something similar from so many women (both with nice mothers and with nightmare mothers). I'm sure it's some quite primal and unlovely instinct to do with not wanting daughters to be more attractive than oneself.

MIL is 62. She has naturally wavy, very long grey blonde hair. She thinks she looks young and sexy, especially when she gets dolled up for a night out and overdoses on the Elnet. Personally i think she looks like the 6th member of Def Leopard but it doesn't seem to bother the men because she always seems to pull on a Saturday night.

FFS, tell her to piss off. I have knee-length hair and I'm 51 - it's not grey, though, and I usually wear it up. DH adores it and I agree that it's cheap, though I do pay out for Aveda conditioner. I haven't seen a hair stylist since 1980 [hsmile]

YANBU. Interesting that lots of us are growing our hair as a 'last chance' type thing. I spent my 20's wrecking my hair with dye. At 34 I've stopped dying it to see what colour it actually is before it goes grey and growing it as long as I can. The biggest mistake I ever made was having it cut into a 'short, manageable style' aka Mumbob after I had DS1. I felt so frumpy and unfeminine.

I do agree that the 'disapproving mothers' seem to be jealous / envious of their daughters & some may not even realise that it's envy that is driving them to criticise the daughters' long hairstyles.

My Mum is beautiful, age 63 but very young face (natural no botox etc!); & dyed blonde shoulder-length hair, long layers, cut by a very good stylist aged 20s.
Her hair suits her, does not look 'wrong' for her age, & is in very good condition.

Other women aged 60s & all other ages, have complimented her hair to me, & meant it.

She does look very good; i know certain men my age who find my mum attractive despite knowing her age.

Even my Nan can't find anything negative to say! (unusually for her!).

Anyone over the age of 35 should have a shampoo and set with a blue rinse LOL you are all way too old to have long hair tut tut