To think it's perfectly acceptable to have long hair when your 35?

[Cathycomehome]

Because my mum thinks it isn't, and I should cut mine. It's very cheap to have long hair and also you can tie it up when you can't be asked to wash it

I'm 38 and have long hair - I love it! I can go days without having to Brush it and I think it makes me look younger

So your mum IBU

I'm 43 and have hair a couple of inches past my bra strap, soft layers at the front and a fringe and a few highlights. I have it cut every four months and my fringe trimmed every four weeks. I started growing it when I was 40 and absolutely love my hair and get lots of compliments. I plan on keeping my hair long for years after seeing Jane Seymore in a film recently and really liking her hair. I feel years younger than when i had a mumsy bob in my 30's ( have also gone from 13 and a half stone to 9 stone).
Do whatever you want.

ha! I'm so telling her SIBU! I have just washed and conditioned and straightened the lot as dp is out with the kids, and feel happy not to be alone in the long haired old (??) lady camp!

how can you go days without having to brush it?

I don't brush mine when it's curly. That would be madness!

seem to brush my hair all the time, it is wavy not straight but it definitely needs to be brushed every day, more than once really.

I'm nearly 46 and my hair is long. Funnily enough it is actually thicker than it was when I was younger, don't know what that's all about! I had it trimmed yesterday and the hairdresser asked me how short I wanted it, but I said I would keep it long all the time it isn't grey as once I cut it off I will never have it long again (bearing in mind my advanced age ha ha). She agreed with me and so did the other customers (mostly elderly ladies, it's not a 'trendy' salon) [hsmile].

YANBU. Mine is past boob-length and I'm 34. It's not witchy. It's layered and a bit ringlety. When my wrinkles get worse I'll have a fringe!

But my mum is obsessed by hair and always tells me the same thing, OP. Incidentally, she has what I would describe as too pale and straw-like, choppy-short-groovy granny hair which looks hideous. Especially since she's quite dark naturally. I told her I thought her hair was horrible about a year ago when she'd commented on mine one too many times. She's since been quieter but goes on about my husband's and DS's instead. (DS is one)!

I'm 40 and I'm growing mine, it's shoulder length when straightened, most of the time it's curly though so hangs a lot shorter.
BTW I don't brush mine either, quick run through with the fingers and its done.

I'd also add that Nigella Lawson and Jerry Hall look perfectly fine with long hair past 35. Maybe their mums just haven't been brave enough to tell them.

YANBU, I had a teacher who always said that it was "indecent" for a woman to have long hair over 30. Her hair was horrible, she looked really harsh with short hair!

My mum has nice hair, she's 65 but still dark and has sort of groovy granny Toni and Guy hair, but very short. Mine is blonde, never dyed, and I never realised my mum dyed hers until I saw photos of her at my age with a two tone black / grey bob! She went grey at about 25 she tells me, but started dying it at about 40.

I'm 34 and mine looks ok long

Meant to add, my mum spends about £120 a MONTH on her short coloured hair!!

my mums "mum" ( i use the term mum v loosely.) made my mum cut off her knee length hair (into a a very short bob) when she got married at 19. due to the thinking it was wrong for married woman to have long hair???

its a generation thing i think

I've probably not spent £120 on my hair in my entire life!
(Ok, I probably have with shampoo, conditioner, water bills etc included but I mean styling costs). £120 a month? That's a lot.

Do you know...if I did give in to my mum and have my hair cut and styled shorter and coloured lighter...she'd probably ask me what I was doing spending all that money on my hair when I've got a family to think about! She's a bit like that, you see.

33 & long here too, mine's thick & curly so if I had it shorter I'd have to make the effort & style it every day rather than put it up which I have neither the time or the energy to do tbh. My sil keeps asking what age I think is too old for long hair, I tell her I have no idea & nor do I give a flying fuck...... [hgrin]

No. But I had mine cut at 52 and have been bowled over by compliments and feel younger and sexier too

Snap. I think it is perfectly acceptable but my mother doesn't. My hair is only down to my armpits, so it's not even half way down my back, but she thinks I should have a more appropriate cut. It was annoying me. I eventually told her that I'm not looking for the approval of a bunch of women 25 years older than I am and that if I were looking for anybody's approval at all it'd be that of my own age group and the decade or so younger than I am. That silenced her. I'm sorry I had to bite the face off her but really, it was a bone she wouldn't drop.

I can go days, as if I wash it Friday morning, go to work tousled and then weekends consist of dog walking, mucking out horses etc... If I don't go out at the weekend then don't need to brush it again until after I wash it for work on Monday.

Plus it looks good unbrushed - will give in to the scissors one day no doubt but until then I wouldn't swap my hair for anyone's!

My mum is 59 and has lovely long hair, she doesn't dye it either

lol at mixed berries! my mum has an ash blonde dora the explorer hair do which i think is not right for her. but i have mentioned that less than she has mentioned my 'long' hair.

My mum left me a Hair magazine this week, with strategic pages turned over to show the 'nice bobs' she is obsessed with. Can't think what she liked about one because it would make me look like a 44 year old Friar Tuck.

I am 40. Mine is long. If I cut it I would look like all the other 35 plus women who are trying to appear younger and in fact...the opposite happens.