Recently I can't help but notice that certain things dh does piss me off no end - specifically in relation to his mother. I am posting to get an idea of whether I am unreasonable or justified on repeatedly getting so pissed off. I am beginning to sound like a jealous, selfish bitch.
So firstly, dh swapped our £50 Morphy Richards slow cooker for MILs £10 unbranded one. The reasoning? Our was too big for us but MILs was too small for her. Fair enough, except we're now £40 down. This annoys me. When I last raised it with dh he put the phone down on me.
Secondly, for the second time in as many months MIL has offered our belongings to friends of hers to borrow. The first instance was our travel cot, we don't use it so not a problem and we lent it out. I was slightly annoyed that MIL offered our stuff before asking us though.
Today, she offered our "spare" carseat to a friend we don't know for an unknown period of time. Dh thinks I'm completely unreasonable because when he told me about this (after he agreed to lend it and handed it over to MIL) I asked the following questions/stated the following reasons why it shouldn't have been lent to someone:
- The carseat is only spare because dh told me the buckle was broken, so I bought a new carseat > therefore in my opinion it's not fit for use by anyone (dh claims it wasn't broken but ds just didn't fit - it's a 0-4 car seat and ds was 18 months at the time!, I clearly remember him telling me the buckle was broken as I immediately ordered a new carseat to replace it.)
- Since it was declared broken, it has been sat in a smoky, mouldy, damp broken down car on the drive (waiting to be delivered to the tip). Therefore even if it wasn't potentially broken it would need a hell of a damn good clean before any baby goes near it imo.
- We have no idea if the person borrowing the seat knows how to fit it correctly, or if it will even fit in their car (it doesn't fit in most small cars) and the instruction book is not with the seat. We don't know the age or weight of the baby and it doesn't have the newborn insert with it.
Overall I am very worried that this seat is not fit for use for any child and I am very annoyed that dh lent it out and that MIL offered it! Dh says I'm paranoid for worrying about that as it's the parent's decision to use it. I say they haven't been given enough information about the seat to make an informed decision.
I also pointed out that even if we had wanted to use the seat again, lending it out means we no longer have any idea if the seat has ever been dropped etc. Lending carseats to strangers is not something I would ever do.
His mum won't answer my phone calls so I can't tell her any of the above.
Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? And why are dh and his mother pissing me off so much lately?