to ask what you think you might do?

[porridgewithalmondmilk]

if you were in your mid-thirties and didn't have a partner (and were unlikely to meet one?)

I ask because I have been pondering my options for some time now and I am desperate to have children but can't decide whether to "go for it alone" or to accept that I probably won't have children.

The latter makes me more miserable than I can even express but I can't decide if going it alone is selfish?

Any thoughts?

Id go for it.

Having recently had a dd, I would say you need someone who will hold your hand a reassure you everything will be OK on Day Three (after birth), when there is always a surge of fresh hormones when your milk comes in. That doesnt need to be The Dad - just someone who will understand that you just need to cry, but dont always know why you are crying.

Also, do you envisage being the kind of person who would use baby groups? I know it might be silly to rhink about this sort of thing now but if you dont have a great support network, and you dont want to use these sorts of groups, you may find the first few months rather lonely.

I know someone who did this. It was someone I knew through work.

She was nearly 40 and simply hadn't met anyone who she wanted to spend her life with, and she didn't want to settle for someone just to have a baby.

She worked hard and saved for a couple of years so that she could take time off after the birth (self employed) and then went to a clinic.

I believe she is very happy now.

At 34, I probably felt similar to you. I did meet dh, and had DS at 37
If I hadnt I would have been thinking the same way as you.

I would say definitely find a nice friendly clinic.
You might also want to think about getting some of your eggs frozen
If it takes you a couple of years, your egg quality could dramatically decrease. Yes people still have babies at 42,43,44, but it's much harder
I had no problems conceiving at 37, but major problems at 38,39
I wouldn't worry for a second about having no father figure