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To be a bit narked about this party

149 replies

StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 12:17

oh my first AIBU....eek!

My friend and her sister are having a join 35th party. It's a train journey away (£72) and obviously I'll get her a present.

The invite has arrived and I have to take my own food and drink!

They both work and they're having the party in their well-off parents back garden (so no venue hire costs) so am I being unreasonable to think they could be supplying at least the food if not also the drink?

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complexnumber · 15/10/2012 19:13

Sorry, can I post that again with the bold stuff where it's meant to be:

complexnumber I suppose I am assuming fellow employees are not poking bits of poo up the tap. Who knows?! I do know another colleague (different workplace) was caught pissing in the sink.

I'm also presuming the water was boiled. Right enough that was colleagues reply too - but they were tap touching to fill the kettle, then rifling around in a bag/caddy to get the tea bags for their tea.

Hopefully the office cleaner wasn't using the same cloth to wipe the toilet and sink either. Who knows? Waslostnowamfound

My own, possibly rather 'rustic', view maybe comes from living in a W.African village for two years without any running water (i.e. no flushing toilets) or electricity. You shat in a hole, then washed your arse by dabbing your hands in water and using your fingers to wipe the shit off you then splashed some more (river) water on your hands to clean them.

None of the people within that village would appreciate their habits being called 'disgusting' it was what they had being doing for generations.

but they were tap touching to fill the kettle that's quite funny.

There is no point in us arguing about this as we obviously come from completely polarised views.

TheOneWithTheHair · 15/10/2012 19:13

Thanks Iodine. I've had two more dcs since then and I'm too bloody tired I think. Grin

It was one of those one off nights where everyone played along and I think it finished about 6am.

I'll let you know if I ever get up the energy again. And I've just remembered we sent everyone home with bacon butties. Sounds too much like hard work to do now. Blush

complexnumber · 15/10/2012 19:14

Oh blimey!

I have SO MUCH just misposted!

irishchic · 15/10/2012 19:23

OP I would not be going to this party on principle alone! Not to mention that it will cost you a fortune and you'll be standing around in the cold all night, what's not to hate? Hmm

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StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 19:24

complex that is a classic mis-post!

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fuckadoodlepoopoo · 15/10/2012 19:34

Complex. Grin

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 15/10/2012 19:35

I was really confused there for a minute. Thought they were going to be pooping in a hole at the party!

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 15/10/2012 19:37

itsatrap A (now ex) friend threw a party a few years ago for her dp, the food consisted of a few Iceland party platters and soggy sandwiches. she then sent a (mortified) friend round the party guests with a glass asking for contributions for the food! The worst bit is she then spent ages bragging about how much profit she had made from peoples contributions! Bonkers!

Uergh. I went to one like that as well. The host came sound and asked for a set amount each. It was so weird.

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 15/10/2012 19:43

That one about the bloke getting everyone to bring his favourite wine is shocking!

TheProvincialLady · 15/10/2012 19:44

Spend the £72 train fare on a taxi to send a paper plate of tinned pork luncheon meat sandwiches and half a bottle of lambrini with the lid sealed up with brown tape. And then stay in the warm in your own house. This party will be rubbish.

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StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 20:19

Right, so if I don't go what do I say? I don't have the stomach for the very honest "I'm not coming because I think you're tight and the party will be crap'.

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LindyHemming · 15/10/2012 20:22

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Osmiornica · 15/10/2012 20:31

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whois · 15/10/2012 20:32

YANBU

Party should provide food AND some booze but would also expect to take a bottle or two with me.

Tight arse. So typically English.

Bogeyface · 15/10/2012 20:34

Re Winter garden parties.

The best BBQ I ever went to was at the beginning of November. It PISSED it down! There was a couple of gazebos up to shelter from the rain, a couple of heaters and lots of booze and warm clothers, it was brilliant!

But.....the host provided the food, which must have cost a lot, and his brothers all clubbed in to pay for the beers and wines, and we all took a load more.

I wouldnt go to this one though!

ChickenFillet · 15/10/2012 20:35

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Bogeyface · 15/10/2012 20:35

Whois I dont think it is typically English at all! Are you English? Do you do that?

I am English and I have never ever experienced this!

Error404 · 15/10/2012 20:37

"My friend and her sister are having a join 35th party"

I must be really stupid and have missed the obvious but presumably they're twins are they?

Kennyp · 15/10/2012 20:38

Tighter than a gnat's chuff, as they say.
I couldnt be arsed to go if that was the set up

MadBusLadyHauntsTheMetro · 15/10/2012 20:39

Is that "typically English"? Confused I thought it was supposed to be Scots who were tight assuming one deals in daft stereotypes at all

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StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 20:40

No they aren't twins but there's only 11 months between them so they're having it to coincide with the younger sister's birthday.

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squeaver · 15/10/2012 20:40

Stargeglue - don't you have something else on that you've only just realised was in the diary? You'd forgotten all about it because you were asked to save the date months ago....

You live 200 miles away, you presumably have a completely separate group of friends she doesn't know at all. She'll never know...

hermioneweasley · 15/10/2012 20:41

You won't get to see her that much at the party. Why not take her out for a meal instead another time - if you book far enough in advance I would think you old get your train cheaper?

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StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 20:42

Yes if I'd had more than a month in notice I think the train would be cheaper.

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mameulah · 15/10/2012 20:42

YANBU, personally I can't stand it when I get an invitation with a load of instructions on it. Whether it's gift list suggstions or what to bring. One time I was invited to a party and told to take a decoration for their tree and a bottle of vodka. It puts me right off when someone else decides how I should be spending my time and money!