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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be a bit narked about this party

149 replies

StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 12:17

oh my first AIBU....eek!

My friend and her sister are having a join 35th party. It's a train journey away (£72) and obviously I'll get her a present.

The invite has arrived and I have to take my own food and drink!

They both work and they're having the party in their well-off parents back garden (so no venue hire costs) so am I being unreasonable to think they could be supplying at least the food if not also the drink?

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HumphreyCobbler · 15/10/2012 12:18

I could not host a party and expect everyone to bring the food.

WelshMaenad · 15/10/2012 12:19

Fuck that for a troupe of badgers.

Send her a card and a £10 Asda gift voucher and suggest she treats her guests to a bottle of Cava.

BumpingFuglies · 15/10/2012 12:20

Drink yes, food no. Tight-arses

Ragwort · 15/10/2012 12:20

Perhaps the food and drink is instead of a present? I have been invited to parties where it is specifically stated not to give gifts but donations of food/drink appreciated; however it is obviously difficult to lug a few bottles and a plate of sandwiches on a train ride Grin.

You could always decline the invitation, doesn't sound much of a party to me !

Original poster
StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 12:21

It doesn't say no presents on the invite though.

Ah, I'm in a grump about it to be honest but if I don't go I'm unlikely to see her for ages.

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TheOneWithTheHair · 15/10/2012 12:22

I think not doing food is odd. YANBU

LindyHemming · 15/10/2012 12:24

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SugariceAndScary · 15/10/2012 12:27

YANBU, how stingey!

A train ticket with food and booze on top, not sure I'd want to pay that much for a 35th party.

Will everyone need to line up to heat their own bought food in the microwave and oven? Perish the thought!

squoosh · 15/10/2012 12:28

Tighter than a cat's bum hole.

Some people have such a feckin' cheek.

WorraLiberty · 15/10/2012 12:28

Bloody hell what a tight pair!

I wonder if the birds have to bring their own water and seeds to the bird table? Grin

fraserboysmum · 15/10/2012 12:30

IMO you're right to be in a grump, i was the same a few years back when my SIL invited us to theirs for New Years ( a four hour drive away) ... when i offered to buy some booze to take with us she said " no, what i'll do is work out how much i've spent on food and alcohol while you've been with us as i want to push the boat out and so i'll send you the bill for half afterwards" some hospitality ! We didn't go in the end ....

lynniep · 15/10/2012 12:31

thats just wierd. dont go.

Original poster
StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 12:34

Fraser that is worse!

I just don't get it, I always lay on food and drink and assume big drinkers will bring extra if they want to.

It's the food that gets me really.

Ah good to vent!

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HipHopOpotomus · 15/10/2012 12:35

Providing guests with food at a party is pretty basic behaviour. They sound v tight. I probably wouldn't go unless it was a really fun crowd.

Is it food to share? (have image of each guest wearing a backpack with their own bottle and bags of crips in) Grin

starfishmummy · 15/10/2012 12:37

Party in the garden at this time of year?????
they must be mad!

Original poster
StrangeGlue · 15/10/2012 12:39

Yes the invite says to wear warm clothes! I'm hoping I'm allowed inside to the loo!

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HipHopOpotomus · 15/10/2012 12:40

they've probably spent the food budget on portaloos!

TheOneWithTheHair · 15/10/2012 12:41

It gets stranger by the second. It sounds miserable to me. :(
Don't bother going.

Alligatorpie · 15/10/2012 12:42

Doesn't sound like much if a party. I would probably come down with a last minute illness ( cause i am a wimp and wouldn't want to tell her why I wasn't coming)

Alligatorpie · 15/10/2012 12:42

Of

Mypopcornface · 15/10/2012 12:45

Get sick and don't go.

squeaver · 15/10/2012 12:49

I'm curious to know what the invitation said. Was it as blatant as "please bring your own food and drink"?

You'd think they could stretch to a few bags of Hula Hoops, wouldn't you?

Littlemissimpatient · 15/10/2012 12:51

I'd make an excuse, send her a card and suggest you both go out for dinner one night near you or somewhere half way

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 15/10/2012 12:53

YANBU, they are basically having an outside house party in the freezing cold Hmm I'd decline the invitation.

Viviennemary · 15/10/2012 12:56

They have got a bit of a nerve. I think I might have other plans if I were you. And in a back garden in this weather. Will anybody go?