to feel that most people feel it is OK to make nasty comments/ridicule an overweight/fat person'?

[SoleSource]

AIBU?

Outraged I agree. My PILs, who are both a bit overweight, have a bit of an issue with fat people. My FIL in particular, and he has a particular issue with fat women, not so much men. Very odd.

When I got quite thin, a lot of friends commented about being worried about me. It wasn't ideal because it unfortunately fuelled my desire to further control my weight. But they were speaking out of love and concern and I would probably do the same if a friend had drastically lost weight and was clearly underweight. However, I certainly wouldn't do the same if a friend suddenly gained a lot of weight, for fear of offending them. And yet, a sudden increase in weight would be as much of a worry as a sudden loss, in terms of mental health, wouldn't it? It's just that commenting on a weight gain seems much more unkind than the other.

YANBU - Obese people do get ridiculed without much thought - i've heard it & try to remind others that we don't know why that person is fat.

Eating too large a volume of food for the amount of weight lost by daily exercise is the main cause of obesity.

(Basically that is eating too many calories for a person's individual BMR - Base Metabolic Rate - too use, & those extra calories are then stored as fat).

But overeating can be exacerbated by a variety of issues including:

• Taking certain medications that increase the appetite;
• 'Comfort eating' caused by emotional problems such as depression, loneliness or even boredom;
• A lack of knowledge about nutrition means a person will make poor food choices;
• Living in a home environment where family members / friends overeat makes it difficult to recognise that overeating is unhealthy;
• Advertising & supermarket offers 'push' junk foods & make it hard to resist temptation..

Regular, preferably daily, exercise that is adequate to 'burn off' extra calories is difficult when a person cannot exercise much due to physical disability, time constraints, family & job responsibilities; or lack of motivation for various reasons including depression / low self-esteem.

Any obese individual that you see could well be losing weight through diet & exercise; yet they still get mocked while making the effort - because it takes a long time with lots of hard work to lose that weight.

It's so unfair that anyone gets ridiculed for their size or questioned about it by people - whether someone is overweight or underweight is their business & only those close to them or medical professionals should discuss it tactfully; no-one else should comment.

YANBU Sole.

I'm sorry that bitch in the supermarket made you feel like this.

People can be so vile. And without sounding sexist it generally seems to be men who shout such abuse at women.

I've always been around a 14 so just average really. However I remember two incidents of abuse I've had in the past.

First was on a night out in my 20s when some drunk bloke outside a club eating a huge pizza said something about me being fat. I was rather tipsy and trotted over to him and shouted "SURPRISE! TOSS A PANCAKE" and gave the pizza box an almighty whack causing it to do a comedy splat right in his face. It was comedy gold. He wasn't too happy as we walked off laughing!

Second time I was 39 weeks pregnant with DS1. Some bloke in a car park called me a fat hog. Unfortunately for him he was parked (very badly!) next to me and the trolley I had was naughty and insisted on scraping itself aaaaall the way along the driver's side leaving seceral beautiful go faster lines for him.

YANBU OP, but please remember these cock pinned little cretins will eventually die.

Lol Samuel

A checkout operator recently turned to her colleague and mock-whispered 'diet coke? Ha ha, surely she's slim enough' when I was shopping the other day.
Fucking bitch

In a pub last week, a fellow diner said to her partner, ' if I get that fat (pointing at me), just shoot me'

I'm a wheelchair user, I'm fat, but don't get a lot of excerise due to my spinal condition.

Oh, I thought of another, some people at work moved offices and ended up near my team. I heard one say to the others 'so we know who eats all the pies in our new office then'
I'm fat, but not deaf.

I don't agree that it is ok. I'm average in size myself.

That's a good comment Fiendishlie - people should use it ("I'm fat but I'm not deaf"). Hopefully it will make the wankers blush at their own rudeness

Those are horrible things to do Samuel, and they are not justified by you having to put up with a fat comment. Nasty, pathetic and childish behaviour, and I am shocked at you being given a 'lol' for it. But then a 'lol' is the sort of thing my 12 year old has only just grown out of, so I'm not sure what I expect really.

Have not read all the comments but I have found people find it more acceptable to mock/ point out skinny people. I am naturally slim and get fucked off with people telling me that I am skinny etc etc. it is normally overweight people who go out of their way to point it out. If I made a comment about how fat they were there would be outrage.

So YABU, it is much more common to be insulted for being thin nowadays.

You know why a size 14 or whatever is 'average', don't you? You know how averages work?

Does that make any difference to whether a person's weight is anyone else's business though Littlesurprise?

DesperatelySeekingPerfection maybe you should read all the thread then.

Oh my bloody noras!

A gorgeous man was sming at me and checking me out today :)

He must have poo.in his eyes.

Obviously didn't lime me THAT much or he would have asked for my number.

Heh, Sole, you can't be as bad as all that

Next time, bloody GIVE him your number

Hehe I feel nice at what happened but could not give him my number. I am old fashioned. Hope it happebs again. Gosh wonder why.

It is not okay.

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