to have said something to this man at the pool about his baby? Or should I have said something earlier?

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At DD1's swimming lesson today, a man got into the public bit of the pool with a 7 week old baby in just a swim nappy. The pool is at a private gym and quite a pleasant temperature for adults but too cold for an almost naked baby. I take DD2, 8mo, swimming there with a swim nappy, swim pants and a wet suit. (Possibly overkill, but she seems quite happy).

I was really unsure whether to say anything and asked another mum who agreed with me but also didn't say anything. They stayed in for about 10 minutes and then I saw them again in the family changing room. At this point I mentioned to the man that you can buy wetsuits for babies as it can be quite cold in the pool. He said he didn't know and asked where he could get one.

Should I have said something earlier? Or nothing at all? The baby didn't seem unhappy and luckily the man took my comments as well meaning advice rather than criticism. More a WWYD than AIBU?

Lordy she didn't wade over to beat the man over the head with a catalogue for wetsuits. She checked with another mom that she wasn't being crazy even though she was and had a polite passing chat with the man as he left.

OP I think you're wrong but hey ho no harm done.

I bet Dad doesn't feel great for getting it "wrong" though. Don't we all worry ourselves sick over our PFB's? If someone actually approaches you to tell you you're getting it wrong I think that would feel awful.

I know Big - I was agreeing with you. Not ultra clear from my wording

She didn't say he got it wrong and if that was his interpretation of a piece of information, he would be over sensitive.

I don't agree with that at all domedon.

You do know that 12 years ago when dd was a baby they didn't make wetsuits for babies. She went in the pool from 6 weeks old and loved it.

Any reason why? Obviously your right to disagree and not justify but makes for little debate.

Think we established that they are unnecessary on page 1 Viva.

I don't think that it's for you to say someone is oversensitive because they might worry that they are not doing the right thing for their child after a comment from a random stranger.

I think that the majority of first time clueless parents would be concerned that a. They had got it wrong and caused their child discomfort and b. If they didn't get this wetsuit then would they be perceived as being neglectful by others.

Exactly viva.

I do think it is my place to say when someone is being over sensitive. I am happy with my ability to assess a situation and find the reasonable middle ground (I do it for a living and am successful). Most new parents are over sensitive about something at some point, it comes from insecurity. Most of us can look back and admit that we were over sensitive about things like criticism.

He asked where he could get one, he sounded interested and OP said he took it as the well meaning advice it was. FWIW if he had been worried after that would also be a sign of insecurity.

DD had one of those wetsuits when she was a baby - it did keep her warm, unless I was imagining the warm water that used to pour out when I took it off her. And while it wasn't absolutely necessary, it was rather handy as it allowed us to go I the pool for more than ten minutes. So YANBU not to have said something earlier, as the baby wasn't in danger or discomfort, but IMO YANBU to have said something when you did, as you may have given the chap a tip to allow longer swimming sessions.

Like I said I disagree with you entirely.

Exactly Don nowhere did the OP "criticize" him. If I had a pound for every valuable snipped that other parents have given me...well....I'd not be on here rabbiting about shite that's for sure!

Snippet. Not SNIPPED!

me either Big

I can't believe there are people on here who think wetsuits don't work because water gets in. Erm - that's why wetsuits are called wet and drysuits are called dry!

The water goes in and your body heats it up; the neoprene prevents it from being washed away, effectively, and holds the layer of warm water next to the part of the body that's wrapped in neoprene. In the baby's case, it's core. Hence lack of shivering when wetsuits are used.

Homeopathy doesn't work; true. Wetsuits do!

Its core, sorry. Meant to say I back what trixy has said.

I wouldn't personally take my own young baby in an adult pool without a wetsuit (dd's lips used to turn blue pretty quickly without one even in the warm learner pool). I've never actually bought one, just borrowed one at lessons and have since been handed down one and they're very effective and not too restrictive as they only cover the torso unlike adult wetsuits.

I don't think you said anything out of order. Probably wouldn't have got involved myself, but it doesn't sound as if he minded.

Really the only mistake you made was to post in aibu

Wetsuits also work because you the baby wees in them and the warm wee stays next to the skin.

Blimey, is this thing still going? I went to bed at 9 and it looks like I missed all the fun.

Wetsuits work. The linked to product is in no way a wetsuit. Is that so hard to grasp?

i never used a wet suuit on any of mine

Does he need to put a swim suit on baby before he bathes it too?

If baby wasn't unhappy, I don't see the issue.

Why the actual jeff are people taking 7 week old babies for "swimming lessons"????

Baby wasn't at swimming lessons, OP was!