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to have said something to this man at the pool about his baby? Or should I have said something earlier?

213 replies

TickledOnion · 07/10/2012 20:21

At DD1's swimming lesson today, a man got into the public bit of the pool with a 7 week old baby in just a swim nappy. The pool is at a private gym and quite a pleasant temperature for adults but too cold for an almost naked baby. I take DD2, 8mo, swimming there with a swim nappy, swim pants and a wet suit. (Possibly overkill, but she seems quite happy).

I was really unsure whether to say anything and asked another mum who agreed with me but also didn't say anything. They stayed in for about 10 minutes and then I saw them again in the family changing room. At this point I mentioned to the man that you can buy wetsuits for babies as it can be quite cold in the pool. He said he didn't know and asked where he could get one.

Should I have said something earlier? Or nothing at all? The baby didn't seem unhappy and luckily the man took my comments as well meaning advice rather than criticism. More a WWYD than AIBU?

OP posts:
Pixel · 07/10/2012 22:28

I think they look useful actually.

Must give good grip, babies can be slippery little devils Grin.

DeepPurple · 07/10/2012 22:31

There is really no need for a wet suit.

trixymalixy · 07/10/2012 22:42

The need for something extra to keep a baby warm is dependant in the individual pool temperature, fairly obviously.

I don't own one, I borrowed one when the pool temperature was lower than usual. DD went from shivering to being fine. They do work.

GoSakuramachi · 07/10/2012 22:43

They don't.

GoldShip · 07/10/2012 22:45

Just another way for companies to make money.

trixymalixy · 07/10/2012 22:50

Ah, so I guess those shortie wetsuits that surfers wear don't work either because they are not completely covered Hmm. Or even the long neoprene wetsuits that surfers wear that arent conpletely watertight. Only dry suits are completely watertight.

I guess all those people are wasting their money on non watertight wetsuits. Hmm

Have you ever worn one?

GoSakuramachi · 07/10/2012 22:52

any of that might be relevant if the product being talked about was in anyway a wetsuit. It isn't.

GoldShip · 07/10/2012 22:54

Trixy have you ever worn a proper wetsuit? These baby ones are not wetsuits in the sense of the word

If they were you wouldn't even be able to get baby in one!

DoMeDon · 07/10/2012 22:58

So despite people saying they work, who have experience of them working, you know better Hmm

Way2Go · 07/10/2012 22:59

I think what you did sounds about right.

I not sure why some posters have to be so rude and unpleasant. Sad

PedanticPanda · 07/10/2012 23:03

Yabu, for gossiping about him to someone else and for approaching him with the comment about the wetsuit. He was only there for ten minutes fgs, if the baby was very uncomfortable I'm sure it would have found a way to let its dad know.

GoSakuramachi · 07/10/2012 23:04

People say homeopathy and reiki work too, and they don't.

Rude and unpleasant was the OP butting in with someone taking their kid swimming in an entirely normal fashion.

cansu · 07/10/2012 23:05

I am actually shocked that you would think it Ok to give this man unsolicited baby care advice. I actually think that the baby would be colder in one of these suits and think your worry is OTT. You are incredibly lucky that this parent was obviously calm, reasonable type or perhaps just very surprised. How would you feel if someone approached you and suggested for example that your child needed their coat or gloves or whatever. I thought when I opened this thread I was going to read about someone doing something dangerous, not taking their baby in a heated pool. Honestly utterly mad!

trixymalixy · 07/10/2012 23:06

Umm yes I have.

I have also seen with my own eyes my DD going from shivering to not shivering wearing one of those baby wetsuits. Have you used one?

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 07/10/2012 23:09

She only mentioned it...I dont think she was being unreasonable. My DD2 used to shiver and go pale in the pool and I never once thought of a wetsuit. I just used to get her out fast.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 07/10/2012 23:10

cansu "You are ACTUALLY SHOCKED that another parent DARED to share some knowledge?

Love to see you when someone does something really bad! Grin

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 07/10/2012 23:12

lol at this thread! All she said was "You can get wetsuits for babies..the pools can be quite cold"

Not.

"You foolish man your child is FREEZING! How COULD you do that to him!!!"

or anything.

akaemmafrost · 07/10/2012 23:12

Agree entirely with the last paragraph of your last post gosakura.

akaemmafrost · 07/10/2012 23:13

No she didn't need to say that to him because she had already had a good old gossip with the other Mum about it.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 07/10/2012 23:16

So what? Who cares if she asked another Mum for advice about mentioning it?? She hardly dragged his good name through the mud did she? Grin this thread is really silly. All going off about something so minor.

akaemmafrost · 07/10/2012 23:17

Just like the op did.

DoMeDon · 07/10/2012 23:18

Asked another mum - not gossiped. Normal human interaction seems to be slipping by.

DoMeDon · 07/10/2012 23:18

She didn't go off though - she has been thoroughly pleasant throughout, despite the frothing and name calling.

akaemmafrost · 07/10/2012 23:19

How did the all the babies manage to go swimming WITHOUT wetsuits for all those years I wonder? Confused I don't think I have ever actually seen a baby in one in an indoor pool. I would think the OP was a complete loon if she approached me to tell me my baby should be in a wetsuit.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts · 07/10/2012 23:19

No no Don...I meant all the weird's on here picking on her...they went off on a big silly rant. not the OP.