To think that the British work is insidious

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And petty and full of cronies...

Just that.

The qualities that help make you great at your job might make you a poor candidate for promotion. You are idealistic, emotional and direct. Not qualities many people seek in a manager*.

• assuming 'direct ' means tactless. It generally does.

I agree holey. It is holding me back.

I am not idealistic. Not emotional but Passionate and quiet. so tend to come across as arrogant or unapproachable although I am friendly.

Another problem is that none of us really know what other people think of us and that can vary from person to person. Eg you think I am direct someone else thinks I am rude. I work ith someone who thinks she is really hard working; I think she is a lazy cow who spends too much time making everything into a drama instead of just getting on with it. But who is right?

Will pm you shortly.
Can I ask some questions please?

You say you are emotional.What sorts of things have you got emotional at work about,that maybe other work colleagues didnt get emotional over?
What changes have you suggested be implemented that have not been taken up.
I think you said you moan.Have fellow colleagues commented on this.
Are you British? Have you worked abroad and are now working in the UK,and have suggested your work place does some things that you have gleaned from working overseas.
What age are you? Dont answer any if this if you dont want to.
Might they think you may want to start a family soon,so are possibly discriminating against you.
Do you meet up with them socially at all.
Do you say to them from time to time that you feel like leaving?

ooh,coming across as arrogant and unapproachable.
If that is what people see and think,even though it is not true,that is not going to help you at all.
I you said you didnt want to change character.
It sounds like you need to change the public perception of yourself so they can understand and see the real you.
The classic book for this thread is "How to win friends and influence people".
I havent read all of it,but I think you would find it useful if you havent read it already.

yes, you can PM me.