to feel that most females have been the victim of some kind of sexual abuse?

[SoleSource]

AIBU?

I was very nearly raped by a taxi driver. Also my cries of NO have been ignored on a couple of occasions.

[nirvana1111]

I stopped reading at the baby abuse post because I felt so sick.so apologies if this has already been said but why the fuck did you think it would be ok to post that with no warning. You are nearly as bad as the news who showed it. Disgusting.

[HolyAutumnGoldBatman]

'Just read some more posts, really surprised that some women have never been assaulted'

that's very disturbing.

[Binkyridesagain]

I have a friend who until recently I didn't know had been raped as a child. She didn't tell me, my SIL did. She asked if my friend was still called '7up', a nickname given to her after her ordeal, my SIL took great pleasure in questioning me about wether the nickname was because she was 7 years old at the time or she had had been raped by 7 men.
I don't think I have ever felt as sickened as I was that day, I haven't spoken to SIL since and do my upmost to stay away from her.

[SoleSource]

It was on national news nirvana. How do you think I felt I fickibn saw it.

[nirvana1111]

Sorry you saw it but IMO you really didn't need to share that. It doesn't really have anything to do with the thread and just upsets people.

[BackforGood]

I think YABU to project your experience on to "most" women.
I've never been the victim of any kind of sexual abuse, and consider that the norm, tbh. Clearly there are a lot of people posting the same on here.
It's terrible that it has happened to anyone, but saying "most" women have been victims is a big jump IMO.

[nokidshere]

I have never been sexually assulted, groped, flashed at, slapped on the arse or anything. I have never been in a position where I could say anyone has taken advantage of me or shown me unwanted sexual attention. Should I count myself lucky? I don't think so.

I think its incredibly sad that many others have suffered and that they don't always feel able to report it. But I really hope that it isn't "most women"! No-one that I know of in my circle of friends has (although obviously it might just not be talked about)

I also find it "interesting" (sorry for want of a better word) that some people have been abused or have had unwanted sexual attention more than once by different people.

[BreconBeBuggered]

she, I don't think it happens to women/girls who don't appear confident. It happens because the perpetrators are abusive pricks.

[MadBusLady]

I'm not sure shewhowines. I've never been particularly confident, but I've also never been that interesting to arseholes somehow (or not that particular kind of arsehole anyway!) and never been friends with them. Probably a bit too sulky-faced and geeky when young.

I had a discussion about this with DP, after he'd been reading some feminist blog posts about how all the decent, normal men should speak out against their arsehole mates who did this kind of thing, and not indulge the more shadowy parts of their "blokiness". He said he totally agreed, but it was kind of difficult, because he didn't want to be friends with arseholes in the first place. The arseholes who grow up thinking it's ok to assault women are also very likely to have aggressed the men whom they considered inferior beta types. So quite a lot of your normal, decent men will have grown up avoiding the arseholes, and they don't get challenged.

[SoleSource]

It was abusive to air tbat disgisting photograph. I felt sick for ages. It abused my.innocence.

[GotMyGoat]

Can somebody report the baby in a dress itv post for me? I don't want to back to it. Its a very distressing and triggering post - i know the poster didn't mean any harm but if needs a warning label on it if it remains.

[nokidshere]

I have to say that I cannot believe ITV would show such a thing - if it were years ago and you were younger are you sure you are not mistaken?

[FromEsme]

I really think you need to report that post, SoleSource and have it deleted. I really did not need to read that without any sort of warning on it.

I have been groped in clubs more times than I can count, and had to fight a man off me in his bedroom.

And I was flashed twice on the same night, both times the men were masturbating. Totally disgusting.

[SoleSource]

I ficking saw it I would not beable to make that up!

[nokidshere]

I didn't say that you made it up - simply thought you saw something that wasn't there? I really do not believe that ITV would be able to show something so graphic?

[RubberBullets]

Nothing ever happened to me and TBH I'm shocked and :( that so many of you have

[ThatBintAgain]

Aren't the statistics 1 in 4 women though, or is it higher?

[thekidsrule]

yanbu me and countless friends have experienced this in one degree or another

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

When I look back on it now, as an adult, a parent and with a sibling of a very similar age then yes, I think I was in a respect. I had consensual sex at 14 with a 19 year old.
I don't in anyway feel affected by it, except for embarrassment because I consented. However, he did in effect take advantage of me. I would be horrifed to learn my sister/child did the same with someone at that age. She's my baby sister, she's not old enough or mature enough to really make an informed decision like that!

[IRCL]

I was going to say YABU to say most however, on reflection I remembered something. When I was 15 me and my then friend got offered a lift home by three men in a car. I wanted to go on the train but my friend thought differently, they asked how old we were and I said Fif before I felt a nudge in my back from my friend. She said we were 16. They gave us a lift not far from home, after a bit of flirting/joking we eventually got out the car..I can't really remember exactly what went on from there.

I ended up outside down by the side of the local supermarket having sex with a 23 year old man that I had known for about 30 minutes. I was a virgin and I told him that. I asked him to slow down as it was really hurting by that point.

He said he would just do something else but only did for a short while then was inside me again.

Looking back I really didn't see it as anything other than a mistake. I ended up confiding in a friend who confided in her mum who made me tell someone. I had to have an interview in a room, be medically examined. It was all quite awful really, the exam came back that my genitals were bruised, I presume that was because of how rough/fast he was being.

I will never ever forgive myself for not catching the train home that night and for going along with something I really didn't want to.

I feel so sad that that experience is my 1st sexual experience.

Sorry it is so long, didn't realise how much I had written!

[SoleSource]

After creating the tbread it came into my mi.d, I felt sick so wrote it to getit oyt. Writing made me feel sick tio.

So angry with ITN was 2001 ti 2003

Have reported my post and sorry everyone :(

[DoIgetastickerforthat]

I hope that there are women out there who have not been subject to assault, but I have. Several times.

-A teenage boy tried to coerce me into sex when I was about 6.
-A man in his 40's/50's groped me on a train when I was 9.
-2 Uncles, 1 used to make suggestive comments about 'giving me a bath' and 'tucking me into bed', I was about 13/14. The other tried to stick his tongue down my throat in a pub (I was in my early twenties).
-Attacked in an underpass, which I thankfully preempted and managed to get away.
-Tricked into meeting some friends of friends at a house, when I got there they weren't there but a guy was and he locked me in and threatened to stab me if I didn't have sex with him. Managed to escape without him touching me but it was a very close call.
-A boss offered me money to sleep with me and became very hostile when I refused.

Plus the usual lewd, shouted remarks out of vans, gropings in clubs and a couple of pervy teachers. Still, I do count myself reasonably lucky to have never been fully assaulted but I do think it has a negative effect even when it's low-level. I'm now very happy to be old and fat and invisible to the majority of men.

[Charliefox]

I've had lots of advances over the years, including being told by a man when I was about 10 that I was a "pretty little tiger", being grabbed, gropped and kissed by an old boyfriends father, being rubbed up against by a flute teacher at school during a private lesson when I was 12 and being propositioned by the father of the children I was babysitting when I was 14. Do I consider myself to have been abused in anyway at all? Not even remotely.