Men are bad ladies are good

[Joiningthegang]

My 3dc had a school assembly where they talked about what to do if you get lost.

Please bear in mind this is the translated by the kids version.

If they get lost they should find a lady - preferably who has children, then other ladies, then men, because they arcane be bad.

Aibu to be cross that my boys aged 6 and 4 are being given negative messages about being male. I am also cross that this sounds like "stranger danger" again when children are far more at risk from non-strangers.

Sooooo - aibu to send an email to the head (and suggestions of how to say it much appreciated.

"What if there is nobody with children around?"

"don't ask a man, don't ask a man, don't ask a man"

that did actually (and rarely) make me laugh out loud!

I get what you mean but isn't this just what we all do if in need of help - a quick risk assessment of who to approach - of course stereotyping means that you might overlook a good person or might find a wolf in sheep's clothing but you would limit your chances by doing so.

Well, what do the statistics say, about the ratio of man to woman child abductors?

How many cases can anyone remember of a child being abducted by a man after approaching them because they were lost in the local shopping centre?

I am getting on a bit and i cant remember one case.

Thank you for your responses - I did mention this to the head to say "I don't know what you actually said and I'm sure it was fine, but this is what they translated it as". He said this wasn't his intention and he would speak to them.

On reflection and ideas from this thread make me think:
Tell them to stay where they are (not go off to find the right looking person)
Shout for mummy or daddy
Let someone know you have lost your mummy- someone with children might be best.

I do honestly think our sons are growing up with these subtle messages about men and this cannot be a good thing for them - and I'm not naive, I know there are more bad men out there than bad women, but I don't want my boys to think society has very negatives expectations of them.