Marry the man, marry his family

[CuriosityCola]

Would I be unreasonable to consider leaving a lovely guy because I detest spending time with his family?

We are a clash of personalities. I feel bad if dh doesn't see his family as much because of me. However, I normally end up seeing them every weekend and it has gone from me finding them slightly annoying to not being able to stand them.

Part of me thinks this is my immaturity and I should just get on with things and bite my tongue. Another part thinks life is too short to spend lots of time with (and all important occasions including my birthday) with people I don't like.

I think if I discovered my DH was chatting to his mum about how difficult I was and how embarrassing I am at parties and wanting advice on how to sort me out, I'd pretty much assume our marriage was over.

He clearly sees his mother as normal and you as the anomaly...and she's encouraging that.

unless contact is curtailed he will become more like them and you will be the outsider.

Saw my mother go through this, it isn't pretty.