to move my 9mth old babies cot into the bathroom during sleep training

[elcap]

I have just started back at work, and my 9mnth old is still not sleeping through. We have started controlled crying but it wakes her sister in the adjoining room.

I am getting a bit desperate. AIBU to move her into the bathroom for a few nights while we go through the controlled crying journey (battle...)

My husband seems to think its child cruelty.... I just think its practical solution for everyone to get more sleep in the long run.

I think that is very heartless. I would never put my baby in the bathroom. I certainly do not believe in controlled crying either. Why would you want to teach your baby that it doesn't matter how much they cry because nobody will come to comfort them. Your baby is crying for a reason she wants to be cuddled proberbly. Why don't you just pick her up and settle her back to sleep?

And by the way my dd (now 2) woke up several times a night at 10 months. Its not unusual or unreasonable by any means

I too thought this thread was going to be a joke. Controlled crying at 9 months?? Seriously?? and it sounds like youre putting your baby into the bathroom so no-one can hear her cry and you all get a good nights sleep, and you really think this isnt cruel??
I had to go back to ft work when my dd was 11 weeks and found the best way was co-sleeping for everyone to get a good nights sleep. I know thats not for everyone but surely theres a better way than banishing her to the bathroom. All working mums get tired, you'll find a way to deal with it but please find a better way than this.

Not for you lu maybe. You really know nothing about ops set up. He could be waking for long periods at night. If for an hour each time then yes, this would be a problem.

Can't see the need for all this competitive sleeplessness personally. The less sleep you have dosent make you a better parent.

'No Cry Sleep Solution' had been mentioned up thread. I've used the nap version very successfully so highly recommend this series too.

Much easier and gentler than CC IMO.

I recommend vodka and earmuffs.

For DD though Pickles!

thanks for all the opinions

Just thought I'd update everyone. I didn't end up moving dd2 to the bathroom, as I agreed with the posters who said a change to the travel cot and back again might unsettle her more.

We started controlled crying on Thursday and last night she slept from 10-6.30, dd1 fortunately didn't wake up. I feel like a new woman! So fingers crossed we might get some decent sleep and I can function at work.

Thanks for all those who posted with supportive posts and those who disagreed nicely. Those who were mean (you know who you are) please remember before you post your next tirade that sleep depreviation is torture and even if you don't agree with the method you should try at be civil.

Congrats that it worked. It is torture, I did roughly the same thing as you before I returned to work as I knew I wouldn't be able to function. If it turns out that they aren't waking for food or because they are in pain, just out of habit for being resettled, everyone - including baby - is happier when they get decent, uninterrupted sleep.

I thought the thread title was a joke too.

I'm glad you didn't end up putting her in the bathroom, OP. Without meaning to cause offence, it just doesn't seem the nicest way of handling it (and what if you needed the loo in the middle of the night!). Controlled crying is a whole other debate which, with respect, I'm not touching with a 20ft barge pole.

Pleased it worked out for you elcap

Pleased it worked out for you too.
I mentioned upthread that my DD2 was the same age and we were also sleep training her. We shortened the 4-6 (!) night time breastfeeds and then gradually withdrew them, using a technique recommended by Andrea Grace on her website. Putting her down awake, bed time lullabies, DH going to her rather than me. DD2 protested for about 10 mins tops at each wake up for three nights, then quickly started sleeping through. 12 hours. I feel like a new woman. The whole family is different. I know it's only a phase but I don't think it's possible to over estimate how destroying it is to get

Could you put your older child in your bedroom instead?