to move my 9mth old babies cot into the bathroom during sleep training

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I have just started back at work, and my 9mnth old is still not sleeping through. We have started controlled crying but it wakes her sister in the adjoining room.

I am getting a bit desperate. AIBU to move her into the bathroom for a few nights while we go through the controlled crying journey (battle...)

My husband seems to think its child cruelty.... I just think its practical solution for everyone to get more sleep in the long run.

Thanks for the opinions, I actually did think everyone would agree that it was ok and my husband was being over protective.

@ the noisy tile crew
The bathroom doesn't have any shared walls with the rest of the house, it sort of sticks out of the rest of the house. So I think the noise maybe more with tiles but as its not directly next door to either dd1 or us we might not beable to hear her.

If dc1 was in with us she'd be in our bed which would be a disaster.

9mo 'still' not sleeping through? 'Still'? Yeah, there's a surprise...!

A friend of mine did controlled crying in her own bedroom. I wouldn't put my baby in the bathroom.

Ffs 'poo particles'

When my DS was six months old he started waking through the night and I was the only one who woke up with him.

So I moved his cot into his sister's room

After a couple of nights he slept through. Your DD will be fine in the bathroom.

What about co sleeping op? Done safely it should give you a better nights sleep.

Forget the controlled crying.

Why not put her in bed with you? If you've just started back to work she's probably missing you loads. Might be a bad time for crying it out

Move cot into it room and u sleep downstairs??

Ur not it

Agree with picklechops. Please dont shut your 9 month old baby in the bathroom.

Just gone back to work equals bad time to do controlled crying imo. Bathroom is a terrible idea dd needs to be in with you especially if doing cc and just gone back to work. You're all just going to have to bear with it I'm afraid trying too many things will be a disaster.

Waking once in the night is hardly unusual for a 9 month old. Poor thing is getting used to you being away at work, and now getting used to being ignored in the night.

I was quite firm about bedtime routines and sleeping right from when ds was a young baby I think sleep is very important, I encouraged him to sleep all ngiht from 6 months and before that kept the room dark and quiet at night.

I had him in with me until he was 12 months which I think is about right, I actually think that putting your baby to sleep in the bathroom is quite horrific to be honest.

I'd love to do cosleeping, she spent a lot of the first 6mnth in our bed but I never really slept properly because I was afraid of squishing her. I really need to get a decent nights sleep because at the moment I can hardly string a sentence together and I am trying to give the impression at work that I can function and vaguely know what I am supposed to be doing.

Is she still in your room, does she still have milk at night? A good alternative to co sleeping is to pull the cot right up against your bed so that she feels close to you.

9 months is often separation anxiety isn't it? So they often have a sleep regression as they wake and are able to twig that mum isn't there. I imagine that coupled with mum going back to work would mean the baby is more likely to need comfort at this stage rather than controlled crying.

Even if you can't hear your baby in the bathroom - the poor thing will hear their voice echoing around the tiles in a strange room and probably be even more scared :(

As said above - night waking really isn't unusual for a 9 month old.

Have you tried "no cry sleep solution"? It doesn't necessarily mean no-crying as such but has gentler methods than controlled crying and might be easier to implement in your house.

i agree with your dh

There is nothing wrong with cc, OP's post is about bathroom not parenting methods.

What about hallway outside bathroom? Or travel cot in living room. Where ever she ends up she won't remember when she's older, cc should work quickly enough so will only be a few days/week till back in a bedroom.

YABU, 9 mo is a typical time for separation anxiety so I would be keeping your DC closer rather than further from you. For about 3 weeks I could barely go to the bathroom without DD going nuts but it did get better on its own. When I went back to work DD was 14 mo, had been in her own room since 2mo but never slept through. Due to family visiting we brought her cot in our room and that helped her sleep massively. Being close to us (but not co-sleeping) has helped her and now at 18mo she only wakes to the extent of needing to be picked up about once per night, barring sickness.Quite often she wakes and registers that we are near her (occasionally we sleepily shoosh her) and settles again quickly.

My 13 month old is still waking at night and I am back at work. Your daughter misses you. Give her a cuddle woman and forget about sleep 'training'. Would you like to sleep in the bathroom? Wold you like to cry yourself to sleep? I don't think so, so why do it to a baby?

I wouldn't because it'll be all strange for her and I think she'd be even less likely to settle. By that age they are aware of their surroundings. Even if you do manage to get her sleeping through with CC you might find moving her back out of the bathroom to the bedroom sets her right back to square 1 because it will be all different again.

Personally wouldn't put a baby in the bathroom. Your other child will get used to being woken or sleep through it. Our dcs share a room and have slept through each other screaming quite frequently.

God UABU. They don't suddenly sleep throught the night from 9 months even if you get them into a regular sleeping pattern. They go through stages. My DD is nearly three and she still night wakes when she's poorly or just at random times and sleeps in my room. I work full time and am a lone parent. Its part and parcel of having a young child. You catch up at weekends, go to bed early, do what you have to do. Take turns in sleeping in the lounge so one of you gets a good nights sleep and feel lucky you can share the pain!

@Satine5

My dd is waking up at 3 and at 5. She is big enough to sleep from at least 10pm to 6.30am and eats like a horse during the day. Today was my first day at work so she hasn't had time to miss me yet. I can not work when I am exhausted.

No just no

Anyway you cc her, then change her environment back to her room and you're going to have to put her through it all over again.

Tiny things can throw them back, DNeice was a good sleeper then DSis dropped her cot a level and she spent the next week sitting up refusing to lie down! Echoey bathroom to bedroom spells disaster to me.

Sounds a sensible idea. Bathrooms aren't damp if they're properly ventilated, they're just wet when the shower's in use and for a short time afterwards. If that's the best available space, make use of it.