Too feel devastated for the wife of the teacher who has run off to France with his 15 year old pupil?

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What on earth went through his head when he decided to do this?! The poor woman has taken all her social networks down out of humiliation I presume. link

Crazy.

Yes but do none of you consider there to be a period developmentally between childhood and adulthood? Do you disagree that there is a period of adolescence when child is not an accurate descriptor and neither is adult?

It's a g in disgusting.

I'm not condoning it, i even went as far as to say he was a paedophile further down thread but i got a proper flaming for it!

The definition has nothing to do with it. As an adult and a teacher he knew it was taboo - end of- there is nothing left to say.

London, he can't marry without my permission, nor join the Forces without my permission.

His older brother is almost 18, I do consider him an adult, but he has grown up a lot of the past 2 years. DS2 is mature and sensible, but most certainly not an adult!

Pumpkin we know you are discusted (sic) but to call your DH a dirty old perv seems harsh

Mr Sunshine Thankyou again for pointing out my grammar problems.
Off course my spelling must be more important about the subject at hand
Maybe you could start a 'grammar' thread, exciting not!

Tut so do you acknowledge there's a period between childhood and adulthood or are you like pumpkin and think I happens overnight?

I meant the teacher is a dirty old perv, not my dh

It isnt actually all that long ago that 14 year olds could leave school, go and work full time etc.

At 15 I was mature, knew my own mind, looked and acted much older than my peers, and was not remotely interested in boys my own age.

Pumpkin and exotic I put "as an aside" in my post as I was querying something more generally rather than specifically with regards to those case, so you don't need to get all indignant again, everyone agrees what he did was wrong, particularly as he was her teacher.

Of course there is a period between childhood and adulthood, but the description, or what you call it is immaterial. If some mucky 30 yo teacher got her mitts on DS2 I would want to kill her.

In the eyes of the law a 15yo is a child, a teacher having a relationship with an under 18year old is illegal. He knows that. He is vile. He needs locking up.

But it was that long ago squeakytoy.
At 14 you are considered a child, the same being said for a 15yo.
Whether a teenager 'likes' old men or not doesn't make this right

I agree Mary,that is why. Find it odd that so many insist on referring to children when they in fact mean adolescents. Perhaps people do it more with their own chi.dren as they will always see them as their "child" no matter what age they are. Just interested really

Excuse weird iPad punctuation!

I think the argument about how mature 15yos are misses the point rather. He is a teacher. He is in a position of authority and of trust. He has no business to exploit that by entering into a relationship with a pupil, and especially a pupil who is under the age of consent.

But there's an even bigger point about the entirely irresponsible behaviour of the school, who were apparently aware of concerns about their relationship but didn't take any action to protect Megan or inform her parents. AND who have previously allowed a man accused of sexual offences against children to remain on the board of governors, and been involved in a third case.

TBH the fact the girl has run away with him - if she has done it through choice - pretty much shows us that she is NOT as mature as people may like to think. IF she has chosen to run away leaving no word to where she is, who with, etc and not bothering to let her parents know then she is not showing a great deal of maturity.

As for the man - well, he is a teacher, her teacher. He has abused his position of trust. He is a 30y man and she is a 15y child. He has done wrong on so many levels.

Pumpkin it wasn't long ago and as has been said elsewhere different countries have different ages for different things. Age of consent in Spain is 13 do you think all spaniards suddenly change from child to adlt 3 years earlier than Brits?

I am simply considering some wider points btw not making n judgements with regard to this case

quite, edam

I have been about that

Edam - it a wider pont that has emerged from this thread, I is not directly about this case, hence me saying as an aside.

When I go to any meetings at the DSes' school the HT calls them 'youngsters' wether she is referring to an 11 year old or an 18 year old.

I call my almost 18 year old a young adult, because to me that is what he is. To me DS2 is a child,yes he is 6ft3, has size 12 feet and can pick me up and carry me. He still likes to snuggle up to me, have a cuddle and a chat of an evening.

I don't see what the terminology used has to do with anything. Obviously some 15year olds are more mature than others, some are very definitely children though and some are nearer to adults.

I sound demented! Please excuse all crazy typos and punctuation, my iPad is mad