to think my friend is being very very silly

[Fishwife1949]

right my friend has not work in 6 years and has a 5 year old (don't want to debate the rights and wrongs of her not working)

she is now being required to find a job, she has said she is is only willing to work term time because of the children which is fair enough i guess but the thing i find vexing is the fact she is not willing to work in any school out of her local area (confused)

there is a opening at my child's school for a dinner lady but i live in the next LA TO HER BUT ITS ONLY 3.9 MILES AWAY on one direct bus #
she says she needs to be local in case her child takes ill but i fear the job center its losing patience with her and her money will be stopped if she carries on being so inflexible

she has no qualifications and were in tough times so i don't fell she can be to picky i think if she passes this up she is crazy

what can i do to convince her

i fear she thinks things are as they were when you can refuse work and i think its allot better she gets a job that suits her then them getting fed up giving her something or just stopping her money

i have also asked her to find out how long she has to look before the money will stop and she wont ask

i am worried because i love her dearly

As a line patent you ate up against it.... And the dinner lady job is no good on it's own, it has to be MORE than 16 hours

*lone parent!!

Bloody phone

You have to let her take responsibilty for herself. If they end up stopping her money, which they probably won't, then she only has herself to blame. But she needs to learn the lesson that she can't just keep taking from the system, and that is something she will have to learn for herself.

I'm sorry but I think you just have to back off and let her do this her own way.

You might "love her dearly" but she is an adult. She knows that her money might be stopped, you have told her about a job at your school.

You've explained it to her, she's given her reasons. I think it's a daft reason too, but you need to let her get to it in her own time.

It really is none of your business

Let her get on with it. She has been out of the job market for ages and probably doesnt understand how hard it is to get a job at the moment. Give her a few months of searching and she will probably widen her horizon so to speak and be a bit more flexible.

Other than that, just let her get on with it.

What Blackberry said - has to be more than 16 hours a week to be considered working...

yes i suppose your right BlackberryIce the job is 20 hours

All you can do is tell her you're concerned she'll end up with her benefits being stopped, and tell her 3.9 miles away on a direct bus route is nothing (how long is that on the bus? 10 minutes?)

Put it as strongly as you can without alienating her and then leave her to make her own mistakes.

You sound like her mum rather than her friend

A friends job isn't to nag etc

It's to help pick up the pieces if it all goes pear shaped or just to give advice if she asks for it

What blackberryice said.

How many hours a week is the job? If its not 16 hrs min its no good.

Wow, that's a bloody good job then! Alot of hours for what it is. Pretty much perfect isn't it?

Where I live 3.9 miles could be an hour easily depending on time of day!

Sounds magical.

So how long does that bus ride take?

Is she coming off income support? Do you still get the in work credits and back to work grant?

She could always cycle so get fit at the same time. Win, win.

If she is a lone parent she needs to be working 24 hours to get tax credits - it's only 16 hours if both of a couple are working.

oops

An eight mile round trip per day sounds like a bloody long way to travel for a "midday meals supervisor" job tbf.

bobbly

No need. You dont know that.

Dinner ladies can work 20 hours a week.

is Kosher ffs

Agree with folkgirl ultimately, but YANBU to feel frustrated at her attitude. Just refuse to discuss it with her any more as it will just drive you crackers.

In my school they most definelty did. Both primary and high school.