to think my friend is being very very silly

[Fishwife1949]

right my friend has not work in 6 years and has a 5 year old (don't want to debate the rights and wrongs of her not working)

she is now being required to find a job, she has said she is is only willing to work term time because of the children which is fair enough i guess but the thing i find vexing is the fact she is not willing to work in any school out of her local area (confused)

there is a opening at my child's school for a dinner lady but i live in the next LA TO HER BUT ITS ONLY 3.9 MILES AWAY on one direct bus #
she says she needs to be local in case her child takes ill but i fear the job center its losing patience with her and her money will be stopped if she carries on being so inflexible

she has no qualifications and were in tough times so i don't fell she can be to picky i think if she passes this up she is crazy

what can i do to convince her

i fear she thinks things are as they were when you can refuse work and i think its allot better she gets a job that suits her then them getting fed up giving her something or just stopping her money

i have also asked her to find out how long she has to look before the money will stop and she wont ask

i am worried because i love her dearly

I think giving her your pov is perfectly OK.

When considering a job it's worth thinking about what it could mean for the next job. If she got this job and got good references and a track record she would then be in a much better position to get a job closer to home.

A job isn't just the job. It's a future reference, future promotion and higher wages, a possible pension contribution, a wider and better choice of next jobs. I have n o wish to bash benefits or anyone being on benefits - but the truth is that being on benefits can be a trap. A job can be a route forwards.

You can give her your view, but not pressurise, nag or judge.

Even Hairy Handed Trucker's garden.

Probably.

Not that I'd know.

Can I please have brocolii instead of cauliflower with my steamed (ouch) ricker? Cauliflower is the Devils cockwart cluster.

Tell her if theere was an emergency she could jump in a cab!

Fishwife, I dont think there is anything more you could do! I would jump at a job like that, I think most people would. But your friend might not realize how hard it is to find "the perfect job", and having been out of work that long she might not have the confidence to put herself forward. Instead of letting you know this, she is making excuses such as needing to find something closer to home etc. Support her any way you can, and help build her confidence. You sound like a lovely friend (which she acknowledges).

Bobbly
First you break talk guidelines with troll hunting insinuating OP is lying.
Then you give a half hearted non apology "IF you are right, THEN I apologize"
Further you keep taking the piss on the thread, highjacking it completely.

Do you have it in for the OP, or are you generally this disrespectful of others?

It's just applying for the job, so it's no U to encourage her. But that's all you can really do. There are probably a lot of people applying for it, though.

Sorry LemarchandsBox, brilliant sunshine here too (although I doubt it will last - probably start raining just in time for dog walking)

Blindly, this thread reads like a Friday night drunk thread.

I think OPs friend could at least try out the Dinner lady Person job. 4 miles on a bike is nothing and she could be home in twenty minutes.

It's a JobCentre listing, she hasn't been offered the job. I think you're well reasonable to encourage her to apply. Maybe you can convince her by telling her if she doesn't apply she may lose her benefits so doesn't hurt to at least try?

OP I do hope you come back to this thread.

I think Blu's point earlier is a very good one and deserves repeating A job isn't just the job. It's a future reference

Even if your friend applies for this one, alongside others, she may be sucessful and it may give her the boost to try to find one closer to home. I've always said I'd shovel shit until I found the right job for me - There is nothing to stop her continuing to look whilst already employed. Would she see it better that way?

Very good point - it is much easier to find a job when you've already got one (hence the utter curse of long term unemployment).

The back to work bonus thing us £40 a week ( I think) if coming off Inc support and runs for a year??

Back to work grant £250

Tax credits on top

She will be fine.

Could she not cycle ?? I can cover 4 miles in under 30 mins and i'm not particularly fit.

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