to be sat here crying

[rockandahardplace2012]

The woman next door is shouting and telling her dd to "fuck off" and saying "do you want it!" presumably asking whether she wants a smack. Im sat here sobbing my heart out that poor baby she was crying for her mummy whilst all tjis was going on. God i feel sick to my stomach

Have you called the police?

What has happened now? Did you respond?

No its stopped but for how long i havent called the police. Dont know what to do?

Shes done it a few times its really horrible to listen to especially with my dd next to me. That poor baby could be ill or something and shes not listening!

NSPCC?

Personally I would shame her and say something. It's abusive behaviour.
'oh I hope you don't mind me saying but I could hear you shouting last night and I thought goodness she can't be shouting like that at her child so it must have been an intruder. Was it an intruder? Are you ok? It sounded awful but you really threatened them so I bet that scared the thug!'

I called the NSPCC over a suspicion once and was told off for not calling the police. Maybe ring the non emergency number if you want to report it but don't want to ring 999?

Ill call them tomorrow, will it be confidential remember i live next door to her and ive got my own little girl to worry about. Obviously i want to help her but i dont want to cause trouble for us?

I imagine you can report it anonymously.

I say this every time on threads like this... It is your duty to report anything to SS that you are reasonably sure is abuse or neglect. They are the experts, not you, so report and let them decide.

You say you are sat there crying but don't want to report it. How can you not report it?

How old is the child? I would phone ss if this is a regular thing and not an end of tether night waking scenario.

How could you not report this?

I understand you want to protect your children but there is no one to protect this poor child unless you speak up.

At the very least the mother needs support.

Absolutely what MrsTerry said - it's your duty to report this OP.

Without knowing anymore - like is this unusual, how old is the girl - its really harsh to suggest calling the police. Has no one on here ever lost their temper and screamed at their kids? Well doneyou all if you haven't.

If your think the child is in danger, of course call someone. If you think the mum has uncharacteristcially lost her temper because of you-have-no-idea-what, then give her break and offer her a cup of tea and a shoulder to cry on.

Beck that sounded like me over the school holiday. My ASD dd5 did not like the fact that I told her to wait until I had finished feeding ds 7.5 months, she opened the door and ran into a busy main road. I probably sounded like that woman without the swearing, as the consequences of her being hit by a car and probably dieing were high. It was a mixture of shock, thinking of what could have happened and trying to get the message home

I was trembling like a leafe as we live on a very busy main road with a bus route

Becks is right, some people threaten without doing. The child could have been naughty and the woman at her wits end, she might just have come up with that to get her child to stop her behaviour, not the right or most appropriate thing to do. Sometimes I say stupid things when I am stressed not often at all, but pre dx of dd ASD I was very stressed and thankfully got the support and to the bottom of dd behaviour.

You posted this at 2am. Which child is awake at that time? Who hasn't shouted at their child awaking in the middle of the night for no reason? I'll admit that I'm not a perfect parent. I shouted at my 8 month old for screaming at 4 am without reason. Its stupid o clock and you're tired, of course you're going to get a little pissed off. I applaud all you perfect parents who have never shouted or get angry in the middle of the night, when you've been running around all day. well done to you all.

I weep hw I used to be like, dd used to cry from 9-9pm day in day out, it was relentless, tan came the difficult, challenging behaviour, we are human not perfect. Mabey the mum needs support and is finding things had. I used to shout and scream at dd just be use it was Carnatic and I had lst control. No having a ds and a totally different more lovely experience, I realise now dd had sn

Omg I told my baby to fuck off once. Im ashamed to admit. Mothers of very colicky babies might understand. It was absolute Hell.

How old is her baby? Is she alone? Partner around?

I havent threatened to smack a baby but I went as far as wanting to self harm as I was worried if I didnt hurt myself, Id hurt my baby. The screaming was none stop daily, nightly for months and I was a single mum, clueless with it.

Im not saying that what your hearing is normal or OK, but that she might nit be the devil that she may sound.

This isnt about me being a perfect parent which im not, but ive never told my dd to fuck off or threatened to make her sleep downstairs on her own(sorry didint mention that earlier) ive seen them stood outside their house and you can tell theyre not the sort of people you could knock on the door and talk about it. I never said i wouldnt report it but as other people said the mother might be exhausted like we all can get.

Op says it has happened a few times. I would rather do something than just ignore it.

Ive heard a male voice sometimes but im not sure if hes her partner, ive seen the little girl playing on the front shes about 2- 2 and a half. Maybe i should wait it out and see if it happens more frequently then if it does report it?

Nope, sorry. Not a perfect parent but never shouted at my baby for crying in the middle of the night. May have muttered a few choice words to my DH but would never shout or swear at a crying eight month old. It would hardly help the situation . (oh and mine were crap sleepers and we did cc so I'm not a lentil weaver...)

I'm not perfect, I've had 4 wakeful children and my eldest has sn. I've got stressed, but I've never acted like the woman the op is talking about.