was mil unreasonable to tell dp off for having his (clean) feet on tge coffee table in our own home?

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Trivial post really, I was more surprised than annoyed.

Mil, fil and grandparents (in law) came over for dinner last night. DP made a lovely dinner for everyone. After dinner we went to sit in tge living room, he insisted his parents and grandparents sat on the sofa and he sat on the office chair. The office chair tips back slightly so dp put his feet on the coffee table, its a big table so he wasn't interfering with anyone's drinks. Mil snapped at him "take your feet off tge table!" he did and looked a little sheepish.

He had just socks on and had just had a shower before they arrived so his feet were clean, we have no shoes in tge house so it's not like the floors get dirty from outside germs.

I mentioned to dp when they had left that I think it was a bit unfair for mil to tell him what to do in his own home, he's 35 years old and he wants to out his feet on his coffee table in his house he is well within his rights to do so in my opinion!

Aibu to think she was rude to tell him off like a naughty child?

If MN is anything to go by, we must have shocked loads of guests by putting our feet on the table.

No-one has ever said anything though. In fact, some of them have even put their own feet on the table

well pretty its either very common or very posh dependant on what camp your in.

This may be my problem, my father is very common and my mother very posh so I guess in this case that has given me the worst of both!

The only coffee table we don't do it to is our glass topped one. :)

But I also like to curl my feet up on to the sofa (shoe-less of course ) - I like to relax in my own home. I wouldn't do it in other people's houses - but take it as a compliment if people feel relaxed and comfortable enough to do it in ours.

Caveat: we have a very large coffee table, so even if you do put your feet up, there is plenty of space for a mug of tea/coffee as well.

Why does it always come down to this common or posh bunk? Rank is rank no matter what! And feet on a coffee table are gross. Gavel.

When I read the OP my first thought was "sounds like my Mum".

If I saw my son (adult or not) put his feet on a table, any table, a red mist would descend before me and I would be very ashamed that I had not brought him up better. It is a total lack of manners. Good manners should not be abandoned at your front door, even if your shoes are!

expatin, regardless of liking it or not we have many many things/standerds/stuff in the uk thats concidered to be good manors/bad manors good taste/bad taste and common/posh dependant on the people doing them.

we just never really like admitting it or saying it out loud.

It is amazing how helpful google is when you google good manors - I would like to know, as I would like to spend a weekend in one.

that just made me giggle

'expatin, regardless of liking it or not we have many many things/standerds/stuff in the uk thats concidered to be good manors/bad manors good taste/bad taste and common/posh dependant on the people doing them.'

Yes, I realise that. I've been here over 11 years, find it rather silly, though.

Feet on table = vile.

Feet on a table is rank.

Would you do it if you were in a coffee shop with low tables? No? Why? Because it's really bad manners and horrible.

Besides, my mother always tells me off. She says that she will always be my mother and will behave as such until her dying day. It's ingrained.

Would you do it if you were in a coffee shop with low tables? No? Why? Because it's really bad manners and horrible

No because I would have my shoes on, there are lots of things I wouldn't do in public like lounging around in my pyjamas, doesn't been I can't do it in my own home though. It doesn't automatically make it 'rank' - just different to what you do in your home.

the people who are using words such a vile, gross and rank to describe feet on a coffee table are being a little extreme in my opinion. Do you think feet have more germs than hands? they don't hands have many more germs than feet so by your logic we shouln't touch the coffee table (or infact anything/anyone) with our hands.

I think it is fair enough to say you think putting feet on a coffee table is impolite but I still don't understand the logic as to why it is unhygenic or disgusting.

Oh for fuck's sake, it is not bad manners to put your own unshod, socked feet on your own COFFEE table!

It is bad manners to put feet on the DINING table obv, but a coffee table is not a dining table, is it.

And you do not have to observe manners in your own home anyway, that's the whole bloody point of being at home surely.

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well sod the lot of you not only did i just put my feet on my coffee table but i stood on it danced and poked my toungue out at the cat.

SOME coffee tables are actually ottomans which you can use as seating if you need to. So they have had bums in contact with them!!!!