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Original poster

to report a mum to her health visitor?

164 replies

Sparklyblue · 13/09/2012 21:00

Not sure what to do really. Do I mind my own business or report her to her health visitor?
An old collegue of mine is feeding her 9 week old baby with baby jars, cereals and rusks, has been since baby was 6 weeks old. Dad said baby was ready. Can't believe this myself.
WWYD? Confused

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MadgeHarvey · 13/09/2012 22:03

Heavens! Disagree with someone and the best you can do is call me 'rattled' and 'twisty knickers'? Really? That's the best you can do? Funny as fuck!

marquesas · 13/09/2012 22:04

Slightly off topic but I often see advice to tell someone else's health visitor about something. How do you find out who that person is?

Unless the subject has come up for a specific reason I don't even know which doctors practice my friends are registered at and even if I did could I just ring up and tell the HV?

Has anyone actually ever done this - the practicalities just sound too difficult.

crackcrackcrak · 13/09/2012 22:04

troll - can we now? yeh i 'advice' people all the time. thanks for the tips on how to do my job mind ;)

PropertyNightmare · 13/09/2012 22:04

Hey Madge, the times they are a changin.....

TheEnthusiasticTroll · 13/09/2012 22:05

get over your self. you may not be the only social worker you know. grow up!

crackcrackcrak · 13/09/2012 22:05

marq - in my city there is a central office the hv's work out of - i only know that because i can't get to the clinic in my own area so i wanted to go to a different one - they do consultation work over the phone so i'm sure they would take a report of concern

Original poster
Sparklyblue · 13/09/2012 22:06

I am definitely not getting rattled Grin
Just think it's quite amusing that I get jumped on asking for advice. As said up thread, if I had come on here saying I was feeding my baby, I would have been jumped on for that.
Some of you are a hypocritical lot Shock or maybe I shouldn't be shocked at all.
Thank you so much for all the sensible advice from some of you sensible posters Wink . I think I will have a word the next time I attent clinic Smile

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Tee2072 · 13/09/2012 22:07

Hi Olivia! Finger hovering? Wink

I actually would speak to the mother again, since you know her, when you are not at work, if you're concerned.

I wouldn't talk to the HV.

crackcrackcrak · 13/09/2012 22:08

troll - and your behaviour on this thread is just fabulous.....but humour me with your in depth knowledge of how hv/ss would actually approach this report, were it actually made?

Original poster
Sparklyblue · 13/09/2012 22:09

*attend

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crackcrackcrak · 13/09/2012 22:09

but wait - has no one suggested reporting to the nspcc yet Wink

Floggingmolly · 13/09/2012 22:13

I would have a word with the Health Visitor; I don't think you're being unreasonable at all and you've had a very unjustified flaming Confused

TheEnthusiasticTroll · 13/09/2012 22:15

I know exactly how it would work, that is why I would not bother reporting to HV if I where in Ops shoes, If this was my only concern, that is of course up to her as if she has concerns then she can and should report.

i dont need to validate any further my advice thank you for the invite, but I have given reasoned comments. My behaviour is fine, I am able to assess my own actions and keep myself in check thanks all the same.

madmomma · 13/09/2012 22:15

I was weaned at 6 weeks. It's very far from ideal, but I don't think it'd be appropriate to intervene. At least the baby's having babyfood. My HV told me about a newborn who was having heinz lentil soup through a snipped bottle Shock (needless to say there was major intervention then)

blueraincoat · 13/09/2012 22:35

JumpingThroughMoreHoops - " My advice was they enrolled at college and got some superior qualifications and a better hourly rate."

Wow. Judgmental much...

I used to work in as a cashier during my A-Levels and Degree.

blueraincoat · 13/09/2012 22:44

*in a supermarket

AnnieLobeseder · 13/09/2012 22:50

I am very surprised at how this thread has gone, usually MN is very pro-guidelines.

OP, I don't blame you for being concerned. Not sure how to suggest handling it though, sorry.

That poor baby will be stuffed full of food, and not have room in its tum for the milk it needs. It could suffer long-term damage. The OP isn't sticking her beak in, she is trying to protect an innocent baby.

There are also guidelines about drinking and smoking while pregnant, but heaven help any pregnant MNer confessing to regularly drinking or smoking on here.

Have we turned into Netmums with all the "aw, mum knows best what baybee needs"?

Heavensmells · 13/09/2012 22:50

Wow poor op, the claws are out tonight aren't they!
As for the arse who make the crappy comment about checkout staff, get over yourself.

Sophisticatedknickers · 13/09/2012 23:29

Sparky I think you sound quite caring to be honest. I would do the same.
Where I live we have HVs assigned to an area of the town so it's always the same ones at the baby clinic every fortnight, no spying/ detective work needed. Have a word with the HVs about what to do, tell them her name if they're concerned. Like a few others have mentioned above the 6 month guideline is there in part to hopefully dissuade parents from very early weaning like this.

Original poster
Sparklyblue · 14/09/2012 00:35

I feel like i've been ripped to bits tonight. But it won't put me off comming back.
There is no way i'm going over to Netmums Grin

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Traceymac2 · 14/09/2012 01:14

OP you are well meaning and concerned about this little baby which is not a bad thing. I would mention it to your HV at your next meeting if you are worried. As another poster said these guidelines are based on scientific evidence and are there for a reason. I think any damage to the gut/food sensitivity wise would have occurred by now most probably. You've taken your flaming well and with great humour it has to be said!

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 14/09/2012 01:21

Bloody hell OP, you have been a bit battered.

Shame people didn't read the OP and see that you actually KNOW the woman - you weren't just talking about a stranger who came through your checkout. Perhaps that's where it all fell down - people think you're JUST a checkout girl. Lovely. Hmm

FWIW I think you're right to be concerned. It is a bit crap. People have weaned early for years, doesn't make it right though. The 6 month thing though isn't new - dd is 16 and when she was a baby the guidance was 4-6 months.

I don't know whether reportuing to a HV is the right approach, but it is shit parenting, and I think you have been unfairly maligned on this thread. I agree with Annie + is this netmums now 'you know your bubs, hun'

WorraLiberty · 14/09/2012 01:25

You're a checkout assistant.

Scan the goods, take the money, give the change, wave bye bye.

Next we'll have window cleaners giving us weight loss advice....

MadameDefarge · 14/09/2012 01:34

remember the baby who died of salt poisoning because the parents fed the poor little sod weetabix? madge. your comments and tone are uncalled for. op is concerned. and with good reason. i also wonder how much liquid the baby is getting. oversalted food and deydration actually makes for a life threatening situation.

MadameDefarge · 14/09/2012 01:37

worral. clearly he virtues of actually reading a thread properly have passed you by. the mum is ex colleague of op and they share an HV. if you are going to be unpleasant at least get your facts straight.

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