DH posted my ebay items without a clue whether they'd been paid for. AIBU to shout

[WAD]

and call him a **ing idiot?

He also posted them 1st class recorded and lost me money on the P&P .

He says he was just trying to help - but really - a call to check if I'd been paid wouldn't have been amiss surely - he knows how the system works.

I am just so angry - imagine if the buyers hadn't paid - sod all chance of them doing so once their nice new items turned up 1st class post tomorrow.

YANBU! I am a fellow ebayer and would be very unhappy in your situation! As you say, no chance of payment if they hadn't already!

so they have all been paid and you are just cross?

Just ask him to mind his own business and move on!

Yes luckily they had been paid for - but the point is - he didn't know that. I am beyond cross. He's always meddling claiming he's trying to be helpful.

Let it go.

He tried to help you. The poor guy didn't mean to upset you so much.

So yes, YABU. It was a tiny mistake, if that.

i would write you a glowing responce for super fast dilivery :)

YABU. He was trying to do something nice for you.

Hmmm - maybe I am losing my perspective here - but it could have lost me a lot of money. He doesn't seem to appreciate this - or care. It's the principle I'm annoyed about.

YANBU
Although - tbh if I recieved an item before I'd paid I'd be a bit "Eh?" but I'd still pay up.
And - if he paid 1st class recorded out of his own pocket, surely that's his problem not yours

But Punk - if someone tried to do something nice for you that could have lost you £££ - would you still think the same?

Would anyone not be a tiny bit annoyed?

WAD Only a fellow, avid ebayer can understand!!

Bannoffee - bless you! Glad there are still some honest people out there!

Yes Jelly - think you're right!

I would very annoyed if I HAD lost out, if I hadn't I would mutter a bit, and point out he was not to do it again.

YANBU. OK, he was trying to be helpful which was nice of him, but he could have at least engaged his brain. I get very irritated by thoughtlessness, however well intentioned.

To be honest, no. This is your DH! It turned out ok, lesson learned. As long as he accords you the same courtesy when you make a little muck up then let it go.

How would you/he have got the address to post it to if you hadn't been paid?

Don't you only get this with a received payment?

I never make muck ups that could cost DH £££. And if I did, I wouldn't be afforded any courtesy!

By the way Punk, I thank you for your replies, and I did ask - so all replies gratefully read, I was just surprised that's all.

YANBU

i would have been annoyed!!!

I never wrap anything until it is paid for and use PayPal postage via eBay as I once made the same mistake and was also lucky that my buyer was honest.

@Katie No you get the address as soon as the item ends.

Katie - no - you receive the address as soon as the item has been sold. (even if payment not yet made). At the point the item sells, I wrap the items (rather dangerously it seems) and leave safely (so I thought) awaiting payment.

Maybe I should have posted in the ebay section.

sorry jelly - x post!

God, shows how much attention I've been paying.

But! I am ruthless when it comes to my payment spreadsheet!

So Katie - AIBU?!

Ungrateful.