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Original poster

To consider not sending DD on the residential school trip because she is too young?

153 replies

NCForNow · 13/09/2012 17:05

She's just turned 8. She is in year 4. She only began at this school a year ago and is JUST finding her feet...naturally shy and quiet.

She says she wants to go.

It seems SO young! Two nights and three days away doing adventure type things.

AIBU to consider not sending her?

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FryOneFatManic · 14/09/2012 10:03

NC, if your DD enjoys herself, you may get a call like I did: "Hello Mum are you missing me?" No way was she missing us!! Grin

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NCForNow · 14/09/2012 10:06

Ah Cory thank you. You've made me cry now though! It's very hard when your child is silent and people don't see their personality isn't it...and yes...I did have baggage about it....it's such a relief to see her start to open up I can't articulate it.

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NCForNow · 14/09/2012 10:07

And what a nice end to your DS selective mutism! It's SUCH an odd thing isn't it.

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Butkin · 14/09/2012 14:42

Cory - good and useful post.

DD went on a residential 3 day outward bound course last year when in Yr4. All parents are concerned but just have to suck it up because they want to go and have a great time. Definitely no contact with home (mobiles etc) whilst away though - that makes if far worse and unfair on others.

Lots of kids round by us do residentials in Yr 3 (local school gets them to camp in school grounds in Yr 2!) so Yr 4 children should not have any probems by comparison.

diddl · 14/09/2012 14:50

It is hard isn´t it?

I think that sometimes it´s more about us.

We don´t want them to be unhappy away from us, but we want to be missed.

Here they start school at 6 & had my PFB had a trip every year at primary.

My daughter´s first day at school-she asked when they were going away!

Not happy when she found that she wouldn´t go every year-just a week away in the last!

Hope she gets on OK.

Themumsnot · 14/09/2012 14:54

I took my Brownie pack away for two nights this year. The youngest had only just turned seven. They had a blast and there was no homesickness at all. I was so proud of them, even the shyest ones were up there abseling and clambering round the high ropes and jumping off a 50 foot high platform. Do let her do it, OP.

pokemonds · 11/01/2014 15:31

It is not like your sending your child to a 2 month trip to china

Weelady77 · 11/01/2014 16:02

YABU my dd is very shy too and she wanted to go to camp I didn't think she would stay and we would get a call to pick her up but no she loved it and was full of story's about her great weekend away, let her go if she wants too she might be shy and quiet but she doesn't have to be the loud in your face to enjoy

WooWooOwl · 11/01/2014 16:09

Why doesn't this thread have the zombie alert?

SoonToBeSix · 11/01/2014 16:18

Yabvu , you need to cut the apron strings.

BeerTricksPotter · 11/01/2014 16:21

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Weelady77 · 11/01/2014 16:22

Sorry I'm new to this, what does zombie thread mean as I've just been pulled up on it!!!

PedlarsSpanner · 11/01/2014 16:38

gah

zombie thread is one resurrected after aeons

if you got summat to say, start a new thread

there are exceptions like the OP has an update, but that's about it

folk get cross wading through years old posts before realising that little Emily will now be well into secondary school for eg

Weelady77 · 11/01/2014 16:41

Ah thank you I never even looked at the date!

WooWooOwl · 11/01/2014 16:58

Thanks Beer, I didn't know that!

Whathaveiforgottentoday · 11/01/2014 17:45

My DD went on her first residential last summer age 7 with the brownies and loved it. If your DD wants to go, let her go.

If she didn't want to go, that would be different. These trips are geared up for this age group and she'll have a fabulous time although you may miss her like crazy.

mrsjay · 11/01/2014 17:47

she might miss you she might be homesick but she might love it and have a great time an d not think of you once, she will feel left out if you dont send her let her go she will be fine , my dd was at brownie camps at 8/9 and then went away with school at 10 let your daughter go and even if she does miss you a little what do you think will happen to her she wont explode being away from you for 3 nights,

mrsjay · 11/01/2014 17:47

och bugger I should look at dates i really should

highho1 · 11/01/2014 17:53

Yes. She will be fine. Sadly my dc s school don't do residential tfips. But dd did a brownies weekend away and had a fab time. She is shy too.

highho1 · 11/01/2014 17:54

Oops

LindyHemming · 11/01/2014 18:11

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Objection · 11/01/2014 18:21

Beware the Zombies....
lots of 'em out today, huh?

ukatlast · 11/01/2014 19:11

Let her go if she wants to but be ready to collect her early if it all gets too much. 8 is a bit young but the most important aspect is whether she wants to do it.

Idespair · 11/01/2014 19:17

Op I understand why you are worried about sending her and don't want to but round here, overnight trips are common from year 3 so some people are having to send 7yos. The first time my ds went overnight, I couldn't sleep and was terrified. But you just have to let them do it.

justmuddlingalongsomehow · 11/01/2014 19:19

If she's year 4 she must have turned 8 at latest before the end of the summer holidays - young in the year, sure but not JUST 8.

I would never force a child to go but I would do my damnedest to persuade them. Brilliant for a child for all sorts of reasons. My dc aren't keen but I'll do all in my power to try to convince them in the future. I've seen the fallout the week after when all the others get back and are full of the whole experience.