To find Kim Marsh's wedding pictures in incredible bad taste

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Selling your wedding pictures may not be to my taste but each to their own but making money out of posing in your wedding dress with your dead son's ashes leaves an incredibly bad taste in my mouth.

I understand if she'd wanted to take the ashes as a private tribute but exploiting it for financial gain I find frankly disgusting.

Yabu. Your heart just breaks for her on viewing that photo. She is proud of her little lost son and if she wants to include his memory in her wedding day then that's entirely up to her. I honestly don't know how people can be cruel enough to judge in such tragic situations.

'I thought the photo was beautiful. Why shouldn't she include all her children in her wedding?'

She has other, older children, too. Can't exactly pretend it didn't all happen and I think it's wonderful way to include him in the wedding.

One of the judges, Mary, on The Great British Bake Off lost one of her 3 children, her 19-year-old son, some years ago in a RTA. She is very open about it and how included he is in the lives of her two surviving children, their children and the entire family, especially at significant events.

I really admire her when she's asked in interviews about her children, she always says she has 3 children and although 1 isn't alive physically in their lives now, he still is in their family and hearts.

I love and admire the way Mary Berry talks about her son.

I never knew that about Mary Berry. She speaks about him as if he's right there, which is very moving - I just assumed she was very fond of him, which of course is true though not the whole story.

I think it is admirable when people manage to find a way to do this. It is respectful to keep a memory alive, isn't it?

I know I shouldn't but I am drawn back to this thread like a fly to shit.

It's up to her. Don't look if you don't like it.

My sister lost her son a couple of years ago in rta, 17 years old. We talk about him all the time. If it makes people uncomfortable, so be it. Couldn't give a flying f**k.

Me too limited I am over my earlier rage and comforted by the majority support

katkouka WTF?

YY, Jeux. My dear friend, Rich, died in RTA 11-years-ago, age 32. He was engaged to be married and never got to have the children he so wanted. I send his mother a birthday card every year and when A fell ill she was even more supportive. She says she has saved the cards and puts them with her treasures of him. As she says, 'He was my son for 32 years, he didn't stop being my son when that car left the road.'

Ilovedaintynuts what do you know of my maternal history? If you read my last post you would see I was trying but obviously failing making light of a ridiculous topic of discussion, that shouldn't be up for discussion.

As for having no class..pfft. you love big willy? All right then.

beautiful pictures,she looks beautiful
and its significant to her to remember her son
you see grief isnt a dirty secret to be denied.its lived and raw experience.and every fucking day hurts so you know what if kym gets a we respite and can feel good about herself,about something for a wee minute and rememeber her son then i wish her well

and you know what bereaved parents dont have to bother about the social niceties of whether others want to hear about bereavement and difficult feelings. if someone else is too distant,too hard hearted to hear thats their problemo.

katkouta how is it ridiculous? It may have started from discussion of celeb mag article but it has raised an interesting and heartfelt discussion on grief. It is one of the least trivial Aibu I have seen.

Northern very well put & white that poem is amazing &poignant...thank you.
My honest gut reaction to the photos of Kym was how incredibly brave she is.
I doubt very much if the money had anything to do with her decision to have these photos of her son included....simply the desire for people not to forget her precious son & to include him in everything.
Good for her, i wish I could be as courageous.Yes,I have lost a child.
For those who have made unkind comments....just be eternally grateful this hasn't happened to you...

Oh ffs. I mean it is ridiculous to question a mothers actions in grief.
Look, I am sorry if I offended anybody, my comments weren't intended to hurt anyone, having lost 2 babies myself.
I obviously am a sociopath and a moron.

WTAF, the only thing in bad taste is some of the posters opinions !

My dd was stillborn at 41 weeks last feb, Dh and I got married the following November, we included our dd in the wedding day as much as possible, we carried her teddy bear (dressed as a flower girl) and had photographs taken hugging her bear, We had a place set with her photograph beside us at the top table If people found that uncomfortable they can go fuck themselves!

Don't be hard on kat she has explained what she meant.

blizy, that sounds beautiful! I'm glad she was there, too, to celebrate your special day.

That's lovely blizy...

Kat - you cannot assume that people know what you mean or know about your personal circumstances on a forum as big as Mumsnet. You (as in all of us) also needs to be especially mindful on threads about lost babies.

Thanks for the telling off Mintyy. I said sorry. Going to bed now.

I am not telling you off! I am trying to explain why other people are telling you off.

whiteandyelloworchid what a wonderful and exceptionally raw poem. My heart aches for you and all others on this thread who have lost a child. I haven't but I have enough empathy and compassion to understand that whatever a bereaved parent needs to do is the right thing for them and absolutely and utterly nobody else's business.

Applauds, scottishmummy!

Our daughter is and will always be as much as part of our lives as when she was here with us.

We had her for 9 blessed years.

If that bothers someone, and that includes some family we're no longer in contact with, then they can fuck off, tbh.

yes do talk about your lassie expat,she was real,deserves that acknowledgement.
heres the thing,if others feel embarrassed,uncomfortable etc that's their issue
griefs no a dirty secret to not bring up in case someone else s affronted
it's shite enough to bury your flesh and bones that you love (current tense) without denying their existence,to salve someone else etiquette and sense of what's right

Horrible thing to say "making money out of posing in your wedding dress with your dead son's ashes" and nasty snide assumption.