To find Kim Marsh's wedding pictures in incredible bad taste

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Selling your wedding pictures may not be to my taste but each to their own but making money out of posing in your wedding dress with your dead son's ashes leaves an incredibly bad taste in my mouth.

I understand if she'd wanted to take the ashes as a private tribute but exploiting it for financial gain I find frankly disgusting.

I still don't understand why the moment pictured has to be private?

Yes, it is an emotional moment, an emotional picture. But why does that mean it should remain private and hidden away from others?

I'm pretty staggered tbh that so many posters have come to the thread intent on justifying their agreement with the OP. You talk about respecting grief - but where is the respect for the bereaved mothers on this site? It's utterly sickening - talk of 'mawkish' and that grief should be private - which means 'don't put it in front of me I don't want to think about it' - and that's what ran through the OP too.

Well grow up. Life is hard and some horrible things happen. I have friends who have lost children. I've stood by a baby's grave and watched her parents, I sat here at my laptop whilst Expat fought for her daughter's life and prayed for them both. I've cried over mumsnetters stories. Even if you've done none of those things just muster some emotional imagination please. The worst thing that could possibly happen to you happened to Kym Marsh and too many of our fellow posters. All they need from the rest of us is for us to give them space to grieve their loss. There ae enough hurtful and outright stupid comments on here to drive people away for good. It stops now please.

katkouta - really???? You truely think your comment is appropriate in this thread and amongst this conversation?

not bad taste at all
clearly she wanted to remember her dead son at significant event
if it has meaning and she finds it healing then that's her call

I agree with everything that Northern has said

what nasty nasty excuses for people we have on this thread
you should be ashamed of yourselves
you make me feel sick to my stomach you jugmental small minded nasty spiteful bastards

i salute km for including her son in the way they wished, she will probably help people like myself, who have lost a child, by helping us to talk about our children and raising awareness of how this is not something we get over, even when wonderful things happen in life like getting married the deep deep sadness remains

anyway best of luck to km and her whole family
seem like a lovely family

Katkouta - WTF?! You must be one of the Most idiotic and nastiest people I have come across on MN

Unless you have experienced the loss of a child you have no right to comment on how someone else deals with it.

I have seen first hand how devastating it can be when my DN was born stillborn at 40 weeks. The complete and utter devestation will stay with me until I die.

'Walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me' never a truer word spoken. Some people on this thread are unbeliveable and I cannot comprehend why anyone actually fucking feels the need to judge how someone grieves for her dead child!! It's got nothing to do with you.

If you can't say anything nice then shut the hell up. None of you would know what you would do in that deeply distressing situation.

I have nothing else to say... Disappointed so many people hold such ridiculous views!

Whiteandyelloworchid - hear, hear. Well put.

Not idiotic or nasty. Just trying to change the subject of whether she was right or wrong ( as there is no answer ) about the posing of those pictures. Every bereaved parent has different coping methods, I know this.
So ask yourself ?
Does that make me more bitchy than the other posters?? Think before you post.

take a momnet to think about how you might feel, if you lost a child, one of your children, i'm sure you think its something that would never happen to you, thats what i used to think

heres a poem that expresses 1% of the grief

My Ugly Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable Shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the other one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in the world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by
before they think of how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of the shoes I am a stronger women.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

kinda reminds me off alot of you masty bastards that don't want to know how uncomfortable these shoes are
heyho alot of people are selfish cowards, but to be a nasty selfish bastard
perhaps you need to think of the vile you spout and take a good look at yourself

But there is an answer !

It was right for her that is all that sodding matters !

Of course there is an answer. Only somebody with the empathy of a concrete block could think she was 'wrong'.

It's warming to see so much support for those who have experienced similar. There will always be those that want to categorise and judge even though it has no real impact on their lives. Ah well, life unfortunately.

WTAF is this thread?

Some people actually astound me beyond words.

I second tw

Oh fioled - you shouldn't have to read this bilge

Even before I lost my son I could imagine what it must be like for those who had already lost.

God how I never wanted to find out, but I did and I'm still here. Alive and breathing.

There have been some hard threads on mumsnet today and I'll admit I feel down right now but I hope that those who haven't lost and haven't shown empathy that you might rethink your stance

I have to say though there have been some lovely posters who haven't lost a child that have shown real support and love.

tough i am disgusted hr told your friend to keep her mouring more private
how fucking dare they

whiteandyelloworchid, that poem is beautiful and brought tears to my eyes.

I thought the photo was beautiful. Why shouldn't she include all her children in her wedding?

tough if someone did that to me, it would make me go on a mission to talk about my son all the more, the hr couldnt actually do anthing to your friend, imagine if someone was sacked for talking about their lost child, there would be an outrage and rightly so

that would have been like a red rag to a bull to me.

I wish my mother had been able to find support when she lost her babies due to incompetent cervix. (medical term in case anyone is offended). There was nothing like mn about and she buried it deep, it has been very painful for her not to share her grief.

katkouka I'm pretty sure only a sociopath would take cheap jibes at someone's tattoos while looking at a picture of them with their dead son's ashes.
Know any dead baby jokes too?

You should be ashamed of yourself. Have some empathy or at least some class.

I'm so sorry for the grieving parents on this thread. Read it back - at least 95% of us support Kym and anyone's right to do whatever they need to deal with their grief.

Some people are just morons.

I had a m/c at 12 weeks and two weeks off, went back to work as a nurse and NOBODY mentioned it. Nobody. Ever. I had worked there for 4 years at this point.

Nurses are just as crap as the rest of society in dealing with grief.