To find Kim Marsh's wedding pictures in incredible bad taste

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Selling your wedding pictures may not be to my taste but each to their own but making money out of posing in your wedding dress with your dead son's ashes leaves an incredibly bad taste in my mouth.

I understand if she'd wanted to take the ashes as a private tribute but exploiting it for financial gain I find frankly disgusting.

YABU

I gave birth to my little boy Jack at the weekend. I was 21 weeks pregnant and he had died a few days earlier.

We didnt choose to have a burial or cremation as we couldnt face it, still cannot. This is OUR way of dealing with it, completely opposite to Kym Marsh's way. But you know what, I know exactly what she is going through and she can do what the hell she likes.

I can comprehend the pain she went through as i have 'walked a mile in her shoes'. And my heart and soul goes out to her.

OP you are trying to dig your way out of an ill thought out thread. Give up now.

Martha - I have no words - just unmumsnetty (((((HUGS))))) and understanding xxxx

tymeout wtf are you on about.

Get your post removed.

I'm so sorry Martha
I advise you to step away from this thread, it's not a good place for you right now.

Let tymeout's post stay.
I think it helps to see how ignorant some posters can be.

Martha, i'm so sorry that Jack died. It's so unfair. Please be gentle with yourself x

pinkforever you didn't quote the part where I said 'no matter what she does in relation to it'

Live and let live - absolutely nobody at all has the right to question her so-called "motives" or criticise her. The poor woman. I cannot begin to imagine her heartache.

thanks guys - i actually think i will hide this thread as it is too emotive for me at the moment

sorry about all the 'fucks'

Maybe go on the Bereavement thread Martha xx.

Martha ((((((hugs)))))))

Yup, I vote for it to stay too LBE.

Good grief, thymeout.

I so so very, very sorry that bereaved parents have to read that shit.

For goodness sake!

I despair, too, when I can't reply to Daydream Dolly, who said it's incredibly bad taste to EVER judge a woman who's lost her child, whatever she does in relation to it. I gave two specific examples.

I was not generalising or OF COURSE saying that all or even most bereaved mothers behave in that way. That would be offensive and ridiculous.

I thought we were having a serious debate.

Sorry, Martha. Cross posted. I am very sorry for your loss.

No, what's offensieve and ridiculous is you insinuating that a bereaved mother could or would steal another persons child.

I never usually post on threads like this but it has wound me up a bit.

The photos made me feel uncomfortable and, yes, I thought the cover shot was mawkish.

When I lost my child (miscarriage at 20 weeks) I responded completely differently than it would seem that most of you feel is appropriate. I have never discussed it, when I was asked about it recently I can honestly say that I couldn't remember very much about it. In fact this is the first time that I have put it down in print and it is making me feel very emotional to do so. I did not name the child publicly as I didn't even know if it was a boy or girl - in my head she has a name. Other than some pregnancy photos I have no physical reminder of my baby.

I find it odd that people want to talk about such a loss as to me it just opens up a great big wound. So, yes, to me what Kim did with the ashes of her child is odd and I don't really understand it.

That is all and I will now hide the thread. Thanks

FFS Thymeout! Are you completely barking? Or does East-bloody-Enders do your thinking for you?!

Bereaved mothers don't want your child. They don't want any child. Children are not inter-changeable, like bloody ipods. They want their child back.

And breathe.

'I find it odd that people want to talk about such a loss as to me it just opens up a great big wound. So, yes, to me what Kim did with the ashes of her child is odd and I don't really understand it.'

Plenty of us loss a child in later childhood/teenage and even adulthood. I'd find it very odd to delete that person from our lives entirely and pretend it never happened. In fact, it's impossible for us because our child has a sibling who, at nearly 7 years of age, well remembers her sister, as well as many friends and family who remember her and even go and visit her grave. Some of her classmates were at her funeral. We couldn't exactly just walk away from hospital.

Hell, Prince William was quite open about how much he wished his mother could be there to see him get married and honours her publicly often; he took his fiancee to her grave very soon after their engagement. Perhaps he should have just shut up. It was a long time ago and all.

I want to know who is Afeel? (on her arm along with Millie, who I assume is her daughter?)
Is it a spelling mistake?

Nobody is asking you to "delete" your daughter from your lives expat-some posters are simply saying that they prefer to do their grieving in private and dont feel the need to share it with the world-each to their own and all that...

I can only say that I havent told my own dcs about their brothers yet as for one I dont want to blight their lives with unnessacary sadness and two because I dont think they are off an age yet that they would fully understand the loss. I am sure I will talk about it with them at some point in the future...

However I have a friend who has told her dcs from a very young age about their lost sibling and they talk about him/visit grave a lot etc-works for them...

Oh dear looked it up , is supposed to say David, oops. better luck next time Kym.

katkouta why the fuck would you go in for a bit of gratuitous bitching on a thread of this nature? Really unnecessary.

I don't find the pictures tasteless.

I do find the judgment of a bereaved mother tasteless.

For all the reasons that others have articulated so well

Thymeout I think you are bonkers. And not in a good way.