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To think Peaches Geldof should have strapped her baby in?

515 replies

KnockKnockPenny · 10/09/2012 09:43

and also, put the phone down when her baby fell out of his pram!

Have just seen photos of her poor baby tumbling out of his pram onto a pavement. I know the council should have sorted the pavement out, but he wouldnt have fallen out if he was strapped in :(

sorry for The Sun link

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5madthings · 10/09/2012 16:57

well hopefully she will see that lots of us are understanding, yes the baby should have been strapped in, but we ALL make mistakes, these things happen, no harm was done thankfully :)

Kayano · 10/09/2012 16:57

It is shit to not stamp a kid in, much like
Its
Shit to make mistakes
I have made too. I'm only back here because someone mentioned me directly

I just have blunter views than you and I call a spade a spade

Not going to change my pov just because I am a new mother. That's what I think and she should have said ok my bad, alls well, let's move on

My issue is not taking any responsibility herself

BupcakesandCunting · 10/09/2012 16:58

That's what I thought, Sparkling.

It's embarrassing actually.

Sparklingbrook · 10/09/2012 16:58

I hope so 5. I also hope the paps leave her alone.

Kayano · 10/09/2012 16:58

And I didn't say she was a
Shit parent, I was saying this incident was shit parenting.

Momentary lapse and all that

Perriwinkle · 10/09/2012 16:59

YANBU to think she should have strapped the baby in but YABU if you think she's a bad mother for not doing so.

People have been having minor accidents with babies and children since the year dot. I didn't close the stairgate once and my DS went through and fell down the stairs from top to bottom, thankfully he was fine but accidents do happen although I beat myself up about it for weeks afterwards. Similarly, I once fell off a table when my nan was looking after me and I banged my head quite badly. She felt terrible too but the fact is no one wants anything to happen to their children/grandchildren or whatever kids they're looking after but people make mistakes and accidents happen. It's called being human.

Such stories all make for tales to tell later on.

5madthings · 10/09/2012 16:59

i dont think its shit, i think its life and sometimes we make mistakes, bad mistakes and thankfully most of the time things turn out ok.

and you have no idea if she is taking responsibility herself, i bet she is kicking herself, but equally she has the right to complain about the footpath which should be in better repair and maybe the baby was strapped in and the straps failed, we simply dont know.

but i dont think calling her a shit parent helps, she is shit, she is HUMAN!

OHforDUCKScake · 10/09/2012 17:00

When ds was in his carrycot I didnt strap him in. I also tipped him out the buggy and I regularly crash it (I strap him in now but only after I tipped him out!)
I just feel sorry for her the fact thar it was caught on camera.

I an assuming if course that all the people who are judging her for her fuck up are perfect parents themselves...

5madthings · 10/09/2012 17:01

its not shit parenting either, its something that can happen sometimes, we make mistakes. they can be bad mistakes, but that doesnt make you a shit parent.

shitty parents are those that abuse their children, she quite clearly dotes on him and looks shocked and upset in the pictures.

Kayano · 10/09/2012 17:02

I didn't call her a shit parent

Hmm I've just said that
I said this incident was shit parenting

I'd say the same if it was me (and I already have)

SammySquirrel · 10/09/2012 17:02

Do you all remember .

5madthings · 10/09/2012 17:05

link doesnt work sammy

it wasnt shit parenting it was a mistake, it could be that she had literally JUST put him in the pushchair and was about to strap him in when the phone rang and then she got distracted. we dont know and cant judge and i wont judge because these things happen to the best of us.

Perriwinkle · 10/09/2012 17:05

I'd like to see how some of the more judgemental people around on this thread would react if they had photos taken of them at their most vulnerable moments. I suppose their halos would never slip though Wink

Perhaps they ought to start a thread on what it's like to be perfect.

FutTheShuckUp · 10/09/2012 17:06

Fucking hell Sad thats awful- you can just SENSE the utter terror that mother went through.
Thank god that child was ok, someone must have been looking out for that baby

DuelingFanjo · 10/09/2012 17:07

it's the video of the baby in the pram rolling onto the train tracks and under a train, just in case anyone wants to not click the link. The baby survived but it's not very nice viewing.

rogersmellyonthetelly · 10/09/2012 17:08

The baby wasn't strapped in. You can see the blanket he was sitting on was covering the crotch strap on the car seat. Not that I would judge her for not strapping in, as I've done it myself and narrowly avoided my ds tipping out into the road. Don't buy the Worn straps thing, it's a silver cross pushchair and car seat and looks brand new tbh, no way would it have worn straps after 4mo.
I do judge her for lying about it I'm afraid, but not as much as I judge the twat who snapped her and didn't help, and the fecking newspapers who publish this sort of shit and think we are interested.

Perriwinkle · 10/09/2012 17:09

No Kayano this incident was not shit parenting. Your assertion is shocking.

You don't know anything about the circumstances. Nor will you ever. Can you imagine how you'd feel if someone judged you in this way and called you a shit parent? Presumably you're perfect though and never make mistakes?

Kayano · 10/09/2012 17:09

Ive already said how I would react if I was photographed

I would say 'I can't believe I did that! It was terrible. God how shit was that!'

Not be like 'oh it's such and such's fault'

That's my
Issue (as stated numerous times) going on as if she had done everything right

Kayano · 10/09/2012 17:11

Again ... I didn't call her a shit parent. I said this incident was shit parenting

I would e fine with it because I know I'm not a shit parent, however I was a bit shit at that moment

And aren't we all.

5madthings · 10/09/2012 17:11

given that you are not famous, nor living your life under the spotlight and being constantly judged i dont think you can honestly say how you would react tbh.

her baby could have been injured, she is probably, tired, hormonal, embarrased and was horrified by the accident so she is naturally defensive.

cornzy · 10/09/2012 17:11

you don't know what you would have done or said because it didn't happen to you

Kayano · 10/09/2012 17:12

Periwinkle you clearly haven't read all my posts about my shit mistakes then Hmm

Kayano · 10/09/2012 17:13

I do know what I would have done afterwards - which is the issue. She didn't have to gone on twitter

onceortwice · 10/09/2012 17:13

When you have LIVED it, Kayano, then come back and tell us what to do. Until then, well... zip it.

CouthyMowWearingOrange · 10/09/2012 17:13

Line up to shoot me, then. Today I was shopping, had hung a basket on the buggy handles as I only had a few bits to get. Turned round to pick up a lettuce, and even though I still had hold of the pram with one hand, it tipped.

Why? 19mo DS3 climbed out of his straps and tried to climb over the back of the pram. Luckily because I still had one hand holding the handle, I stopped it before it hit the floor, and managed to catch DS3, but it took seconds for my back to be turned and him to escape from his straps.

Accidents happen. And it's often easier and quicker to wedge a phone in between your shoulder and your ear than it is to drop it. I would have instinctively done the same thing, I just would have stopped talking to the person on the other end of the line while I sorted the baby out!