AIBU to fine my DH for 'misdemeanors'?

[finethegit]

My DH is a nice bloke, a good dad and I love him very much. However, as with most relationships there are varying annoyances, personality clashes. I'm very sure that should my DH be here he would say the same.

Some of the things that bug the crap out of me are; loading the dishwasher incorrectly (c'mon, everyone knows there's a correct way ), piss drips on the bathroom floor, avoiding putting the kids to bed (kids are a nightmare at bedtime) by urgently needing to do stuff out of the house, stepping over the washing pile (I left it there deliberately for days and he continued stepping over it), and so on and so forth.

I did, for a long time, take issue with stuff and pull him up on it...which he either ignored, or did in a huff with very bad grace. He also started doing the same to me over things that bugged him and I wasn't too keen on that one!

So I started keeping my mouth shut, and found myself seething continually, which was as bad as the other options.

Eventually I decided to 'fine' him. Every 'bad deed' has a price. I write down the amount (in code) in a notepad, and then once a month I draw it out and stick it into my bank account. I've found that I don't feel at all (well, almost not at all) stressed anymore.

AIBU?

Love it. Great idea. Might implement myself and yes, there is a correct way to load the dishwasher.

I'm just laughing at DH thinking of me thieving his wages for the last 12 years

I mean, FFS worra, the man's loading the dishwasher incorrectly, I would be doing more than just fining the fucker

Are you lot serious?? Good Lord, what a bunch of catsbum mouths. It's a few quid. I haven't pawned his precious things!

The correct way to load a dishwasher, is to turn the cups upside down, not leave them the right way up to fill with rank water. Or is that OK?

Do you spend it all on sweets OP?

I would.

You could try withdrawing wifely affection instead

Or you could try ignoring the petty things - I am delighted when anyone puts anything in our dishwasher I don't really care how its stacked all gets washed the same doesn't it.

Don't wipe the work tops = 35p
Leave shavings in sink = 42p
Skipping bits in kids story = 38p
Cancel my recording progs on Sky + = £1.88
Don't strum when you mow = £0.78
Leave socks on floor = 26p

Ha ha, classic.

Ask us what we think, not like the answer, then fling a few insults around.

I have no idea as I don't own a dishwasher.

If it's just a few quid, surely the whole thing is pointless and you'd be much better off sorting the problem with him?

Don't offer me a cuppa when kettle's boiled = £2.27

I think it's inspired!
Wouldn't work here as we have joint accounts, but I'm loving it. It's the fiscal version of cleaning the loo with his toothbrush

'It's weir to 'tell' another adult how to load a dishwasher.

Is your way the only 'correct way'?

Does the washer function the way he does it or won't it work at all?'

No it's not weird to tell an adult how to load a dishwasher if they're doing it incorrectly.

My way is the correct way for me.

It functions when he does it, but the pots are full of dirty water residue. Are you telling me that wouldn't piss you off after the 100th time of telling your DH not to do it? When you have to re-wash dirty cups over and over again? That wouldn't pique you? not even a tad?

Yanbu! I would love to find a way to get him to actually do the things he ignores without a fight. Talk to him? Pfffft. As if that wasn't the first thing you tried!

Someone has either just finished reading "The Pile of Stuff at the Bottom of the Stairs" or really should start.

So, you don't like the way he does things, so you "fine" him - such small amounts that he doesn't notice - errr, is there actually a point?

No cats bums mouth here, if you were joking, id think it was quite funny, but if you are not, then actually, its a bit sad actually.

Why do all you finehaters think all problems can be solved by talking? Ludicrous!

Ach it's just a bit of fun. Yanbu.

I would do it too, but we have separate accounts. So I just do stuff like hide chocolate and eat it when he's not looking.

Things like not putting all the cutlery in their separate slots in the basket are pretty crucial to the running of a happy home worra

2 years from now someone will start another "famous flamings" thread and this is going to be number one on it.

Good luck OP!

'So, you don't like the way he does things, so you "fine" him - such small amounts that he doesn't notice'

They're not all small . Depends on the severity.

And you're not all cat bum mouths, thankfully. I was starting to worry!

It functions when he does it, but the pots are full of dirty water residue. Are you telling me that wouldn't piss you off after the 100th time of telling your DH not to do it? When you have to re-wash dirty cups over and over again? That wouldn't pique you? not even a tad?

I wouldn't rewash the dirty cups...he would because the mistake was made by him.

I get now that this is supposed to be a funny thread...since you drip fed the 50p etc

But in all honesty, you sound as though you're living with a spoilt child and that needs to be sorted before it wears so thin, it drives you insane though I suspect you are already

Musttidyup that made me laugh! I'd add:

Eats all the bread: 84p

Uses last of loo roll without replacing: £5.92

Leaves tea cup in random place: 16p

Although I'm laughing about it, my mum was of the thinking that any way but hers was wrong, which meant dad could never win.

It was very controlling.

The mind boggles

Oh so its not all small amounts then? Then it goes back from being a bit pathetic to disrespectful and quite frankly, a little bit cuntish - but hey, as long as you think its all a bit of a joke. Which, i suspect, actually it is, and thanks, because Mrs Browns boys was boring me

'Yanbu! I would love to find a way to get him to actually do the things he ignores without a fight. Talk to him? Pfffft. As if that wasn't the first thing you tried!'

Precisely. I got sick of endlessly, pointlessly repeating myself. So he's happy 'cos I'm pretty much off his case, and I'm happy too.