to over-rule DH over letting our kids take part in an activity.

[freddiefrog]

Our girls are 11 and 7. They have been invited to take part in an activity which I really don't want them to do.

I'm not a stick in the mud, I let them do lots of things I'm not entirely comfortable with but this particular activity I really don't want them to do - I don't think it's particularly safe for children of their ages and I don't think theyre strong enough to get themselves out of trouble if anything happens. There will be back up but it's not enough for me.

DH wants them to do it. Kids aren't bothered either way.

We're currently going round in circles arguing about it

I usually go along with things as I know the girls will enjoy them and let them get on with it while watching through my hands with gritted teeth, but this activity really scares me and I 100% do not want them to take part so I've said no.

DH thinks I am being unreasonable and he should also have a say. I do agree with him, and in all other areas we do discuss things and take a decision together, but we're never going to agree or come to a compromise on this one

120 kids from 7 to 16?! I'd missed that detail. FFS, they need a fleet of safety boats to cope with that. Sounds dangerously complacent.

Yanbu at all - poor you. We had similar recently with an activity I did not want my dcs to do and dh did (was discussed at length on here - all very helpful). I put my foot down, dh was apoplectic, I knew I had done the right thing BUT it has driven a real wedge between us, I am sad to report. Only you know your kids and dh and the full details of the trip, but it sounds too much for dcs aged 7 and 11. Good luck.